First, let me clarify a few things:
Posts will NOT be deleted, and neither will accounts. It is standard practice not to delete accounts, and as for the posts themselves, while we routinely remove posts that falsely accuse people of scamming, that is not the case here. The.posts are legitimate, and we are talking about a scammer, period. Removing posts about an active scammer only serves to eliminate a warning that may save other victims and potential victims. If you want to throw your own life away on a scammer, we can't stop you--but we can certainly do our best to stop you from bringing others down with you.
If the person calling himself Brian Graham is going to continue to maintain that the posts are false, and he would like them removed, he can contact myself or Bryon. Either one of us would be happy to have a chat with him to give him the opportunity to verify his identity.
As Alan has already stated, the more information you provide, the more evidence we can provide that you are dealing with a scammer. But in reality, there is already no doubt whatsoever.
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and swims like a duck--it's a duck.
If it combines an over-the-top online romance approach with copied romantic emails, photos of a soldier, a fake location, and a fictional military email address, it's a scam. It really is that simple. It is a scenario we have dealt with
thousands of times.
I truly think this site had to maintain a negative response to all posts or they would lose credibility,
Do you have any idea how illogical this sounds? It's the sort of rationalization that a scammer will use to try to convince his victim that the warnings are wrong. Scamwarners is not a paparazzi or gossip site. We don't score points for accusing more people of wrongdoing. The credibility of a site like ours is based entirely on the
quality and accuracy of our information. If someone is not a scammer, then we will say so, period, and in most cases we will remove the topic. Falsely declaring someone to be a scammer is no more accurate than declaring a real scammer innocent--either will reduce the credibility of the site and will negatively impact the work that we do. It's simply not how we work.
We are volunteers at scamwarners. We are not paid, and we spend our own time (and often money) for the sole purpose of preventing people from being victimized by these scams, and that includes the victims whose photos and identities are used in these scams. We do it because we care. Nobody posting here benefits, financially or otherwise, from calling someone a scammer or from ANY part of what we do. Our goal here is to help you to understand the truth, however unpalatable it may be, in hopes of preventing further harm to you.
On the other hand, the scammer has a clear financial incentive here. He needs to convince you that he is real (or that he is a threat if he chooses to go in that direction) in order to financially benefit. In his case, everything he says is for the purpose of hooking his victim tightly enough to get back to the money, which is his true goal. He is without conscience. He sees the women he scams only as a means to an end, and he will say whatever he thinks will get him to that end without blinking. He will tell you he loves you, offer you a future, knowing that he never intends to deliver, without hesitation. He will send you fake certificates, forms, or letters. If he can find video of the man in the photos or a similar-looking man, he will create fake webcam for the sole purpose of convincing you he is real. He will make up nonsense about military policy to explain his demands. When accused, he will declare his innocence, tell you that the world does not want you to be happy, say that a woman who accuses him is an unstable ex (and he will say the same about you to other victims.) He will even threaten you and your family if he thinks that better serves his purpose.
While I expect these words will not mean much right now if you are still listening to the scammer's lies, i hope that you will think about them:
-when he is asking you send bogus emails to fake military addresses (the real US military would have absolutely NO contact with you)
-when he asks you to pay imaginary fees for leave, phone, retirement (none of which the soldier pays for,) -when he asks you to receive or send money for him because he can't access his funds (another common scammer lie about soldiers, and another tactic which makes you an accomplice to the scammer in his crimes)
-when he is telling you that he needs you to send money for his child's medical emergency (soldiers' families have military-provided healthcare)
-when he asks you to send money to his child's nanny (soldiers cannot leave children with nannies to go overseas.)
-when he invents any other story that somehow can only be fixed by your money.
I see two key support members who have tried very hard to make the truth known in this thread. They see a victim who appeared to be starting to see the truth, headed right back into the clutches of a low-life thieving con artist. That is very frustrating to them because they do care, and their frustration shows in their posts. I hope that someday you understand that, and I hope that day comes before you find yourself both lonely and bankrupt.
