Oksana Kosmina from Kiev, Ukraine

Oksana Kosmina contacted me through a known dating site about three months ago. She seemed like the type of lady I have been searching for most of my life. She appeared to me as a kind, caring, fun-loving, outgoing, honest and a very sincere person who was just having a hard time finding a good relationship with a man she could trust, love and settle down with, and to have a family of her own. She explained to me that she was once married to an abusive man who she had a child with, and raising the child on her own without the ex's help. The communication between us in the beginning was great until she started to ask me for money for airfare (Which raised red flags), Visa's for her and her son to come visit me, money for her son's illness, saying her son needs medicines for his chronic ailment, and so on. Once I refused to give her the money she requested, all communication from her all of a sudden stopped! As she and I talked on the phone as often (As well as on Skype) as we could, she told me before she can marry a man, under Ukraine law, since she has a child with her ex-husband, I would have to pay her ex-husband off ( She told me enough money so he can guy an apartment in Ukraine) in order for her ex-husband to allow his son to live abroad. I am not sure about this type of law, even if this such law even exist in Ukraine? I told her I sure don't have that kind of money to pay off her ex-husband as I am a retired man of 53 years of age. I even told her I didn't have a lot of money. I guess she just ignored that and kept blabbering on about her financial problems and so on. Oksana told me that she was a Teacher/Translator of English and Russian language, but she wrote broken English, I mean her English for a so called Teacher/Translator was absolutely horrible. Her written English sometimes caused me headaches trying to make sense of what she was trying to say. I mean she spoke English very well, I have to admit that much. She even sounded much younger on the phone than the age she told me she was (37 years old is what she told me she is). She really sounded as if she was 19 years of age. I will add her email address here: [email protected]
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With sincere,
Clarence Blake

Welcome Clarence,

Thank you for posting this information. Posting email address and photos used is fine, though we do ask that you post one or more or the emails in which money was requested also as evidence of scamming. Many times, scammers use scripts, a series of emails written in advance. They may use those same scripts under multiple names. The early emails and those around money requests are the most likely to be reused, and posting these can help others to avoid being scammed. I can't answer for certain on the "pay the ex off" claim, but I can say that I have known several people over the years who have dated and/or married internationally, and I have certainly never heard of such a requirement--and a friend of mine who for some time was seriously involved with a Ukrainian woman with a son (she and her son are here in the US now, and her son spends summers in Ukraine) has never heard of such a requirement either.

In addition, if you can post a header from one of this person's emails, we may be able to confirm general location from the IP's (certain areas are notorious for scamming) or the use of a mass mailer, which is another sure sign.