Derek Wilburn & my mom ruined our family

All of the news stories I watch and read about romance scammers.....all of the money that is sent to other countries.....someone needs to do a story on the price the families pay. My mom has been scammed by "Derek Wilburn". NOW she tells everyone she knew all along it was a scam. She thanks HIM for "teaching her to love again." And she blames ME for not trusting her. I have no regrets. I did what I thought was right to stop my mom from footing the bill for terrorists. And she tells me all I cared about was her money. Our family will never be the same. The once close relationship with my mom has deteriorated into a pile of lies. Yes these scams take a toll on innocent peoples bank accounts. It also takes a toll on the family and friends who cared so deeply and end up being blamed.

Dear Disbelief:

I am so so sorry for the horror and trauma that you have endured. Your mother is still in a state of delusion and denial. I know first hand what can happen with a romance scammer. Last year I was under the influence of a very evil, persuasive and oh so believable scammer. In a 15 month period I sent him over $200,000. The love I felt for my scammer was very very real - and even though your mom's scammer may act like "he taught your mother how to love again" they actually hold their victims in derision - we are nothing but roadkill to them. When we appear on our webcams for them, they actually have all their friends in the room with them, watching and laughing at us. I know this for a fact. Scammers are sociopaths - they feel no remorse for their victims. My scammer has devastated me forever. He had me make room for him in my closet, buy his favorite beer, clean out my dresser drawers, all to make room for him - because he was going to live with me "and take care of me forever" - I will never trust another man again, and "learning to love?" Oh my, never again. I carry the shame and anger with me forever. My daughters have forgiven me and are understanding - but I am in financial ruin and left with nothing. Please show your mother my email - she is in danger of being scammed again (I should know, my scammer got me twice . . . )

My prayers for your healing,
Dustygirl

It's very brave of you dustygirl to talk about your experience.

I've read about and dealt with some deeply disturbing examples and coping with a victim who is in the grip of a scammer can itself be upsetting.

What you say about the way scammers think of their victims is quite true, it's a shame to say, but if a scammer goes on a dating site using a fake identity and stolen photograph, romance is clearly not the purpose.

The scammers' plan is always the same. They offer the best deal - whether it's a scam apartment rental, tractor for sale or romance and they know that many people won't question why they got so lucky, so easily.

Hi Gomer - thanks for saying I'm brave. Scammers count on their victims hiding in shame. My entire ordeal with David Blair, my scammer, is on Romancescam.com.This has been quite a journey for me. I have done much of the leg work myself and tracked down one of his cohorts (a former scam victim herself) in London, managed to find a solicitor to represent me (I'm in the States) and filed suit in London, which I've won - but I will never see the money again. Here is the link for my story
http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewto ... =3&t=32149

We victims of romance scammers aren't stupid or dumb - our scammers found us at a very low point in our lives and swept in like vultures. Mine was at the end of a very painful divorce. There is life after being scammed and having your heart broken - albeit an uphill climb. Hope springs eternal.

Dustygirl

u r totally rocked....
i praise 4 ur brave attitude, n give them some lesson not 2 play with someone heart n life,
cause somehow its hurts, even if it only took a while like me......
ur money, experience, n sacrifice has means alot for people like us,
teach us a lot n reminds us that many other scammers n victims like us around the world.......
i pray 4 u, n others not 2 fall like us again........
may god bless u n take care......

Hi Mandajulia:
Thanks for what you've said. We fall in love FOR REAL with these devils. They ruin our lives - literally. My experience with DAVID BLAIR as completely changed who I am as a person. I am fighting everything tooth and nail. I will never get my money back but I have ruined the life of his accomplice. Yesterday I won my bankruptcy petition in London and they will begin the proceedings - but she has already buried the money with her family in Africa. Scotland Yard is now investigating her as well. I won't get my money back, but I have a bit of satisfaction knowing that I have been able to get London to hear my voice and ruin the life of DAVID BLAIR's accomplice.

MY ADVICE TO EVERYONE: Do not use online dating sites - yes there are some decent people there, but scammers run rampant and unchecked. I know for a fact that DAVID BLAIR has about 5 active profiles on Match alone right now. He uses different names - Donald, Daniel, a host of different stolen profile pics. It's just not worth it - we are all fabulous men and women, and we will meet our special someone all in due time.
Here is one of David's Match profiles, active within 3 weeks. His profiles are all over the United States:

lovingyouj
Love and Honesty...


ABOUT HIM & WHO HE'S LOOKING FOR

I'm a young,defined and refined man.Sincere,understanding,loving,romantic and fun to be with.I'm part of the clan that believes in the power of thinking and I apply that a lot to my everyday and personal life.Thus my spontaneity and creativity.Honesty is and always has been the best policy for me and the importance of good communication in a relationship cant be over-stressed.People meet people everyday and everyday people get separated and divorced so sometimes its a wonder why people still want long term relationships.I however believe that theres someone for everyone and when we find our someone,we find out that true love,romance,honesty and trust are absolutely realizable and the words together forever weren't invented to be proved wrong.I'm a man looking for my angel...because theres a heaven in my heart.



Dustygirl