emotional scam!?!

She is from U.S. met her thru yahoo messenger on 09… I'm from india. Since 2010 we ve been chattin daily almost for 12 hrs. (8-10hrs in the night time + 4 to 5hrs in the noon time) u can easily gues wat wud ve happened to spend so much time with a person online. yes, she said she fell in love with me n so do i...it happened this december. Now, the things i wanna ask u guys is that how seriously i can take this gurl? I'm 23 n she is 27. she claims to be from high society family from NYC n moved to LA at the mid of last year n livin a very unconventional lifestyle. she says she is a lesbian n has three lovers...the funny thing is she said, a pornie n a tv show kid gal n a neighborhood girl are her lovers!! she says she has had 4 bf's but didn really feel it wen she had to share the bed with em, but with me, she says she cant label the relationship but wants this to work so badly. she said, if she wud ever sleep with a guy again, it wud be me!..ok! these are the things she says.. although my instinct says she is liein for some extent bout the richness n al the glam things. I jus i wanna kno if the "love" is for real. i dont care the rest. like uhm, she said, she was a drug addict which almost killed her '09 april n since then she was seekin me. the thing which bothers me much is that she comes online by 9 of los angeles time n then solidly stays online til early mornin 5 or 6 or even 7 n rarely more than that. I wonder if she is workin somewher at the night times. she had told me she is workin on pc while talkin to me though but from her house..i cant avoid thinkin that she is jus usin me to to do her job that side n spend time with me to not to get bored of her work or somethin...yes, we haven't video or voice chatted yet. She has played guitar for me quite a few times…i doubt if she is very older or somethin n thas y she aint comin on some webcam online..gettin me? i dunno if i hav told u the necessary things to figure this story out completely so if u guys hav a look on this n ask those details i can tel u...oh n hey, she has a daughter 4 months thru the lab method!!...waitin for ya replies.

Welcome to ScamWarners shab. In my opinion, you are dealing with a scammer. I would say that meeting someone on Instant Messenger is not the best way to start a real relationship. It is the best way for a scammer to start a relationship.

What is this person's ID on IM? Have they ever sent you an email? If so you can check the headers to find out where they are emailing from.

The times you get to talk to them make me suspicious too. Many scammers, but not all, are from Western Africa, so their time is very similar to UK time, so that would be late at night in Los Angeles.

What name does this person go by? Maybe we can do a bit of research for you. Most importantly, trust your instinct which is telling you that something is wrong. Scammers try to get you to think with your heart and not your head. It sounds like you have begun to use your head now and try to find the truth about this person you are emailing.

Rarely are scammers female. That is why they do not want to talk to you on the phone. The guitar music most likely was not by them either, but something they lifted from the internet.

I hope you will respond back and we can get the information you need to make the decision and protect yourself.

Best regards.

like Bubs said above, most scamers are from africa and this sounds alot like an african scamer, do to the time this person is on at.

Got a question, did this "woman" ask for anything, like money.
money is a scamers main objective

if so, id say you have a 99% chance of being a scam victim.

It sounds very strange shab, though I have to admit that I have never found 419 scammers very good at handling same sex issues as they're often strangely prudish about things like that.

However, I would urge you to be cautious about passing on any real life details or anything they could use to threaten to blackmail you with. The risk is that by appearing to share intimate information, you could make the mistake of doing things that you wouldn't want relations, friends or employers to see, and it's not uncommon for scammers to use blackmail to obtain money, if all else fails. It's probably wise to be cautious whoever and whatever they are, but until you can be sure that they aren't just a scammer, then it would be best not to be too trusting.

It is possible to meet somebody on line and become good friends or more. BUT this smells of some nasty perversion.

Shab you are worth more than that.

Thanks guys. And nope.. she doesn ask me any money things as such, been chattin with her for 2 years daily now. she never asked me any money related things. i'm jus worried if she is usin me to kill her time or somethin lik that. wen i get sick of bein online for so long.. for few times i had told her that i wud wanna signout. she wouldn want me to. she says, she wud miss me so much if i sign out that soon. wen i talk of other gals she wud get angry, she tels me not to talk of anyother gals n not to go out with em...wen i ask her to cal me thru skype or somethin she wud deny it sayin she wud cal me wen i least expect it..it goes lik this..one thing for sure, she aint upto any material stuff.. she jus wants me to b with her from LA timin 9 p.m to 5 to 6 a.m and then from noon 12 to 5.30.. wen we talk about gettin apart, at first she wud talk lik she dont give a damn about it but then she wud later sign in on the next session..to say it simply it goes normal lik how we talk to our gf onlin except in my case i cant talk to her n c her... any ideas or guessin's ???? but ive noticed a few times that ther wud be some 30 to 60 secs delay while replyin me n wen she goes for breaks she wud sharply take ten mins, so sharply...so i presume she is workin there while talkin to me, rite? (( that wud mean she had told me the truth that she works sometimes while talkin to me ))

Hello [b]Shaub]/b], what is "her" ID on IM?

I have heard from other people who have been scammed that Romance scammers don't go for the money right away. Yes some times they wait a year or two before asking for money. They want to be sell certain that you are emotionally very involved with them.

I encourage you to take a look at this post on our sister site: http://forum.419eater.com/forum/viewtop ... 38#1640838

Scammers do work other victims at the same time they are working you. I beleive this explains the absences you experience. They are responding to others they are working on too. I am encouraging you to be very very skeptical about this person. Scammers do speak of scamming as work. Keep questioning things in you mind.

Do you have this person's IM ID? If you don't want it on the board, please PM it to me.