Am I being Scammed?!?

Help! I recent met a very charming man online serving in the military in Afganisstan..He has sent very long romantic e-mails. He seem so full of love and kindness. Then all of a sudden he ask for some funds for his Militay transit leave, I am to wright to his general on his behalf and request that as his fiance I would like to request the leavefor him,. Then later was told there was a fee for this of 300 dollars. Flags and bells going off now. IS THIS A SCAM.

Yes, it is a scam.

People from outside the army cannot request leave for soldiers. In fact, people from outside the army cannot request anything on soldiers' behalf. Soldiers MUST request leave for themselves, and they don't pay fees in order to get it. Sometimes scammers will tell you that it is a new policy--but the truth is, it will never be the US military's policy, because the structured chain of command is one of the most important aspects of the US military, and allowing people from outside the military to make requests for people in the military would break that important chain.

The moment a "soldier" asks you to request phone, leave, or anything else you can be certain he is a scammer. The same is true if he tells you he cannot access his money--the US military makes sure that soldiers can access what they need.

Thank you for your reply. any suggestion on what I should do? I do know I will not be sending any money!

Since he has some of your real life information, the best thing to do is just drop him and walk away. Stop answering his emails, block him from chat, and just ignore him completely. No need to argue with him, and pointing out his mistakes will only help him to scam better next time.

Then, if you can post the name and email address he is using, and the text of the first few messages he sent you, as well as the email telling you to request leave, you can help other potential victims. Just remove your name and personal info first, but you will probably find he didn't use them very much. These emails are his scripts, and he is most likely using the exact same emails, with little to no modification, on many victims. He may continue to use the same scripts even after he changes his phony name. Posting those scripts can help others to recognize if they are being scammed.

Yes I think you are being scammed. Asking for money is a red flag. Even in real life you got to ask yourself do I want a relationship with someone who asks me for large amounts of money.

Yes teeann it is a scam, as the other forum people indicated. It is unfortunate miltary type scams seem to be on the increase I'm afraid to say.

re: Then all of a sudden he ask for some funds for his Militay transit leave, I am to wright to his general on his behalf and request that as his fiance I would like to request the leavefor him,. Then later was told there was a fee for this of 300 dollars.

That is an all to common storyline with imposters impersonating military personnal. That is like your employer saying to you, pay the company a large sum of money if you wish to take your annual leave.
Of course we all know, it simply doesn't work that way.
The scammer will act as charming as possible because it thinks he will be laughing all the way to the bank.
When all your money is gone. it will then disappear leaving you in a mess.
Can you please post the name of the scammer, maybe an email header and then others doing a search will be alerted to the fraudulant individual.

Thank you all for the response.

The man that contacted me called himself: Sgt Preston Spivey([email protected])
He contacted me through the social website Myspace.
He always stated his e-mail with Hello Pretty, or hello my queen..He also stated that he was station at Victory Kabul camp Afghanistan. He clamied to be In the Air force Grunt (Infantry) USAF.
He gave me this contact info to send [email protected] and contact General Rolando Melendez
Multi National corps Afghanistan
Public Affairs office, Camp Victory
APO AE 09342

I hope this information helps someone not be a victim of this man.......

i have been talking to a guy for a few mths feel in love and he is asking me to send an email to [email protected] to reqest vacation for him...said ge is on a peacemission overseas. is this real

Yes, it is a scam.

People from outside the army cannot request leave for soldiers. In fact, people from outside the army cannot request anything on soldiers' behalf. Soldiers MUST request leave for themselves, and they don't pay fees in order to get it. Sometimes scammers will tell you that it is a new policy--but the truth is, it will never be the US military's policy, because the structured chain of command is one of the most important aspects of the US military, and allowing people from outside the military to make requests for people in the military would break that important chain.

The moment a "soldier" asks you to request phone, leave, or anything else you can be certain he is a scammer. The same is true if he tells you he cannot access his money--the US military makes sure that soldiers can access what they need.

[AlanJones]

The post from Dotti that you quoted applies equally to UN soldiers and those from any other nation. You are dealing with a scammer and not a real member of the military.

The best thing to do is totally block him and stop responding. Don't confront him or make excuses, just disappear and leave him wondering where he went wrong.

Please also post the fake details (email address, any telephone numbers, etc.) that the scammer is using. His other victims may be searching for them.

ok so we composed the email together and it has me home address on it so now im worried. I didnt think anything abiut it until he said we would have to pay once they replied to tge emil...