by Sheknowsit
Fri Jul 09, 2010 3:43 am
Be aware of Robert Degen / Robert Alex!
Name used: Robert Degen / Robert Alex
Phone no.: +2348134332785
Address: 67 baley road, Ipodo, Lagos
Country: Nigeria
I write down my story to warn every woman to fall for this man and – what’s more important – warn them not to send money to this scammer!
Here we go:
He gave me a message to my search on April 12th 2010 at a German single-site called single.de.
That what stood out was that his message was very different than the others that I get. But because I liked the photos and the things that he wrote, I answered him. Here it is:
kakarka
Robert james degen,
50 Jahre, männlich
bremen, Bremen (~231 km)
Ich möchte eine Beziehung - I want a relationship
Ich interessiere mich für Frauen - I'm interested in women
I am passionate about life, love, romance and faithfulness, and learning about evolving, being genuine, caring and kind, enjoying quality time with my small family and close friends whenever possible. I am passionate about generating peace, joy, cherished
Am new at this and have not experienced any dating site but It would be grand to infinitely connect; intellectually, emotionally and intimately with my absolute match; a wise companion and best friend evolving to create rich experiences with life ~ a trustworthy woman who is intuitive , respectful, relatively content with life and so ready to enrich it with a life-, one whom her mate regardless of circumstance feels she has achieved a measure of success (whatever significance that may be for), A woman of substance who persevere to the mist of challenges, I love a woman who can laugh, loves learning and caring, one who is in pursuit of a lifetime unique partner like me to compliment her
kakarka, 12.04.10 18:44 Uhr
Hello,
I hope this mail finds you in good health,your profile speaks volumes and if it is an exact representation of yourself, i guess you're an interesting person, Thought I'd stop and say hello and perhaps get to know each other,it would be great to know more about you because i feel an adult communication should be based on communication between both parties and not some pre -determined exchange of pleasantries .i read your profile several times and i feel you are a mature woman who definitely knows what she wants; will be looking forward to a mature correspondence with you. tell me more about yourself my email is [email protected] Look forward to the opportunity to correspond.waiting for your next correspondence
Regards,
Robert
After my answer our correspondence via e-mail began. Please note that the words are more or less the same than the mails that “The Echantress” get!!! And please note that he’s using the names “Robert Alex” and “Robert Degen” in the different mails!!!
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 29.04.2010 13:16
Betreff: My Backgro und?( from single.de )
Hello xxxxx,
How are you doing today?hope you had a wonderful week,yes i got your message and thanks for writing to my private email because you believed in my idea that that's its better to communicate through private email than the platform because its going to make thing better and i promise you wont regret trying this,am very sorry i Cullan reply before now but it was due to my work and the present project am working on at the moment,thanks for your compliment and i must say that you mail did what you wanted it to do ...i got a first impression of you and i feel you are an interesting person that i would love to have a correspondence with...i understand perfectly all what you wrote and i want you to know am a open person so don't hesitate to ask me any question too.don't be surprised i wrote in english language from the beginning,its because i feel this is the best medium to express myself because i was raised bilingually and am so happy you understood what i wrote perfectly too.
..i also want to let you know that i am on a business trip to the u.k which will determine if i have a contract am bidding for or not,so in my next email i will tell you more about my job,i have attached 3 recent picture more of me to this email just for you to see who is behind this words so don't be surprise i find your profile interesting because all i seek is a relationship based on realities of life and a woman of substance whom i can live happily with for the rest of my life..i have been alone for 4 years now and i think i deserve to be happy again and find a partner so i feel i should tell you more about my background so you would see where i am coming from.I was born in Salzburg, Austria on the 15th of December 1960 to the Badeni family in a very traditional setting where we believe the Father is the head of the home and the mom is a strong helper and friend who jointly agree before decisions are taken as the only child of my parents.My parents were disciplinarians
and this kind of made me a loner as a kid but i picked lessons in everyday experiences and it has helped to make me what I am today. My parents fell out of love and it finally resulted to a divorce with me going back to the U.K with my Mom because she was given custody after they divorced legally. Had my high school and college in the UK and finished from the University of Liverpool with a degree in mechanical engineering. Later majored in computer aided designs and solid modeling. My mom brought me up on moral principles and always told me that the world was guided by this principle"doing onto others what exactly you want others to do onto you" she believed so strongly on them that i guess it was hammered one way or the other into my brains. She died a few days before my convocation which hurt a lot and made things quite difficult for me.
As soon as i graduated, i got a job at the Byrne Group which was a bit too much exposure for a young man just out of the University. I later settled in; working for one of the UK's leading construction company helped a lot to make me a very competitive and hardworking professional. Work took most of my time and i rarely had free time for myself. I kind of even forgot that i was still single until the age of 26 when i finally met the woman of my dreams. Trudy was a very beautiful woman and was very intelligent also; i met her at a Baseball game on one of my vacations in the States. My team was losing and there was this big frown on my face; she turned to me, smiled and told me to cheer up that life was all about winning some and losing some and that if the downs did not come, the up's would not be appreciated. I fell in love with her instantly. We started seeing each other more often, dated, until we finally got married in 1985. Worked in the UK for two more years befor
e moving to the States. We were blessed with a wonderful baby boy in 1986, jaycob is a good boy growing up,considering the fact that I and my wife were very busy people and really did not get to spend quality time with him. My Ex was a Gynecologist and work was as demanding for her as it was for me. Most of our vacations were spent in Austria, Paris and South Africa to mention a few.
I now work freelance and have handled a few projects on CAD in the States, Europe and Africa.I love to read, take hikes, travel, spend quality time with my son, learn new cultures and generally anything that sounds like fun. I believe in love, hope, sincerity, self esteem, commitment, compromise.. I believe in dreams, hard work, persistence, lending a helping hand and making the world a better place. I also believe the best way to love is to love like you've never been hurt. I believe time is nothing and that the desire to love is everything ...i understand the fact that we both have personality and we deserve time of our own so i want you to know that i am 100% ready for a new and mature relationship.
I will like to know more about you too before telling you some more about me too and i want to assure you that i will like to meet you because i think we have similar interest and desires because mine is to be happy and never be lonely like i have been for too long...well i understand you and i know what it takes to have survived all those difficult times you said you have passed through but i want you to know that those times had only made you stronger and a better person you are today.
Let me know if you would like to have my number because i would like to have yours,add me on yahoo if you have a way of downloading it and lets talk
Best regards,
Robert
http://i898.photobucket.com/albums/ac190/She_knows_it/robert18.jpg
http://i898.photobucket.com/albums/ac190/She_knows_it/robert6.jpg
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 04.05.2010 00:55
Betreff: Some more about me ...
Hello XXXXXX,
Good evening to you and before i start i will say a very big thank you for you response and also thank you for your mobile number too,i will call or text you tomorrow,how was your weekend? you have written so much and it touches me so much because you wrote with so much passion and i can feel how much you want these things you talk about and i understand perfectly everything you have written and i just want you to know that all those things you passed through had made you stronger and made you a better person that you are today.well i really liked your email and i enjoy every bit have known about you so far because you were true with your wants and i like people that are direct and straight forward.i am 100% ready for a new relationship too.
My business trip is going on fine and i hope to be through soon so we can plan on meeting if this work's really great like i wished,do you like pets or have you any ?I like pets and i have 2 dogs,
I am very sorry about the death of your love ones and i want you to know that everything happens for a reason and its a good thing that you have overcome the pain,sometimes we loose good things just to find better ones so when i lost my parents i have always prayed to meet a partner that is loving and caring like my late mom because he was loving and thoughtful ,my son is doing good too and he just left home to be on his own so that why i see more reason why i need a partner in my life because i don't want to live the rest of my life lonely,i don't mind relocating if i find the right woman at the right time.
I would like to know more about you because i am a man of principles and .i want to tell you that you seems like a wonderful person who know what she want.I honestly don't know why i decided to write you but something deep down in me told me you were special so i decided to give it a shot and see if my gut feeling was right. I'm currently on my biggest and most Adventurous International Business trip but that don't mean i travel a lot
So let me tell you some more about me i think you should know.. I don't smoke and i don't keep beards, I'm usually clean shaven, and I'm always very direct and straight forward, I tell you whats on my mind when i feel it and this has made me a very honest person naturally. I'm 6ft'2 tall,I'm also a very optimistic and open minded person and this has been a trait in me that has always attracted people to me. You sound like you have a very interesting personality and i really would like for us to see where this leads because a solid relationship is all about understanding.and before i forget i want to tell you that you look fabulous and smart in your picture
What are the qualities and traits you want from your man because as for me all i am searching for is my dream woman, I'm an Open book, so don't hesitate to ask me whatever you want to know about me.we can chat on msn or yahoo if you have a way you can download it.
Tel..+2348134332785
I hope to read from you soon.
James
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 04.05.2010 01:29
Betreff: Almost forgot
Did i tell you my full name in case you need it.....its Robert james allen...whats yours ?
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 06.05.2010 14:36
Betreff: Expressing true feelings?
Hello XXXXXX,
How was your trip to fulda and i hope you are having a productive
day there anyway,thanks for the well detailed email,i want to ask if
you can find a way to chat on yahoo messenger because i feel we need to
have a personal conversation and i want to let you know yahoo don't
need a fast connection to chat,i thought i should write you before i
go for a long walk,thanks for your openness and your trust to give me a
chance to know more about you and i promise to be totally open to you
too about everything am doing here and my plans for the future,i will
write you an email later about my job,the project and why am so happy
about it ,I honestly have to tell you this "this online thing is
turning out to be way more than i hoped for" since i started exchanging
mails with you,am 100% ready to date again and right now i begin to
have some feelings for this online dating whenever i get a mail or text
from you,don't be surprised i said you are an interesting person
because i can feel that from your words and i really want to meet you
when i get back soon because i will be spending just 2 weeks or less
here due the urgency of the contract.....you are very right with your
points about who you are and this is the one of the most important
thing i have learn in previous relationship "its better to accept your
partner the way he/she is instead of trying to change the person
because we cant be the same and we can be perfect thats why we are
humans so the best way is to love perfectly with all the imperfections
of the person"....i understand perfectly all what you wrote and i like
cats too,i like soccer and i have a favorite team which is
Barcelona(Spain),i like any slow music with great melody but i think i
prefer the text of a song to its rhythm !
I cant believe i have found a woman that think just exactly
like me,a woman who knows what she wants and her reason for her
desires..well XXXXXX lets make the best of this because i have always
been positive about . i believe in destiny alot and i want a woman who
is able to forget about material things and focus on the important
parts of life, someone i can count on to always support me, give me
space to be my own person, and who can handle life's frustrations or
momentary setbacks with a patient, steady, demeanor. It would also be
nice of her to be someone who is generous with her compassion,
attention, sympathies and love. Someone who is Intimate enough to share
their deepest emotional thoughts and desires, someone who is
comfortable giving and receiving affection. Being gentle and kind are
also traits that attract me, I also like to have a partner that enjoys
staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close
friends. And most of all i must feel deeply in love and attracted to
her.
I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me,
someone who is so tightfisted as to be impractical. Other things you
can find on my turn off list include being Judgmental, Pessimistic,
Self centered and Mean spirited. Infidelity, Vanity and being
unreliable could also send me packing at extreme stages. i hope am not
asking for too much because my Idea of an Open Adult Partnership has
nothing to do with swinging, swapping, threesomes or multiple partners.
I need someone to love and grow old with, My dream is to fly with her
making love, to die from her touch, to feel my heart race when she
looks at me, to love her for all my life! To give Her everything
without asking anything back, to care about Her, to laugh with Her and
to cry together, to dream about her, when she will not be near me, to
live for Her!. someone to hold on , someone to lean on, someone who
could be there for me as i will for her, To love each other deeply and
never let go of each other in sickness and health, For richer for
poorer, I believe the right woman of my dream is somewhere out there,
What i want from love is a lifetime of affection and passion days of
conversation laughter and play nights of intimate caresses and romantic
interplay a partner in every way whether an escort for a social affair
or cuddling in a leather recline chair, a shoulder to cry on in times
of distress, a cheering section for every success a woman whose smile
brightens my day. What i want is a love that's true. I need a wonderful
sharing, caring relationship. Knowing each others thoughts, needs,
desires. Caring for the other person more than yourself. Shared
experiences, people, places, things. Doing all as partners, not always
together physically, but always spiritually, I believe in my dreams and
my dreams are very simple from one side and very hard to come to life
from another! My dream is to find a woman who is able to love and who
really needs to be loved.I read all our correspondence again i feel
fulfilled and its been a long while i have had a stimulating
communication. So I think this would be a good time to tell you that
every time i get a mail from you i like the person am reading about
even more.I hope it turns out to be realistic. I'm free for the most of
tomorrow so i intend to stay on the computer well tomorrow after work
so i guess we can have a long chat.
I know from the way i rambled on in my past emails to you
about my job and why am so busy here, you might think it is the
culmination of my dream and where i invest almost all of my energy,
well the truth is I like my job but my focus is elsewhere.I usually
trust people until proven wrong. I am quite contented with where i am
today but i also have clear goals i want to achieve and sometimes i
consider myself ambitious. With the exception of a couple areas, I am
extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires,I
will like to know more about what you do for a living(job) and more
about it,i hope you like what you do and when you like what you do you
can hardly consider your job "work", if you know what I mean.
I have a feeling that what i have wish for all my life is
about to come my way when i registered on the site so i want to take my
profile off but it all just depend on you and what you feel about us
because i like taking one step at a time. I know its difficult to
ascertain what type of person someone is from just exchanging emails
but with you I feel like I know you for a while. I don't know why I
felt compelled to tell you that but its the truth. For the first time
in a very long time I feel like I've found someone special. I hope you
feel the same way because you fail to open up to me and let me know
more about you and the basic qualities you posses.i want you to be open
with me because i will be open to you too and i will tell you
everything about my life.
Have you read the book "The Law of Attraction" ? Maybe this short movie will be interesting for you:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=DE&hl=d ... re=related
Bye for now and hope to read from you later today.can you send me your address?i think i have a surprise coming your way.
with love and affection,
Robert james Degen
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 09.05.2010 02:21
Betreff: Am worth a try !
Dearest XXXXXX,
Good morning to you and i hope you had a wonderful day,i am so sorry that i didn't return back online as promised so we can chat...but before i write much i would like to thank you very much for the e card you sent me ..i read them and tears fell from my eyes not because am not happy but just because my dream is finally coming through when i expected it least too,i love the picture you sent me of your mom ,brother and yourself,its just great and its my laptop screen saver picture now so i can see your every time i look at my computer...i just wanted you to know how much this correspondence means to me because i am ready to be committed to this and put in my all but i know that there is probably very little i can say to change your mind either way about people in general maybe due to your past experience or how people had betray the trust you exude to them but i want to assure you in advance too that i will never lie to you and i know that a relationship is like a plant that needs to be taken care of...am not totally discounting the possibility that the way i feel about you could be reciprocated but as i have very little luck in this area in the past my hopes are fairly small before despite the fact i feel free to open up everything about my life to you but you have given me a reason to be assured and calm that am in the safest of hands.
I wanted to put into words my feelings,wish, and dreams all in the hope of getting to know each other better, although you may not hear the words from my lips but i want you to know that i care deeply and i would never want to stop getting to know you more better than what we have shared between each other in just little time we have known,I feel that given the chance this could turn into more, but I guess that will depend on us and how you feel about me when we finally meet.I can't pinpoint what exactly it is that makes me feel that you do have some feelings towards me, Maybe it's due to the way you have always cared with your words.....I wish I could vocalize my feelings totally to you but my fear prohibits me so much and i think that by the time i finally gain the courage, that you will be with someone else. My biggest fear is that i would tell you and i would see a look of fear on your face that would break me.please don't be scared and i also want you to now that my expectation is high not because i want so much in my woman but because i have been single for so long and am tired of being lonely ..i need a woman like you in my life.
Thank you so much for telling me how you feel about this and i promise i will send you a detailed email about what am doing here too.i wish i could tell you how every time i log on my computer and i don't get a mail from you,I fear that I will never get any massage from you again I just want to protect you so much.... thanks for opening up to let me know everything about your life. I know its not easy but i still believe that i could be good for you, if only you could return my feelings. I know i may not be the best looking man but all i could offer you is my heart if you are ready to do the same.dear i understand perfectly what your wary are and i can assure you that i would never hurt you for no reason because this is what i have looked for all my life,someone who shares similar interest with me and whom i can trust with all that i am ...i want you to know that the best way to love is to love like never being hurt..so in that regards i want you to be open and dance like no one is watching XXXXXX because everyone has fault but i will accept you with yours
As i said before, you may never know the true extent of my feelings although I would imagine you have some doubts.This may be a crush or infatuation but i swear to you that it does not feel like it, as i have had crushes before but never really felt the kinds of emotions i do for you for someone i have not even seen...I hope that if i can muster the courage to tell you how I feel, that whatever your feelings,Our road to friendship has been a little less then traditional but for some reason i hope it worked for us. I know you will always be there for me and that's one of the reasons i think i really want to get to know you better not just sharing our words alone.
Please don't ever be afraid to be honest with me, because I will always be by your side when you need me...I will be by your side regardless of my status with you. I have never felt so connected to a person in my life; I love just reading your mails over and over.. I don't need 100% of your time, all I need is to know you care,love and affection and you do that already. I love your comforting words and I want to say thank you for loving me the way you do. am so proud i have you and i would cherish the chance to be in your arms forever
With the greatest love of all,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 09.05.2010 16:12
Betreff: How i feel honey
Dearest XXXXXX,
Good afternoon dear,what are you doing at the moment because my thought is always with you....thanks for the chat this morning and for all the audibles in the chat,it was wonderful and fun..I enjoy every minutes we share together and if only we had met at another time in our lives that would have been the best thing that has ever happen to me.i want to assure you about my feelings and also make you understand that its not only my words but this is how i feel from the bottom of my heart and i promise i will never disappoint you. am so happy that we communicate through phone too and not just email alone because we have the opportunity to hear each others voice and feel the emotions in it.I don't have doubts about the future but what i have is fears because i have been heart broken before and now i am very careful with my heart so i will only give my heart to the woman that deserve it and that will make me happy forever as much as i will make her too.i will tell you more about what i do but that will be when i get back from the security company tomorrow so i can tell you in details and the progress i have so far ever since i got here.
In life, there are things that are unexplainable and believe me i never saw this coming. I never saw myself having feelings for someone i have not seen or have any form of physical contact,i never saw myself thinking of someone this much that i just want to talk to her on phone every minutes, nothing comes to my mind because all i want to do is hear her voice and that alone will make me feel alright. I never saw my heart reaching out and getting this much connection i get with you. I never saw myself feeling so safe when i write to someone and letting out all my emotions and fears, i never saw myself staying up late or rushing back to my hotel suites to write a long message just to put a smile on someone's face. You know they say when it comes around, it sweeps you off your feet and no matter how hurt you have been in the past, you always give it a chance. You don't know why and you always cannot explain it but deep down inside, you just know that there is this feeling that only this person makes you feel and you would give your all just to make that person happy. What makes things even crazy is that i am a very calm and collected man who selects his every word with care and stands by what he says,i don't like making commitments to people because i know that once i say it, I'm gonna do it but i find myself ready to make very strong commitments for you because the feeling you give me, i want to continue to feel all my life.
You know when i sat down to type this message, i didn't know what to say or how to express the exact way i feel but with every thought of you, the right words just found their place into writing. I know that you have been hurt in the past and you are finding it difficult to completely open your heart so that you would not be hurt again but i tell you XXXXXX,the best way to love is to love like you have never been hurt. In life, mistakes should not be taken as failure but instead they should be taken as going a step closer to getting it right.Today i take a bold step closer to what i call a better tomorrow by telling you exactly how i feel about you and thats why i put a stop to my searching for a partner because i felt i have found what am looking for,i want you to open up your heart to me like you have always been doing, you have been alone for a while now,you need a man to make you feel like a woman again,a man who wakes up early just to watch you sleep,a man who gets up to prepare coffee for you, someone who knows how tender you are and is ready to treat you like a woman of substance that you are,someone who is ready to accept you not because there is anything spectacular about you but just because you are you.I can write on forever about how i feel about you but maturity would not let me do so.I hope you understand now exactly how i feel about you and i want you to know that am doing all i have to do so that i can be back just to meet you .
The first picture i took today in my hotel suites before going for a walk and the other ones are just about 4 weeks old,hope you like them.
Have a wonderful day and i hope to hear from you soon too
Robert.
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----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 10.05.2010 11:36
Betreff: Situation of things
Dearest XXXXXX,
How are you doing ?how was your night,i got your both text and thanks for the mail,i will reply your mail later when i get more relaxed because right now am facing some little problem here,i just got back from the doctors place just now because my head hurts.i think today is a very bad day for me and i think the earth took still and it happens to be one of my unlucky day ,I have been facing some serious problems since thursday afternoon.I thought I would never have to tell you about what has been going on with me over here as i thought it should be solved on friday or this morning but i am afraid it has not. I thought I would be able to solve all the problems and start making plans of coming back home by next week but this seems impossible, I also don't want you think of me as an unreliable person. So I decided to explain my current situation in details. Some days ago i tried to make a purchase with my credit card and it was declined. When i called my bank back home to find out why the transaction was declined. I was informed that a hold had been placed on my account because they noticed some unusual transactions and withdrawals.
When I told them to release the hold, they politely refused. They insisted that i appear at one of their branches in Person. I told them this was not possible as i was out of the country at the moment. They suggested i visit one of their International Corporate Branches. After I unsuccessfully tried to find one of these since morning. I called my bank again and asked them to give me the location of their Corporate branch in Nigeria. This was when I was told that they did not have one down here. I thought this was not a serious problem because all i need to do is apply for another one and it will get here in a few days.Everything seemed fine until now when the hotel manager called me and said he need a part payment from the bills am owing him and he said its urgent
I am very confused and i really do not know what to do. This is the exact situation of things with me and i felt you should know as i do not want to hide anything from you. Have a wonderful day and i will always be thinking of you.let me know if you can help because they said they will issue another credit card for me but it will take some days to get here.
with love,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 10.05.2010 12:21
Betreff: Thanks you honey
My sunshine,
Thanks so much for your quick reply,i am so sorry for putting my problems on you and i promise you with all that i am that i will return your money back to you in a few days when my new credit card gets here ...i also want you to know that i will always be there for you too if you need my hands. you just proved to me what real commitment is and am so surprised you got my back like you have always promised that why i can explain how much i appreciate and thank you for this ...
Please XXXXXX i would be very happy if you can help me with 500 euro so that i can use that as an advance payment and when my cards get here in a few days i will send that to you back and complete my payment here ...
here is the information you need to send the money so i can get it fast here through western union ...you should find that around you
Name ;Robert Degen
Address;67 baley road,ipodo,Lagos
Country;Nigeria
Amount;500 euro
M.T.C.N; ?
The (MTCN) is the 10 digit secret number i will use to get the money here when you send it
I dont know how to thank you but i know when i meet you nothing will ever seprate us again
With love,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 11.05.2010 09:30
Betreff: You mean so much to me XXXXXX
My Sunshine,
Hey my baby,hope you were able to sleep for a while after our chat last night?...i missed your mail so much and your beautiful and colorful e cards too.. thanks for the chat and for letting me now more about you everyday.i want you to know that i have no where to go to than to be in your arms when i leave here and am ready to spend the rest of my life with you
I know there are miles between us,I never stop thinking of you, you have brought a change into my life and my heart is forever yours.I can never forget you or keep thoughts of you out of my mind. I think of how caring you will be whenever i imagine you saying all those caring words you sent through mails and i want you to know that i like everything I've read about you so far and i truly know we will be compatible. most of my expectations & aspirations is to archive my goals in life and one of them is the project that am working on at the moment and i have made much progress because i was able to get some amazing deals already,i will be working hard today and tomorrow because my consignments will be going through security checks and get insured against theft or fire.
Thoughts of you warm my heart. You complete me, you are everything my heart desire.Many years and many miles have kept us apart for so long it is hard to believe we have found each other . Now we must make time disappear and miles grow shorter because i believe we have so many things in common and we will match perfectly. This feelings started not quite long and will never end.XXXXXX i think it's our turn ... it's our turn to make each other happy. We have grown to understand each other rapidly; let's spend the rest of our lives together. Though we might not completely understand each other at first but my feelings will be true and know that i will always be by your side no matter what.
I understand that there are many things to be worked out, so many things on your mind, I just don't want to waste any valuable time we have left all this years alone. I think of you all day sweetie and i know this more than just been in love,You are so far away, yet so close in my heart. My heart and my body yearns for you. I feel something unconditional for you. I accept all that you are and am ready to give all that is mine, For the first time I have purpose. For the first time I have found someone real.You excite me so much,I have dreams of you and awake aroused. Today I thought of you, when i looked at your picture you sent me i imagined myself with you and it was so vivid ... I will always be yours as long as you want. I am truly lucky indeed to have found such a dear, sweet, loving person as you, a woman, and not just any woman, but such a beautiful, sensual woman who arouses such unbridled passion in me - thoughts of total passion without reserve in giving myself to you completely. I remain yours forever.Even though we are apart for now, my heart will always be with you. As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we are still committed each day is never a waste and the waiting will prove to be worthwhile..........I don't think i would ever feel that way so please don't disappoint me .Lots of love and kisses ... Hope to read from you later today and please dont forget the wonderful e cards..i love them.
lots of love and kisses..
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 12.05.2010 20:25
Betreff: You are in my heart now and alwayz
Hey Honey,
How are you doing?just wanted to drop a note to let you know you are always on my mind,am very tired at the moment because i have worked a whole lot today just to make sure everything goes well.i know I can't give you the whole world but i can promise you one thing and that's my love for you will be forever.i really want a future with you because you have made me feel very different in this few time we have known .I know everything will work out because the love i have for you is so strong and unconditional. My heart is yours and even though am having some problems with my business here i will be strong for you and i know you are right beside me as we chase our dreams together. I think about you all day long and when I'm not near you my mind is consumed with thoughts of being close to you.. When i read all your emails again i feel like everything in the world is right and I know I don't have to ask God for anything because as long I have you in my life I have everything i could ever want.
XXXXXX all i want to do is spend the rest of my life making you as happy as you have made me. You understand me and you know just how to make things right.You will never know just how much i love you,i will like to have a chat with you before i go to bed.
lots of kisses and hugs
Robert
After this mail and the sent copies of his passport I told him that he’s a liar and scammer. But he didn’t surrender...
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 16.05.2010 12:13
Betreff: What bound us
Hello Dear,
XXXXXX i need you to know my feelings for you haven't changed the slightest even if you don't believe me to be who i am or you dont want to have any contact with me anymore maybe due to what someone who don't know anything about me or what i feel for you,you were so judgmental because of his immediate environment or what you have heard about online dating.well i don't feel disappointed in anyway,if you are being true to me about yourself and what you want in life i think you should feel the same but the only thing that could ever make me disappointed is if when i get there on my own and finally meet you and you see am who i said i am.....And this in turn would lead not having 100% trust in you anymore when this happens our relationship is bound to come to an end because true love can not exist without absolute trust and honesty.
I want you to know that everyone cant be a scammer and they are still good people in the world that the bad people use story like us to get money from peoples but i can prove with my life that am nothing close to what you think i am in terms of trying to get money from you..I know that you feel that I want to give up on this relationship because of my problems but i want you to admit i value this and i cant wait to make it reality.i would remember the time when i asked the Lord before we've met, to give me someone i could love with all my heart and would love me in return, someone i can grow old with to spend my happy and lonesome memories, someone who i can call mine and give myself into, and someone whom i can spend the rest of my life with through all ups and downs i promise that whatever struggles we have to endure in our relationship, I would still hold onto our love because i believe that this is just the way of God to teach us to be strong and faithful to each other. That after this trial we will still be together and start our new life together with a better future ahead of us. I thank God for you and thank you for being you.I cherish you now and am sure i will cherish you even more tomorrow
PS : I need you to understand that what i seek is not a relationship based on fantasies and fairy tales but a true companionship based on reality and realistic factors in which we would not expect perfection from each other but instead we would see each others faults and set backs yet we would be able to complement each other so if there is something you dont understand about this whole issue maybe you should come online and lets talk about it and you will see am not a lair
I still care,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 18.05.2010 11:21
Betreff: My heart soar
My dearest,
Good morning to you XXXXXX,when i saw you for the first time on single.de, so simple and doubtful, I was amazed that my heart could still beat that hard, you were the most realistic and caring lady my heart had laid eyes on in a very long time. Before getting to know you i had heard of passion and love and seen it in movies; never dreamed that kind of emotion would ever come to me.
I still remember the way you made me tingle with your funny ways when we first had a chat. I knew from the first words spoken between the two of us that things were never going to be the same for me anymore and that i was going to have to sort out these mysterious feelings that i was having. We had to have time with one another again to help me understand what was happening to me. I needed to figure out how it was that you were able to cast such a spell over me.
After spending time to know you, I now knew how real passion and love can be. You have opened my heart, and opened the gate to a new world for me. Did you know you had such a power? My life is starting to become so different, even if my days seem the same and i must confess that it's you who has changed my outlook. You have opened my eyes to some amazing new possibilities through your achievements and believe. I will forever be filled with a new sense of wonder and joy, because you have shared yourself with me.I must confess that in some ways i feel inadequate too. My mind is questioned; Can i match your gentleness and uniqueness? Can i give you feelings as warm and secure as the ones you have bestowed on me? You have chosen to show me such strong passion combined with secure sweet affection, that i can only hope with time you feel a glimpse of the same emotions from me.
After getting to know you better, and going through some tough times together,my heart missed you badly and wanting you like never before thought that would make us stronger but i was wrong because you opened your side of heart that had so much doubt about finding real love again, Now i know am in a place i have never been before. I'm in a place that is calm and serene, but sad and in pain of loosing the love i have always dream and hoped for, all at the same time This place is neither a state of mind, nor just one of physical being. It is a place where my soul soars. It is a place i share with you...I'm in a place where, my mornings begin with you in my thoughts, and my days end with you in my mind. I'm in a place where, when good things happen, my first reaction is that I'm excited, because I'll get to share them with you. I'm in a place where, when bad things happen, I know that you'll be there to provide comfort and make the world right again with a your simple honest voice if you had called to know if am alright.
I have always hoped that when you hold me in your arms, i will be in a place that i never want to leave, and i pray it is a place i never have to leave. Just know that when you hold me in your arms, I am in the safest, most treasured place in the world.
The sea that parts us is this work of mine, but i gaze at the moon and ask it to reflect my love back to you so far away. You are the answer to my passion and my dreams. I live for seeing you, for being whole with you. Now that you have given me the gift of your love, my appetite for you is endless. Our time together will be very special to me. There are very few moments that a man knows will linger with him for the rest of his life, and you have already given me many. Thank you for being such an extraordinary part of my life. I hope we will continue this journey together.I miss you, my love. Please forgive my foolish words . Accept them as tokens of the emotions you inspire in me. I will wait anxiously to have a chat with you at night. Until then you are in my heart, and in my mind.
Ever dreaming about you, my soul mate,
Robert
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 19.06.2010 23:52
Betreff: You are my everything XXXXXX
Hello darling,
How are you doing? Much better today i guess? I have missed talking to you, the network has been messing up but will defiantly try calling you later tonight.. How is your body now? I really want to take care of you my darling. Is anybody there to assist you? If I could pick any woman in the world to spend every moment of the rest of my life with it would be you XXXXXX and take good care of you cause you are my baby. If I had a choice to have all the treasures in the world or spend my life with you, I would not even think twice... I would be with you cause all the treasure i want in this world i found in you which is happiness. I am not sure how I got so lucky to have you, but I know I am the luckiest man alive.
In all the dreams I've had in life, being with someone as great of a person as you, seemed impossible to find. You are everything I dreamed of and even more. I am writing this to you to tell you in front of the world... I LOVE YOU, XXXXXX ! I will give you my life, my love and share everything I have to offer with you. I will Honor you, cherish you, be loyal to you, and put no one else before you, forever! I will stand by you through all the echos of life and never let go. I know God has something good in store for us. He is not an evil God but a loving God. And when we are in each others arms, that love will be more amazing than what we have now.
XXXXXX whenever we talk and you called me your baby, it really touch my heart wishing i was there to take care of you, even in your sick bed you were still so concerned on how am making it through here in Nigeria. Your loving nature and trust towards me has got the best of me. It hurts that the people who are supposed to know me, try to take my happiness away. You know about my past, you know that I have a hard time trusting, and you know that at times it is hard for me to put my feelings into words, but you still took me and showed me that i am not so damaged but can still love with my heart. XXXXXX most times when am writing you i wonder where all the words are coming from, But since loving you brings food to my soul i don't want to be hungry again. You have treated me better than people that are in my family. You brighten my life. You are my life. My baby, nobody knows what I have had to do to get where I amn today, even including my project and all. Nobody knows what you had to do to get where you are. Nobody knows us, except for us. Baby, Nobody knows the joy we give ourselves when we talk on the phone in odd hours. nobody knows about the things in my past that I had to overcome to trust you. Nobody knows what you had to overcome to trust me. Nobody knows about how scared I was of you because of what one person did to me. But you took my hands and showed me that love is meant for us, and my heart could be mend and reloved to the fullest.
You are my purest defination of love. We have been so close, yet so far apart. No matter where my life takes me, my heart is set on you. Like a blossom growing, our friendship gets stronger everyday. Hanging out everyday has drawn my attention to you, feeling safe and closer makes a part of me happier than the other. All the laughs we have had together on the phone have become a part of my life and you will always remain in my heart forever. I wrote you this letter so that you know how deeply you have touched my heart and for you to get well soon.Joooo
you have come to know me as well, or better than some of my lifelong friends. You have taken the time to want to know me, inside and out, honestly and truly. You made it easy for me to open myself up again, and that allowed me to meet the most honest, loving, beautiful woman in the world.
You have been able to bring out the best in me. You stir up my most passionate, loving emotions. You opened my eyes so that I could see true love, and all that the perfect relationship should embody, all that the perfect woman should embody. honey, you are my perfect woman.
I am so glad to be loved by someone very special like you. I thought all along that nobody can ever make me happy and win my hardened heart until I met you. You've really charged my life and I thank God I am loved and cherished by someone like you. If I come back to this world again I would like to meet you again where we can share the wonderful love we've started. I love you so much, my love. You mean more than anything in this world to me. Thank God I found you at last.XXXXXX everything that I feel runs so deep that I don't care about your past and all the things you've done that you feel you should be ashamed of, because it's unconditional and it will always be here for you through thick and thin. I don't want you to wake up days, months, or years from now, wondering what would have been or could have been.
I think the saying is so true, "Life is not measured by the breaths that we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." Those Cherished moments took my breath away! I will always remember the woman who took my breath away so easily even without meeting her in person. Words come hard to explain how thankful I am that it was you, my love, with whom I shared these cherished moments and down moments with. Thank you seems so small in comparison to the world you've shown me. You are too much my sunshine.
With all the love am able to give too,
Robert
End of part one of my story... to be continued
Name used: Robert Degen / Robert Alex
Phone no.: +2348134332785
Address: 67 baley road, Ipodo, Lagos
Country: Nigeria
I write down my story to warn every woman to fall for this man and – what’s more important – warn them not to send money to this scammer!
Here we go:
He gave me a message to my search on April 12th 2010 at a German single-site called single.de.
That what stood out was that his message was very different than the others that I get. But because I liked the photos and the things that he wrote, I answered him. Here it is:
kakarka
Robert james degen,
50 Jahre, männlich
bremen, Bremen (~231 km)
Ich möchte eine Beziehung - I want a relationship
Ich interessiere mich für Frauen - I'm interested in women
I am passionate about life, love, romance and faithfulness, and learning about evolving, being genuine, caring and kind, enjoying quality time with my small family and close friends whenever possible. I am passionate about generating peace, joy, cherished
Am new at this and have not experienced any dating site but It would be grand to infinitely connect; intellectually, emotionally and intimately with my absolute match; a wise companion and best friend evolving to create rich experiences with life ~ a trustworthy woman who is intuitive , respectful, relatively content with life and so ready to enrich it with a life-, one whom her mate regardless of circumstance feels she has achieved a measure of success (whatever significance that may be for), A woman of substance who persevere to the mist of challenges, I love a woman who can laugh, loves learning and caring, one who is in pursuit of a lifetime unique partner like me to compliment her
kakarka, 12.04.10 18:44 Uhr
Hello,
I hope this mail finds you in good health,your profile speaks volumes and if it is an exact representation of yourself, i guess you're an interesting person, Thought I'd stop and say hello and perhaps get to know each other,it would be great to know more about you because i feel an adult communication should be based on communication between both parties and not some pre -determined exchange of pleasantries .i read your profile several times and i feel you are a mature woman who definitely knows what she wants; will be looking forward to a mature correspondence with you. tell me more about yourself my email is [email protected] Look forward to the opportunity to correspond.waiting for your next correspondence
Regards,
Robert
After my answer our correspondence via e-mail began. Please note that the words are more or less the same than the mails that “The Echantress” get!!! And please note that he’s using the names “Robert Alex” and “Robert Degen” in the different mails!!!
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 29.04.2010 13:16
Betreff: My Backgro und?( from single.de )
Hello xxxxx,
How are you doing today?hope you had a wonderful week,yes i got your message and thanks for writing to my private email because you believed in my idea that that's its better to communicate through private email than the platform because its going to make thing better and i promise you wont regret trying this,am very sorry i Cullan reply before now but it was due to my work and the present project am working on at the moment,thanks for your compliment and i must say that you mail did what you wanted it to do ...i got a first impression of you and i feel you are an interesting person that i would love to have a correspondence with...i understand perfectly all what you wrote and i want you to know am a open person so don't hesitate to ask me any question too.don't be surprised i wrote in english language from the beginning,its because i feel this is the best medium to express myself because i was raised bilingually and am so happy you understood what i wrote perfectly too.
..i also want to let you know that i am on a business trip to the u.k which will determine if i have a contract am bidding for or not,so in my next email i will tell you more about my job,i have attached 3 recent picture more of me to this email just for you to see who is behind this words so don't be surprise i find your profile interesting because all i seek is a relationship based on realities of life and a woman of substance whom i can live happily with for the rest of my life..i have been alone for 4 years now and i think i deserve to be happy again and find a partner so i feel i should tell you more about my background so you would see where i am coming from.I was born in Salzburg, Austria on the 15th of December 1960 to the Badeni family in a very traditional setting where we believe the Father is the head of the home and the mom is a strong helper and friend who jointly agree before decisions are taken as the only child of my parents.My parents were disciplinarians
and this kind of made me a loner as a kid but i picked lessons in everyday experiences and it has helped to make me what I am today. My parents fell out of love and it finally resulted to a divorce with me going back to the U.K with my Mom because she was given custody after they divorced legally. Had my high school and college in the UK and finished from the University of Liverpool with a degree in mechanical engineering. Later majored in computer aided designs and solid modeling. My mom brought me up on moral principles and always told me that the world was guided by this principle"doing onto others what exactly you want others to do onto you" she believed so strongly on them that i guess it was hammered one way or the other into my brains. She died a few days before my convocation which hurt a lot and made things quite difficult for me.
As soon as i graduated, i got a job at the Byrne Group which was a bit too much exposure for a young man just out of the University. I later settled in; working for one of the UK's leading construction company helped a lot to make me a very competitive and hardworking professional. Work took most of my time and i rarely had free time for myself. I kind of even forgot that i was still single until the age of 26 when i finally met the woman of my dreams. Trudy was a very beautiful woman and was very intelligent also; i met her at a Baseball game on one of my vacations in the States. My team was losing and there was this big frown on my face; she turned to me, smiled and told me to cheer up that life was all about winning some and losing some and that if the downs did not come, the up's would not be appreciated. I fell in love with her instantly. We started seeing each other more often, dated, until we finally got married in 1985. Worked in the UK for two more years befor
e moving to the States. We were blessed with a wonderful baby boy in 1986, jaycob is a good boy growing up,considering the fact that I and my wife were very busy people and really did not get to spend quality time with him. My Ex was a Gynecologist and work was as demanding for her as it was for me. Most of our vacations were spent in Austria, Paris and South Africa to mention a few.
I now work freelance and have handled a few projects on CAD in the States, Europe and Africa.I love to read, take hikes, travel, spend quality time with my son, learn new cultures and generally anything that sounds like fun. I believe in love, hope, sincerity, self esteem, commitment, compromise.. I believe in dreams, hard work, persistence, lending a helping hand and making the world a better place. I also believe the best way to love is to love like you've never been hurt. I believe time is nothing and that the desire to love is everything ...i understand the fact that we both have personality and we deserve time of our own so i want you to know that i am 100% ready for a new and mature relationship.
I will like to know more about you too before telling you some more about me too and i want to assure you that i will like to meet you because i think we have similar interest and desires because mine is to be happy and never be lonely like i have been for too long...well i understand you and i know what it takes to have survived all those difficult times you said you have passed through but i want you to know that those times had only made you stronger and a better person you are today.
Let me know if you would like to have my number because i would like to have yours,add me on yahoo if you have a way of downloading it and lets talk
Best regards,
Robert
http://i898.photobucket.com/albums/ac190/She_knows_it/robert18.jpg
http://i898.photobucket.com/albums/ac190/She_knows_it/robert6.jpg
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 04.05.2010 00:55
Betreff: Some more about me ...
Hello XXXXXX,
Good evening to you and before i start i will say a very big thank you for you response and also thank you for your mobile number too,i will call or text you tomorrow,how was your weekend? you have written so much and it touches me so much because you wrote with so much passion and i can feel how much you want these things you talk about and i understand perfectly everything you have written and i just want you to know that all those things you passed through had made you stronger and made you a better person that you are today.well i really liked your email and i enjoy every bit have known about you so far because you were true with your wants and i like people that are direct and straight forward.i am 100% ready for a new relationship too.
My business trip is going on fine and i hope to be through soon so we can plan on meeting if this work's really great like i wished,do you like pets or have you any ?I like pets and i have 2 dogs,
I am very sorry about the death of your love ones and i want you to know that everything happens for a reason and its a good thing that you have overcome the pain,sometimes we loose good things just to find better ones so when i lost my parents i have always prayed to meet a partner that is loving and caring like my late mom because he was loving and thoughtful ,my son is doing good too and he just left home to be on his own so that why i see more reason why i need a partner in my life because i don't want to live the rest of my life lonely,i don't mind relocating if i find the right woman at the right time.
I would like to know more about you because i am a man of principles and .i want to tell you that you seems like a wonderful person who know what she want.I honestly don't know why i decided to write you but something deep down in me told me you were special so i decided to give it a shot and see if my gut feeling was right. I'm currently on my biggest and most Adventurous International Business trip but that don't mean i travel a lot
So let me tell you some more about me i think you should know.. I don't smoke and i don't keep beards, I'm usually clean shaven, and I'm always very direct and straight forward, I tell you whats on my mind when i feel it and this has made me a very honest person naturally. I'm 6ft'2 tall,I'm also a very optimistic and open minded person and this has been a trait in me that has always attracted people to me. You sound like you have a very interesting personality and i really would like for us to see where this leads because a solid relationship is all about understanding.and before i forget i want to tell you that you look fabulous and smart in your picture
What are the qualities and traits you want from your man because as for me all i am searching for is my dream woman, I'm an Open book, so don't hesitate to ask me whatever you want to know about me.we can chat on msn or yahoo if you have a way you can download it.
Tel..+2348134332785
I hope to read from you soon.
James
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 04.05.2010 01:29
Betreff: Almost forgot
Did i tell you my full name in case you need it.....its Robert james allen...whats yours ?
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 06.05.2010 14:36
Betreff: Expressing true feelings?
Hello XXXXXX,
How was your trip to fulda and i hope you are having a productive
day there anyway,thanks for the well detailed email,i want to ask if
you can find a way to chat on yahoo messenger because i feel we need to
have a personal conversation and i want to let you know yahoo don't
need a fast connection to chat,i thought i should write you before i
go for a long walk,thanks for your openness and your trust to give me a
chance to know more about you and i promise to be totally open to you
too about everything am doing here and my plans for the future,i will
write you an email later about my job,the project and why am so happy
about it ,I honestly have to tell you this "this online thing is
turning out to be way more than i hoped for" since i started exchanging
mails with you,am 100% ready to date again and right now i begin to
have some feelings for this online dating whenever i get a mail or text
from you,don't be surprised i said you are an interesting person
because i can feel that from your words and i really want to meet you
when i get back soon because i will be spending just 2 weeks or less
here due the urgency of the contract.....you are very right with your
points about who you are and this is the one of the most important
thing i have learn in previous relationship "its better to accept your
partner the way he/she is instead of trying to change the person
because we cant be the same and we can be perfect thats why we are
humans so the best way is to love perfectly with all the imperfections
of the person"....i understand perfectly all what you wrote and i like
cats too,i like soccer and i have a favorite team which is
Barcelona(Spain),i like any slow music with great melody but i think i
prefer the text of a song to its rhythm !
I cant believe i have found a woman that think just exactly
like me,a woman who knows what she wants and her reason for her
desires..well XXXXXX lets make the best of this because i have always
been positive about . i believe in destiny alot and i want a woman who
is able to forget about material things and focus on the important
parts of life, someone i can count on to always support me, give me
space to be my own person, and who can handle life's frustrations or
momentary setbacks with a patient, steady, demeanor. It would also be
nice of her to be someone who is generous with her compassion,
attention, sympathies and love. Someone who is Intimate enough to share
their deepest emotional thoughts and desires, someone who is
comfortable giving and receiving affection. Being gentle and kind are
also traits that attract me, I also like to have a partner that enjoys
staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close
friends. And most of all i must feel deeply in love and attracted to
her.
I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me,
someone who is so tightfisted as to be impractical. Other things you
can find on my turn off list include being Judgmental, Pessimistic,
Self centered and Mean spirited. Infidelity, Vanity and being
unreliable could also send me packing at extreme stages. i hope am not
asking for too much because my Idea of an Open Adult Partnership has
nothing to do with swinging, swapping, threesomes or multiple partners.
I need someone to love and grow old with, My dream is to fly with her
making love, to die from her touch, to feel my heart race when she
looks at me, to love her for all my life! To give Her everything
without asking anything back, to care about Her, to laugh with Her and
to cry together, to dream about her, when she will not be near me, to
live for Her!. someone to hold on , someone to lean on, someone who
could be there for me as i will for her, To love each other deeply and
never let go of each other in sickness and health, For richer for
poorer, I believe the right woman of my dream is somewhere out there,
What i want from love is a lifetime of affection and passion days of
conversation laughter and play nights of intimate caresses and romantic
interplay a partner in every way whether an escort for a social affair
or cuddling in a leather recline chair, a shoulder to cry on in times
of distress, a cheering section for every success a woman whose smile
brightens my day. What i want is a love that's true. I need a wonderful
sharing, caring relationship. Knowing each others thoughts, needs,
desires. Caring for the other person more than yourself. Shared
experiences, people, places, things. Doing all as partners, not always
together physically, but always spiritually, I believe in my dreams and
my dreams are very simple from one side and very hard to come to life
from another! My dream is to find a woman who is able to love and who
really needs to be loved.I read all our correspondence again i feel
fulfilled and its been a long while i have had a stimulating
communication. So I think this would be a good time to tell you that
every time i get a mail from you i like the person am reading about
even more.I hope it turns out to be realistic. I'm free for the most of
tomorrow so i intend to stay on the computer well tomorrow after work
so i guess we can have a long chat.
I know from the way i rambled on in my past emails to you
about my job and why am so busy here, you might think it is the
culmination of my dream and where i invest almost all of my energy,
well the truth is I like my job but my focus is elsewhere.I usually
trust people until proven wrong. I am quite contented with where i am
today but i also have clear goals i want to achieve and sometimes i
consider myself ambitious. With the exception of a couple areas, I am
extremely comfortable talking about my innermost needs and desires,I
will like to know more about what you do for a living(job) and more
about it,i hope you like what you do and when you like what you do you
can hardly consider your job "work", if you know what I mean.
I have a feeling that what i have wish for all my life is
about to come my way when i registered on the site so i want to take my
profile off but it all just depend on you and what you feel about us
because i like taking one step at a time. I know its difficult to
ascertain what type of person someone is from just exchanging emails
but with you I feel like I know you for a while. I don't know why I
felt compelled to tell you that but its the truth. For the first time
in a very long time I feel like I've found someone special. I hope you
feel the same way because you fail to open up to me and let me know
more about you and the basic qualities you posses.i want you to be open
with me because i will be open to you too and i will tell you
everything about my life.
Have you read the book "The Law of Attraction" ? Maybe this short movie will be interesting for you:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=DE&hl=d ... re=related
Bye for now and hope to read from you later today.can you send me your address?i think i have a surprise coming your way.
with love and affection,
Robert james Degen
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 09.05.2010 02:21
Betreff: Am worth a try !
Dearest XXXXXX,
Good morning to you and i hope you had a wonderful day,i am so sorry that i didn't return back online as promised so we can chat...but before i write much i would like to thank you very much for the e card you sent me ..i read them and tears fell from my eyes not because am not happy but just because my dream is finally coming through when i expected it least too,i love the picture you sent me of your mom ,brother and yourself,its just great and its my laptop screen saver picture now so i can see your every time i look at my computer...i just wanted you to know how much this correspondence means to me because i am ready to be committed to this and put in my all but i know that there is probably very little i can say to change your mind either way about people in general maybe due to your past experience or how people had betray the trust you exude to them but i want to assure you in advance too that i will never lie to you and i know that a relationship is like a plant that needs to be taken care of...am not totally discounting the possibility that the way i feel about you could be reciprocated but as i have very little luck in this area in the past my hopes are fairly small before despite the fact i feel free to open up everything about my life to you but you have given me a reason to be assured and calm that am in the safest of hands.
I wanted to put into words my feelings,wish, and dreams all in the hope of getting to know each other better, although you may not hear the words from my lips but i want you to know that i care deeply and i would never want to stop getting to know you more better than what we have shared between each other in just little time we have known,I feel that given the chance this could turn into more, but I guess that will depend on us and how you feel about me when we finally meet.I can't pinpoint what exactly it is that makes me feel that you do have some feelings towards me, Maybe it's due to the way you have always cared with your words.....I wish I could vocalize my feelings totally to you but my fear prohibits me so much and i think that by the time i finally gain the courage, that you will be with someone else. My biggest fear is that i would tell you and i would see a look of fear on your face that would break me.please don't be scared and i also want you to now that my expectation is high not because i want so much in my woman but because i have been single for so long and am tired of being lonely ..i need a woman like you in my life.
Thank you so much for telling me how you feel about this and i promise i will send you a detailed email about what am doing here too.i wish i could tell you how every time i log on my computer and i don't get a mail from you,I fear that I will never get any massage from you again I just want to protect you so much.... thanks for opening up to let me know everything about your life. I know its not easy but i still believe that i could be good for you, if only you could return my feelings. I know i may not be the best looking man but all i could offer you is my heart if you are ready to do the same.dear i understand perfectly what your wary are and i can assure you that i would never hurt you for no reason because this is what i have looked for all my life,someone who shares similar interest with me and whom i can trust with all that i am ...i want you to know that the best way to love is to love like never being hurt..so in that regards i want you to be open and dance like no one is watching XXXXXX because everyone has fault but i will accept you with yours
As i said before, you may never know the true extent of my feelings although I would imagine you have some doubts.This may be a crush or infatuation but i swear to you that it does not feel like it, as i have had crushes before but never really felt the kinds of emotions i do for you for someone i have not even seen...I hope that if i can muster the courage to tell you how I feel, that whatever your feelings,Our road to friendship has been a little less then traditional but for some reason i hope it worked for us. I know you will always be there for me and that's one of the reasons i think i really want to get to know you better not just sharing our words alone.
Please don't ever be afraid to be honest with me, because I will always be by your side when you need me...I will be by your side regardless of my status with you. I have never felt so connected to a person in my life; I love just reading your mails over and over.. I don't need 100% of your time, all I need is to know you care,love and affection and you do that already. I love your comforting words and I want to say thank you for loving me the way you do. am so proud i have you and i would cherish the chance to be in your arms forever
With the greatest love of all,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 09.05.2010 16:12
Betreff: How i feel honey
Dearest XXXXXX,
Good afternoon dear,what are you doing at the moment because my thought is always with you....thanks for the chat this morning and for all the audibles in the chat,it was wonderful and fun..I enjoy every minutes we share together and if only we had met at another time in our lives that would have been the best thing that has ever happen to me.i want to assure you about my feelings and also make you understand that its not only my words but this is how i feel from the bottom of my heart and i promise i will never disappoint you. am so happy that we communicate through phone too and not just email alone because we have the opportunity to hear each others voice and feel the emotions in it.I don't have doubts about the future but what i have is fears because i have been heart broken before and now i am very careful with my heart so i will only give my heart to the woman that deserve it and that will make me happy forever as much as i will make her too.i will tell you more about what i do but that will be when i get back from the security company tomorrow so i can tell you in details and the progress i have so far ever since i got here.
In life, there are things that are unexplainable and believe me i never saw this coming. I never saw myself having feelings for someone i have not seen or have any form of physical contact,i never saw myself thinking of someone this much that i just want to talk to her on phone every minutes, nothing comes to my mind because all i want to do is hear her voice and that alone will make me feel alright. I never saw my heart reaching out and getting this much connection i get with you. I never saw myself feeling so safe when i write to someone and letting out all my emotions and fears, i never saw myself staying up late or rushing back to my hotel suites to write a long message just to put a smile on someone's face. You know they say when it comes around, it sweeps you off your feet and no matter how hurt you have been in the past, you always give it a chance. You don't know why and you always cannot explain it but deep down inside, you just know that there is this feeling that only this person makes you feel and you would give your all just to make that person happy. What makes things even crazy is that i am a very calm and collected man who selects his every word with care and stands by what he says,i don't like making commitments to people because i know that once i say it, I'm gonna do it but i find myself ready to make very strong commitments for you because the feeling you give me, i want to continue to feel all my life.
You know when i sat down to type this message, i didn't know what to say or how to express the exact way i feel but with every thought of you, the right words just found their place into writing. I know that you have been hurt in the past and you are finding it difficult to completely open your heart so that you would not be hurt again but i tell you XXXXXX,the best way to love is to love like you have never been hurt. In life, mistakes should not be taken as failure but instead they should be taken as going a step closer to getting it right.Today i take a bold step closer to what i call a better tomorrow by telling you exactly how i feel about you and thats why i put a stop to my searching for a partner because i felt i have found what am looking for,i want you to open up your heart to me like you have always been doing, you have been alone for a while now,you need a man to make you feel like a woman again,a man who wakes up early just to watch you sleep,a man who gets up to prepare coffee for you, someone who knows how tender you are and is ready to treat you like a woman of substance that you are,someone who is ready to accept you not because there is anything spectacular about you but just because you are you.I can write on forever about how i feel about you but maturity would not let me do so.I hope you understand now exactly how i feel about you and i want you to know that am doing all i have to do so that i can be back just to meet you .
The first picture i took today in my hotel suites before going for a walk and the other ones are just about 4 weeks old,hope you like them.
Have a wonderful day and i hope to hear from you soon too
Robert.
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----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 10.05.2010 11:36
Betreff: Situation of things
Dearest XXXXXX,
How are you doing ?how was your night,i got your both text and thanks for the mail,i will reply your mail later when i get more relaxed because right now am facing some little problem here,i just got back from the doctors place just now because my head hurts.i think today is a very bad day for me and i think the earth took still and it happens to be one of my unlucky day ,I have been facing some serious problems since thursday afternoon.I thought I would never have to tell you about what has been going on with me over here as i thought it should be solved on friday or this morning but i am afraid it has not. I thought I would be able to solve all the problems and start making plans of coming back home by next week but this seems impossible, I also don't want you think of me as an unreliable person. So I decided to explain my current situation in details. Some days ago i tried to make a purchase with my credit card and it was declined. When i called my bank back home to find out why the transaction was declined. I was informed that a hold had been placed on my account because they noticed some unusual transactions and withdrawals.
When I told them to release the hold, they politely refused. They insisted that i appear at one of their branches in Person. I told them this was not possible as i was out of the country at the moment. They suggested i visit one of their International Corporate Branches. After I unsuccessfully tried to find one of these since morning. I called my bank again and asked them to give me the location of their Corporate branch in Nigeria. This was when I was told that they did not have one down here. I thought this was not a serious problem because all i need to do is apply for another one and it will get here in a few days.Everything seemed fine until now when the hotel manager called me and said he need a part payment from the bills am owing him and he said its urgent
I am very confused and i really do not know what to do. This is the exact situation of things with me and i felt you should know as i do not want to hide anything from you. Have a wonderful day and i will always be thinking of you.let me know if you can help because they said they will issue another credit card for me but it will take some days to get here.
with love,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 10.05.2010 12:21
Betreff: Thanks you honey
My sunshine,
Thanks so much for your quick reply,i am so sorry for putting my problems on you and i promise you with all that i am that i will return your money back to you in a few days when my new credit card gets here ...i also want you to know that i will always be there for you too if you need my hands. you just proved to me what real commitment is and am so surprised you got my back like you have always promised that why i can explain how much i appreciate and thank you for this ...
Please XXXXXX i would be very happy if you can help me with 500 euro so that i can use that as an advance payment and when my cards get here in a few days i will send that to you back and complete my payment here ...
here is the information you need to send the money so i can get it fast here through western union ...you should find that around you
Name ;Robert Degen
Address;67 baley road,ipodo,Lagos
Country;Nigeria
Amount;500 euro
M.T.C.N; ?
The (MTCN) is the 10 digit secret number i will use to get the money here when you send it
I dont know how to thank you but i know when i meet you nothing will ever seprate us again
With love,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 11.05.2010 09:30
Betreff: You mean so much to me XXXXXX
My Sunshine,
Hey my baby,hope you were able to sleep for a while after our chat last night?...i missed your mail so much and your beautiful and colorful e cards too.. thanks for the chat and for letting me now more about you everyday.i want you to know that i have no where to go to than to be in your arms when i leave here and am ready to spend the rest of my life with you
I know there are miles between us,I never stop thinking of you, you have brought a change into my life and my heart is forever yours.I can never forget you or keep thoughts of you out of my mind. I think of how caring you will be whenever i imagine you saying all those caring words you sent through mails and i want you to know that i like everything I've read about you so far and i truly know we will be compatible. most of my expectations & aspirations is to archive my goals in life and one of them is the project that am working on at the moment and i have made much progress because i was able to get some amazing deals already,i will be working hard today and tomorrow because my consignments will be going through security checks and get insured against theft or fire.
Thoughts of you warm my heart. You complete me, you are everything my heart desire.Many years and many miles have kept us apart for so long it is hard to believe we have found each other . Now we must make time disappear and miles grow shorter because i believe we have so many things in common and we will match perfectly. This feelings started not quite long and will never end.XXXXXX i think it's our turn ... it's our turn to make each other happy. We have grown to understand each other rapidly; let's spend the rest of our lives together. Though we might not completely understand each other at first but my feelings will be true and know that i will always be by your side no matter what.
I understand that there are many things to be worked out, so many things on your mind, I just don't want to waste any valuable time we have left all this years alone. I think of you all day sweetie and i know this more than just been in love,You are so far away, yet so close in my heart. My heart and my body yearns for you. I feel something unconditional for you. I accept all that you are and am ready to give all that is mine, For the first time I have purpose. For the first time I have found someone real.You excite me so much,I have dreams of you and awake aroused. Today I thought of you, when i looked at your picture you sent me i imagined myself with you and it was so vivid ... I will always be yours as long as you want. I am truly lucky indeed to have found such a dear, sweet, loving person as you, a woman, and not just any woman, but such a beautiful, sensual woman who arouses such unbridled passion in me - thoughts of total passion without reserve in giving myself to you completely. I remain yours forever.Even though we are apart for now, my heart will always be with you. As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we are still committed each day is never a waste and the waiting will prove to be worthwhile..........I don't think i would ever feel that way so please don't disappoint me .Lots of love and kisses ... Hope to read from you later today and please dont forget the wonderful e cards..i love them.
lots of love and kisses..
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 12.05.2010 20:25
Betreff: You are in my heart now and alwayz
Hey Honey,
How are you doing?just wanted to drop a note to let you know you are always on my mind,am very tired at the moment because i have worked a whole lot today just to make sure everything goes well.i know I can't give you the whole world but i can promise you one thing and that's my love for you will be forever.i really want a future with you because you have made me feel very different in this few time we have known .I know everything will work out because the love i have for you is so strong and unconditional. My heart is yours and even though am having some problems with my business here i will be strong for you and i know you are right beside me as we chase our dreams together. I think about you all day long and when I'm not near you my mind is consumed with thoughts of being close to you.. When i read all your emails again i feel like everything in the world is right and I know I don't have to ask God for anything because as long I have you in my life I have everything i could ever want.
XXXXXX all i want to do is spend the rest of my life making you as happy as you have made me. You understand me and you know just how to make things right.You will never know just how much i love you,i will like to have a chat with you before i go to bed.
lots of kisses and hugs
Robert
After this mail and the sent copies of his passport I told him that he’s a liar and scammer. But he didn’t surrender...
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 16.05.2010 12:13
Betreff: What bound us
Hello Dear,
XXXXXX i need you to know my feelings for you haven't changed the slightest even if you don't believe me to be who i am or you dont want to have any contact with me anymore maybe due to what someone who don't know anything about me or what i feel for you,you were so judgmental because of his immediate environment or what you have heard about online dating.well i don't feel disappointed in anyway,if you are being true to me about yourself and what you want in life i think you should feel the same but the only thing that could ever make me disappointed is if when i get there on my own and finally meet you and you see am who i said i am.....And this in turn would lead not having 100% trust in you anymore when this happens our relationship is bound to come to an end because true love can not exist without absolute trust and honesty.
I want you to know that everyone cant be a scammer and they are still good people in the world that the bad people use story like us to get money from peoples but i can prove with my life that am nothing close to what you think i am in terms of trying to get money from you..I know that you feel that I want to give up on this relationship because of my problems but i want you to admit i value this and i cant wait to make it reality.i would remember the time when i asked the Lord before we've met, to give me someone i could love with all my heart and would love me in return, someone i can grow old with to spend my happy and lonesome memories, someone who i can call mine and give myself into, and someone whom i can spend the rest of my life with through all ups and downs i promise that whatever struggles we have to endure in our relationship, I would still hold onto our love because i believe that this is just the way of God to teach us to be strong and faithful to each other. That after this trial we will still be together and start our new life together with a better future ahead of us. I thank God for you and thank you for being you.I cherish you now and am sure i will cherish you even more tomorrow
PS : I need you to understand that what i seek is not a relationship based on fantasies and fairy tales but a true companionship based on reality and realistic factors in which we would not expect perfection from each other but instead we would see each others faults and set backs yet we would be able to complement each other so if there is something you dont understand about this whole issue maybe you should come online and lets talk about it and you will see am not a lair
I still care,
Robert
----- Original Nachricht ----
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 18.05.2010 11:21
Betreff: My heart soar
My dearest,
Good morning to you XXXXXX,when i saw you for the first time on single.de, so simple and doubtful, I was amazed that my heart could still beat that hard, you were the most realistic and caring lady my heart had laid eyes on in a very long time. Before getting to know you i had heard of passion and love and seen it in movies; never dreamed that kind of emotion would ever come to me.
I still remember the way you made me tingle with your funny ways when we first had a chat. I knew from the first words spoken between the two of us that things were never going to be the same for me anymore and that i was going to have to sort out these mysterious feelings that i was having. We had to have time with one another again to help me understand what was happening to me. I needed to figure out how it was that you were able to cast such a spell over me.
After spending time to know you, I now knew how real passion and love can be. You have opened my heart, and opened the gate to a new world for me. Did you know you had such a power? My life is starting to become so different, even if my days seem the same and i must confess that it's you who has changed my outlook. You have opened my eyes to some amazing new possibilities through your achievements and believe. I will forever be filled with a new sense of wonder and joy, because you have shared yourself with me.I must confess that in some ways i feel inadequate too. My mind is questioned; Can i match your gentleness and uniqueness? Can i give you feelings as warm and secure as the ones you have bestowed on me? You have chosen to show me such strong passion combined with secure sweet affection, that i can only hope with time you feel a glimpse of the same emotions from me.
After getting to know you better, and going through some tough times together,my heart missed you badly and wanting you like never before thought that would make us stronger but i was wrong because you opened your side of heart that had so much doubt about finding real love again, Now i know am in a place i have never been before. I'm in a place that is calm and serene, but sad and in pain of loosing the love i have always dream and hoped for, all at the same time This place is neither a state of mind, nor just one of physical being. It is a place where my soul soars. It is a place i share with you...I'm in a place where, my mornings begin with you in my thoughts, and my days end with you in my mind. I'm in a place where, when good things happen, my first reaction is that I'm excited, because I'll get to share them with you. I'm in a place where, when bad things happen, I know that you'll be there to provide comfort and make the world right again with a your simple honest voice if you had called to know if am alright.
I have always hoped that when you hold me in your arms, i will be in a place that i never want to leave, and i pray it is a place i never have to leave. Just know that when you hold me in your arms, I am in the safest, most treasured place in the world.
The sea that parts us is this work of mine, but i gaze at the moon and ask it to reflect my love back to you so far away. You are the answer to my passion and my dreams. I live for seeing you, for being whole with you. Now that you have given me the gift of your love, my appetite for you is endless. Our time together will be very special to me. There are very few moments that a man knows will linger with him for the rest of his life, and you have already given me many. Thank you for being such an extraordinary part of my life. I hope we will continue this journey together.I miss you, my love. Please forgive my foolish words . Accept them as tokens of the emotions you inspire in me. I will wait anxiously to have a chat with you at night. Until then you are in my heart, and in my mind.
Ever dreaming about you, my soul mate,
Robert
Von: robert alex <[email protected]>
An: me
Datum: 19.06.2010 23:52
Betreff: You are my everything XXXXXX
Hello darling,
How are you doing? Much better today i guess? I have missed talking to you, the network has been messing up but will defiantly try calling you later tonight.. How is your body now? I really want to take care of you my darling. Is anybody there to assist you? If I could pick any woman in the world to spend every moment of the rest of my life with it would be you XXXXXX and take good care of you cause you are my baby. If I had a choice to have all the treasures in the world or spend my life with you, I would not even think twice... I would be with you cause all the treasure i want in this world i found in you which is happiness. I am not sure how I got so lucky to have you, but I know I am the luckiest man alive.
In all the dreams I've had in life, being with someone as great of a person as you, seemed impossible to find. You are everything I dreamed of and even more. I am writing this to you to tell you in front of the world... I LOVE YOU, XXXXXX ! I will give you my life, my love and share everything I have to offer with you. I will Honor you, cherish you, be loyal to you, and put no one else before you, forever! I will stand by you through all the echos of life and never let go. I know God has something good in store for us. He is not an evil God but a loving God. And when we are in each others arms, that love will be more amazing than what we have now.
XXXXXX whenever we talk and you called me your baby, it really touch my heart wishing i was there to take care of you, even in your sick bed you were still so concerned on how am making it through here in Nigeria. Your loving nature and trust towards me has got the best of me. It hurts that the people who are supposed to know me, try to take my happiness away. You know about my past, you know that I have a hard time trusting, and you know that at times it is hard for me to put my feelings into words, but you still took me and showed me that i am not so damaged but can still love with my heart. XXXXXX most times when am writing you i wonder where all the words are coming from, But since loving you brings food to my soul i don't want to be hungry again. You have treated me better than people that are in my family. You brighten my life. You are my life. My baby, nobody knows what I have had to do to get where I amn today, even including my project and all. Nobody knows what you had to do to get where you are. Nobody knows us, except for us. Baby, Nobody knows the joy we give ourselves when we talk on the phone in odd hours. nobody knows about the things in my past that I had to overcome to trust you. Nobody knows what you had to overcome to trust me. Nobody knows about how scared I was of you because of what one person did to me. But you took my hands and showed me that love is meant for us, and my heart could be mend and reloved to the fullest.
You are my purest defination of love. We have been so close, yet so far apart. No matter where my life takes me, my heart is set on you. Like a blossom growing, our friendship gets stronger everyday. Hanging out everyday has drawn my attention to you, feeling safe and closer makes a part of me happier than the other. All the laughs we have had together on the phone have become a part of my life and you will always remain in my heart forever. I wrote you this letter so that you know how deeply you have touched my heart and for you to get well soon.Joooo
you have come to know me as well, or better than some of my lifelong friends. You have taken the time to want to know me, inside and out, honestly and truly. You made it easy for me to open myself up again, and that allowed me to meet the most honest, loving, beautiful woman in the world.
You have been able to bring out the best in me. You stir up my most passionate, loving emotions. You opened my eyes so that I could see true love, and all that the perfect relationship should embody, all that the perfect woman should embody. honey, you are my perfect woman.
I am so glad to be loved by someone very special like you. I thought all along that nobody can ever make me happy and win my hardened heart until I met you. You've really charged my life and I thank God I am loved and cherished by someone like you. If I come back to this world again I would like to meet you again where we can share the wonderful love we've started. I love you so much, my love. You mean more than anything in this world to me. Thank God I found you at last.XXXXXX everything that I feel runs so deep that I don't care about your past and all the things you've done that you feel you should be ashamed of, because it's unconditional and it will always be here for you through thick and thin. I don't want you to wake up days, months, or years from now, wondering what would have been or could have been.
I think the saying is so true, "Life is not measured by the breaths that we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." Those Cherished moments took my breath away! I will always remember the woman who took my breath away so easily even without meeting her in person. Words come hard to explain how thankful I am that it was you, my love, with whom I shared these cherished moments and down moments with. Thank you seems so small in comparison to the world you've shown me. You are too much my sunshine.
With all the love am able to give too,
Robert
End of part one of my story... to be continued
