by ladyoceania
Sat Aug 01, 2015 7:03 pm
I keep editing things I should have added in the first place:
John Sirb
Birthday - August 5, 1958
London, UK/Nigeria
Last activity on FB was 4:30pm EST
Widowed
2 children boy Richard 15, girl Susan 13
Works as an engineer.
Has a nanny
Goes to church every Sunday. Believes very much in God
I was contacted mid June on FB with a friend request by him. I ignored it, as I don't get random friend requests there. One night I was bored, so I decided to accept it. I will talk to anyone, about anything.
A few days later, I had a message on FB just saying Hello - I responded hello hours later, and it went back and forth like that. Finally, we were online at the same time, and chatted. He was married, but, lost his wife three years ago. He 'has' 2 children, a boy 15 - Richard, and a girl 13 - Susan. Chatting was nice enough - always jovial, and fun. Except for the horrible grammar, and spelling. But, I overlooked it.
He always went to 'rest' at 9pm his time. Sometimes a little later, but, not very often. He was always up getting ready to go to the office by 8am. He would message me on FB to chat around 'lunch time' and if he was taking a break from work at his desk. He always talked about how his friend noticed he was so happy now, and smiling all the time..and it had been so long since he felt this way.
At this point, I still wasn't even thinking scammer. He asked to exchange phone numbers, which I did. His number was a +44 70 (I found out this is a number used for scamming). He said he was falling in love, and I laughed. It was just 3 days. I wasn't in love, but, I was definitely in a deep like. He did not want me to talk to any of my friends about him, about us, so that they would not discourage me, and became angry when I told him a few days later I did so.
On the 5th day we were chatting, he mentioned that he had just signed a contract for work to go to Africa to work on road construction. He would be staying in Nigeria. Ahhh...this is when I suddenly woke up. So, the next day, I decided to purchase an international phone card, and try calling the number he gave me. The phone did not work. After two days, I said - you talk about how you love me, and you give me an invalid phone number that does not work? Who are you?
He asked me what the number was again, and suddenly my cell started to ring. It was a "No caller ID" I did not answer. He messaged back that he was calling, and then the phone started to ring again with a +234 country code, I answered - and the voice most certainly was not a man from the UK. He does not speak very clear English. We chatted briefly, and hung up. I then google searched country code +234, and found out it is from Nigeria. Honestly, I wasn't shocked. In my heart, I knew what was going on, but, I was being screwed with mentally.
You look at the face in the picture, and it is so easy to believe you are talking to this person. I fight with my heart, and mind over this whole thing. I do love talking to him, even if it is all a fantasy. I'm not sure if I'm just stupid, or maybe infatuated. I talked to my friend, and she said "Look, he is sitting in a hut, with sandals, and no a/c"
Sometimes, what he tells me is such bullshit, and then sometimes, he says something that comes out of the blue - and makes me wonder if while they are just playing a role, maybe he does care a little? I know it is just a game - and I am married, so it doesn't matter much anyway. Three days ago I had asked about the +234 humber, and he asked where I got that code from. I told him it was from the number he called me on, that was what had showed up on my cell. He was quiet for a bit, then said OOhh I guess my phone from the office has the roaming started already. He said he set up his office phone to roam to Nigeria....but, I knew that wasn't true because roaming doesn't work like that.
I thought, I could just block him, and be done with it, but, I wanted to see when a request for money would come. He 'arrived' in Nigeria early this morning for his job. His "birthday" is August 5th. I told him that I bought him an iPhone because 'his' blackberry broke just before he left for the trip. He now wants me to send him the phone, and gave me an address to send it.
The address is:
Mr. Mike Paul (his driver - lol)
No.22, Ekhewan Road
Benin City Edo State Nigeria
phone number +234 8162245651
The other number he used to call me was:
+234 9022643845
The email address he has used is [email protected]
I've tried to trace the headers, but, it always comes up as California.
I've been pretty much consumed by this. I sit here and search on the internet. Last night I found some reading that said that these people can have people in the state where victims live. So, then I started to worry, what if someone shows up here? I never gave him my home address, but, he has my name from FB, and pictures - who knows how many he has saved before we even talked? At least my friends are set to show only mutual friends. But, my kids post on my FB page, as do friends. He actually saved one of my pictures and posted it on his FB wall to show that I was his love, he said...so now a picture of me is on his fb wall as well.
I told him I was going to try to send the package with phone to him, but, will tell him that the DHL was already closed by the time I got there, and now that it is the weekend, it will have to wait. He also later asked me to send him a nice gold chain to wear around neck.
I have a feeling that a request for money is going to come soon, though. Today he said something about how he has invested so much money into this job, and when it is done, he will get it all back. He said that he has to pay for equipments for the job with his mastercard - so something is going to happen to the wallet, probably. Or, it will not have enough credit for that, and the hotel he is supposedly staying in. Which he won't tell me the name of.
How much longer should I do this? Should I just disappear? I had told him I had a car accident a few nights ago...I wanted to see his reaction - he begged for pictures from the doctor to see how badly hurt I was. So, again, google is my friend, I found pictures of bruised ribs, and sent them cropped down. He 'appeared' to be upset...who knows.
Maybe I could have someone call him and say that I was not doing well, back in hospital? My lung collapsed again? My plan was to wait for the money request, and then just block him on FB and disappear. But, I find myself looking forward to chatting with him. I will not, under any circumstance send money. But, it is kind of a game - waiting to see what will happen next.
***I had originally posted this on the sister site, but, was directed here. I have blocked him on my facebook as per recommendation by someone there. I also met a friend here for lunch today, and he told me to block him, and please just stop talking to him. That it was too dangerous to keep it up. ****
I really do feel stupid - I have met so many people online through FB, and back in the day on other chat vehicles. But, they were really all honest people. I thought the same. I can't believe I was actually enjoying parts of chatting with him, yet also so suspicious, and knowing of what was going on. Is this normal? It is normal to feel as though I will miss talking to him?
I have some pictures, but, I am not sure how large they will show up here...going to attempt to add them here.
**********************************
He only sent one email:
Hi sweetie
Everyday that goes by it seems like I discover something new about you to love. It's incredible to me how one person can make such a big difference in my life, you touch me in a way no one else ever has and give me so many reasons to love you.
**************************************************
All other daily communication was via FB messenger. I have saved a file, but, of course my name is throughout it.
Thanks for reading,
LadyO
John Sirb
Birthday - August 5, 1958
London, UK/Nigeria
Last activity on FB was 4:30pm EST
Widowed
2 children boy Richard 15, girl Susan 13
Works as an engineer.
Has a nanny
Goes to church every Sunday. Believes very much in God
I was contacted mid June on FB with a friend request by him. I ignored it, as I don't get random friend requests there. One night I was bored, so I decided to accept it. I will talk to anyone, about anything.
A few days later, I had a message on FB just saying Hello - I responded hello hours later, and it went back and forth like that. Finally, we were online at the same time, and chatted. He was married, but, lost his wife three years ago. He 'has' 2 children, a boy 15 - Richard, and a girl 13 - Susan. Chatting was nice enough - always jovial, and fun. Except for the horrible grammar, and spelling. But, I overlooked it.
He always went to 'rest' at 9pm his time. Sometimes a little later, but, not very often. He was always up getting ready to go to the office by 8am. He would message me on FB to chat around 'lunch time' and if he was taking a break from work at his desk. He always talked about how his friend noticed he was so happy now, and smiling all the time..and it had been so long since he felt this way.
At this point, I still wasn't even thinking scammer. He asked to exchange phone numbers, which I did. His number was a +44 70 (I found out this is a number used for scamming). He said he was falling in love, and I laughed. It was just 3 days. I wasn't in love, but, I was definitely in a deep like. He did not want me to talk to any of my friends about him, about us, so that they would not discourage me, and became angry when I told him a few days later I did so.
On the 5th day we were chatting, he mentioned that he had just signed a contract for work to go to Africa to work on road construction. He would be staying in Nigeria. Ahhh...this is when I suddenly woke up. So, the next day, I decided to purchase an international phone card, and try calling the number he gave me. The phone did not work. After two days, I said - you talk about how you love me, and you give me an invalid phone number that does not work? Who are you?
He asked me what the number was again, and suddenly my cell started to ring. It was a "No caller ID" I did not answer. He messaged back that he was calling, and then the phone started to ring again with a +234 country code, I answered - and the voice most certainly was not a man from the UK. He does not speak very clear English. We chatted briefly, and hung up. I then google searched country code +234, and found out it is from Nigeria. Honestly, I wasn't shocked. In my heart, I knew what was going on, but, I was being screwed with mentally.
You look at the face in the picture, and it is so easy to believe you are talking to this person. I fight with my heart, and mind over this whole thing. I do love talking to him, even if it is all a fantasy. I'm not sure if I'm just stupid, or maybe infatuated. I talked to my friend, and she said "Look, he is sitting in a hut, with sandals, and no a/c"
Sometimes, what he tells me is such bullshit, and then sometimes, he says something that comes out of the blue - and makes me wonder if while they are just playing a role, maybe he does care a little? I know it is just a game - and I am married, so it doesn't matter much anyway. Three days ago I had asked about the +234 humber, and he asked where I got that code from. I told him it was from the number he called me on, that was what had showed up on my cell. He was quiet for a bit, then said OOhh I guess my phone from the office has the roaming started already. He said he set up his office phone to roam to Nigeria....but, I knew that wasn't true because roaming doesn't work like that.
I thought, I could just block him, and be done with it, but, I wanted to see when a request for money would come. He 'arrived' in Nigeria early this morning for his job. His "birthday" is August 5th. I told him that I bought him an iPhone because 'his' blackberry broke just before he left for the trip. He now wants me to send him the phone, and gave me an address to send it.
The address is:
Mr. Mike Paul (his driver - lol)
No.22, Ekhewan Road
Benin City Edo State Nigeria
phone number +234 8162245651
The other number he used to call me was:
+234 9022643845
The email address he has used is [email protected]
I've tried to trace the headers, but, it always comes up as California.
I've been pretty much consumed by this. I sit here and search on the internet. Last night I found some reading that said that these people can have people in the state where victims live. So, then I started to worry, what if someone shows up here? I never gave him my home address, but, he has my name from FB, and pictures - who knows how many he has saved before we even talked? At least my friends are set to show only mutual friends. But, my kids post on my FB page, as do friends. He actually saved one of my pictures and posted it on his FB wall to show that I was his love, he said...so now a picture of me is on his fb wall as well.
I told him I was going to try to send the package with phone to him, but, will tell him that the DHL was already closed by the time I got there, and now that it is the weekend, it will have to wait. He also later asked me to send him a nice gold chain to wear around neck.
I have a feeling that a request for money is going to come soon, though. Today he said something about how he has invested so much money into this job, and when it is done, he will get it all back. He said that he has to pay for equipments for the job with his mastercard - so something is going to happen to the wallet, probably. Or, it will not have enough credit for that, and the hotel he is supposedly staying in. Which he won't tell me the name of.
How much longer should I do this? Should I just disappear? I had told him I had a car accident a few nights ago...I wanted to see his reaction - he begged for pictures from the doctor to see how badly hurt I was. So, again, google is my friend, I found pictures of bruised ribs, and sent them cropped down. He 'appeared' to be upset...who knows.
Maybe I could have someone call him and say that I was not doing well, back in hospital? My lung collapsed again? My plan was to wait for the money request, and then just block him on FB and disappear. But, I find myself looking forward to chatting with him. I will not, under any circumstance send money. But, it is kind of a game - waiting to see what will happen next.
***I had originally posted this on the sister site, but, was directed here. I have blocked him on my facebook as per recommendation by someone there. I also met a friend here for lunch today, and he told me to block him, and please just stop talking to him. That it was too dangerous to keep it up. ****
I really do feel stupid - I have met so many people online through FB, and back in the day on other chat vehicles. But, they were really all honest people. I thought the same. I can't believe I was actually enjoying parts of chatting with him, yet also so suspicious, and knowing of what was going on. Is this normal? It is normal to feel as though I will miss talking to him?
I have some pictures, but, I am not sure how large they will show up here...going to attempt to add them here.
**********************************
He only sent one email:
Hi sweetie
Everyday that goes by it seems like I discover something new about you to love. It's incredible to me how one person can make such a big difference in my life, you touch me in a way no one else ever has and give me so many reasons to love you.
**************************************************
All other daily communication was via FB messenger. I have saved a file, but, of course my name is throughout it.
Thanks for reading,
LadyO
