Not sure if my soldier is legit or not

I met someone on match. com. he has never asked for money and tells me he has done well for himself. He contacts me through a yahoo IM sight and email. I have gotten one phone call from him. He says he was born in London and moved to the states. His accent is not what I had imagined. I thought it was my cambodian student at first when he called. The thing that concerns me is I asked for his AKO email and he responded with I have not heard of it. I called my friend who is a lientenant Colonal and he said the name slightly differntly, but he understood what I meant. This soldier is in Afganistan and his name is Darren J Fisher. I have several pictures of him and one of his son. I know most scammers do not call. I talked to him today via chat IM and he got very upset that I did not believe in him. He also doesnt always write like a english american. That could just be typos. I just told him that I had heard of soldiers not being who they say they are and I just want to be safe.. I should have added that is one reason i wanted the AKO account. How can I find out if he is real. I try and search his name on white pages but he is from LA, California and there are a few. Again no money asked for, tells me he has a nice house, cars (makes and models), and has called me on the phone. Another flag is I asked if i could mail him something, but he said not right now for security issues and that he will not be there long. he is supossed to retire in a couple of weeks. Should I play this out and see what happens. I will never give money, I have non to give. I have basically let him know I am a single mother of two, working two jobs, and my car just died. So he has to know I have nothing.

Welcome to Scamwarners, nailgirl!

Yes, he's a scammer!!! I say this with 100% certainty, just based on the little bit that you've posted.
Please post an email that he's sent you, including the headers. Instructions for finding them are below, in my sig. I'll probably be able to tell you where the message was sent from in one minute flat and it won't be Afganistan.

No doubt about it. There's the lack of an official email address, the fact that he doesn't sound American or English (typos don't explain that), and the whole feel of what you have told us.
Some scammers ask for money quickly, but others will groom victims for weeks or months first. What you told him won't stop him asking you take out a loan or borrow from friends.

As the others have said, he is a scammer. The accent that sounded Cambodian to you was African; this particular romance scam (posing as a US soldier) is typically carried out by African scammers.

Soldiers can get packages. They have access to mailboxes, called APO boxes, that handle mail on military bases. If he was in such a secure location that he can't access mail, he certainly wouldn't be able to get on chat! But of course he isn't a soldier in Afghanistan, so he could google an APO address and give it to you, but he wouldn't receive what you send. Scammers frequently use "security" as an excuse for anything they can't do for other reasons (for example, getting on webcam, which the scammer can't do because he is not the person in the photos he took off the internet and sent to you.)

As far as the email address goes, any legitimate US soldier would know what you were asking for with a US military address.

You may have told him that you have no money, but Africans scammers don't care if you say you have no money. They believe that you can get money if you really want to, and they don't care if your life is ruined getting it. When they think they have you hooked into their lies enough to send money, they will encourage you to send your rent money to them, claiming they will pay it back before the rent is due. They won't hesitate to tell you to sell your belongings (even your car), take out a mortgage on your house, or borrow (even steal) it from anyone. Many times they have dealt with a victim with no money, and still managed to get something.