by dafwashere
Sat Nov 26, 2016 9:44 pm
@Terminator5 @Bryon Williams @robertoc8848
Thanks for your feedback and input.
I realize what I did was stupid and I've learned a good lesson here about staying in my shoes. I let myself get a little reckless and it's got me completely freaked beyond belief. All day my head has been on a swivel and until I put some time behind this without any repercussion, I'm going to feel that way. The thought of potentially loosing my freedom just because I acted dumb is a lesson I won't soon forget. I've never had someone reach out like that to me and it has changed my perspective. I'm hopeful it's a complete scam and not something real. It's going to be many days/weeks before I can even start to feel 'normal' again.
To date there's been no further calls or text, but of course I've blocked those methods of communication so I don't expect anything. If anything changes I'll update my post.
Just a few more notes here from what happened and some things I've learned:
- The girl spent several texting sessions talking about 'family'. It led me to believe it was completely real
- On the first attempt to contact me via phone: The girl said she did try to 'call' once, or so she said. No message was left and she immediately followed the call with a text that said she had a few minutes and wanted to try and 'touch base'. I'm wondering if this was the first step in seeing if I had a valid phone #
- The girl talked about needing a new phone, again because her phone didn't work well in the city because of 'trees'. And that she even went to the store to check this out. Again, seemed credible and lent to the realness
- Because of the phone not 'working' well, I lured myself into giving her my Gmail address. A move that now seems completely dumb and another connection point. However I was NEVER contacted by the Gmail account, maybe because my text and phone were found to be valid. That Gmail (and it's links) are completely dead now.
- She asked for my pictures outside of the Fling website, however my pictures were clearly there ON the Fling site, so she knew what I looked like. My first picture to her - a completely 'G' rated picture - took a couple days for her to respond to, and even then only after me asking if she got it. Then she came back with 'oh you're not too old for me' and we ramped up on the casual conversations about who she was and all.
- She said she had graduated high school and was taking a year off. She was going to start college in the spring, again lending to the credibility and verification that she was the age she said she was (19) at the beginning.
- one texting session she discussed about how she was learning to bake with 'grams'. They were baking things a a fairly significant rate, now that I recall. Also they were baking things late in the evening, but I paid no mind. Again, credibility.
- The girl was extremely provocative at times asking 'don't keep me in suspense' and 'show me what I'm gonna have' when asking me for more risqué pictures. This lured me into going beyond my usual previous 'G' rated pictures and set the stage for all this.
- I made the mistake of deleting all the text messages, including the age she said she was without saving at least the texts themselves. I wish now I had done this, including the request to 'call and discuss the situation' from the stepfather. At least that would have given me piece of mind that I had the data for any future need. Maybe this is a red herring, but it would have made me fell better
- Before I found this site, I did respond to the 'father' that left the v-mail and texted to kick off the insanity that I feel now. I responded with 'I'm sorry', the fact that the girl liked my profile on a PAID dating site, that the girl stated she was 19, and that I would block and delete the number permanently with no further contact. I don't know if this helped or hurt, but at the instant in time, I was completely sideswiped. I now realize maybe I did not need to do this
- When you block phone calls from iPhone, they still will ring ONCE, then go straight to v-mail. They are placed in a 'Blocked Message' folder. Learned this by researching what blocking means on iPhone. Android is similar
Again, thanks for the feedback and helping at least to get my head a little better situated. It did seem weird that it's been so long since the images were shown, then no contact, then bam the sky falling. I know if I was a dad and found that, I'd be doing more sooner and not 'waiting till after Thanksgiving' to call and 'discuss'.
If I have ANY changes I'll provide that data.
