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As Bryon said, he's not coming.

He can't come "back" because he was never here in the first place. Nigeria is his home. He sits at a computer and hides behind stolen photos, fake names, and copied words, and spends his days trying to convince women halfway across the world that they are in a relationship so that he can steal their money.

He does this because he wants money without actually working hard for it and he has no problem whatsoever with stealing it.

But in reality, he hides behind all this fake stuff because he is a coward. He knows the risk of getting caught is very low. International investigations are very complicated and expensive, so chances are the victim's country won't pursue an investigation, especially since the amount of money lost is typically less than the cost of the investigation (they will go after his accomplices in their own country, if he has any they can trace)--and even if they located him, there is a good chance that the police in his area are corrupt, and they can be bribed if he is caught.


Even if he could get a visa to travel, even if he had the money, he wouldn't be safe any more. There would be a record of his travels; he would be seen by security at airports, and even be caught on camera. He would be seen by taxi drivers or car rental agencies. And if he attempted to do harm to one of his victims, he wouldn't be safe any more. The authorities here would pursue him, and they would arrest him. He would not be able to bribe his way out of any situation. So he sends threatening words, in hopes that he can scare you into sending money out of fear. But in reality, he is just a coward who wouldn't follow through, even if he could.

Hi linmarietaylor, I am so glad you came here to scamwarners and got the help you needed. That may have seemed like the only hard part but I'm guessing there is another aspect to this that is hard for you. You were in contact with this scammer for a month. He told you he was a soldier and coming home soon from Afganistan. He was probably someone who was romancing you, telling you how wonderful you are and how thankful he was to have you in his life to talk to. And you felt the same way. The money part is taken care of. Now you need to take care of your heart and your hurt feelings. If you were willing to work out the money situation, you were looking forward to actually being with this person, And that will now never happen. You probably miss talking to him and the threats are a real awakening for you. It's the same for any of us who have been romance scammed. It is all so good while they are weaving their lies, making us feel great, we get those visions of a new life and how great it will be. But it will never come to pass. It was all just built on fairy tales to get you to the very point you were at- sending him money or helping him launder money. And look what he did- he even had another woman pulled into the mix.
Please take time to really look at this. Look at what he did to you and how he made you feel. You will feel angry, upset, foolish, all kinds of emotions that take time. Make sure you read about the payment scheme, as many who have been scammed before find themselves in contact with a scammer again. You deserve better than all this. You were smart enough to check this all out and stop the madness. if there's anything we can do with your healing process, let us know.