Too good to be true?

Benjamin04, glad you came here to scamwarners. I have an awful lot of guys on dating sites lately telling me they're from the UK. I think it's to instill a level of trust, as if they can't justify being in the US so the UK sounds like a good alternative. Please pay close attention and I'm sure you will find out this person is a scammer. Usually if you suspect it and you come here for info, you find out you are right. Keep in touch and tell us more as you know it.

Hi Smith Jones

Thank you for your message. I actually didn't think of that, that they say they are British rather than American, that's a good and interesting point actually, thanks for that. I have e-mailed this guy but he only replies to me via the site we chat on, he never e-mails me back, just answers what I e-mailed him about on the site. He seems a bit cagey today and has only answered me with 'Oh have a nice day at work'.

You will find scammers are very short on details. They ask a lot of questions of us- what did we eat, what did we do, where did we go, give the details. It's because they have no details to provide on their side. It was interesting when I went through my chat logs with my scammer. I thought we had deep and meaningful conversations. Nope! Very little substance, mainly focusing on romance and pretty words to make sure I felt loved and adored.
The whole reason for the attention is to set up the relationship and get you involved with them. Mine built our relationship slowly before he ever asked for money. By then I gave it out of compassion. Who wouldn't want to help a good friend, especially one who loves you?
Sorry if this beyond the stage you are at. I just know if you are on dating sites and you catch one, others are lined up behind to try their method. I'm glad you're here to get educated.

I have looked at the messages you forwarded.

I agree, the English is much better than that of the typical African scammer, and there is nothing in the ones you sent that tell me he is African.

But, with that said...We do see some scammers, especially those in South Africa, who do have significantly better English. And for someone claiming to be a married man, he is certainly treading a line, particularly in the photo request. I would be extremely careful about this--there are also scammers (not necessarily African) who don't follow the traditional scam route, but instead try to get you to compromise yourself with your words and photos, and then just go to straight blackmail.

Hi Smith Jones & Dotti

Thank you both for your help and advise, it certainly makes sense in what you both say. The last week this guy had been really friendly, writing to me 6 or 7 times a day and with no requests for money or a relationship he seemed ok, he spoke alot about problems with his Wife and said I was a good listener, he spoke very little about his job but I put that down to confidentiality and I didn't ask him anything. Today he seems 'bored' with me judging by his messages so I will see what happens and maybe I will just phase out my messages and see what he does. I would like to know his reason for not allowing me to write to him, a poor lie to say that he can't accept mail from outside the US, I checked with my friend and her Grandson is American and serving in the Air Force in Afganistan and she writes to him every week from England. I am so tempted to tell him I know he can accept mail but then do I really want to get that involved?, not really. But part of me wants to tell him I'm not stupid, don't treat me like an idiot and don't tell lies. I will keep you updated and thanks again.