Mister John (John Varsanyi) [email protected]

I've been talking with this guy since November 28th, we met on Match.com. Last night I "pulled the plug" on him because the day before he asked me for 900$. Of course I refused ! He supposedly lives in London UK, a 47 yr old widower with an 11 yr old daughter. He said he was going to China on a business trip for the company that he owns, sent me the flight details and everything and 24 hours after being in China, he tells me that he's now in Malaysia because business isn't any good in China. I have 2 phone numbers for him :

447045702970 and 447024079588

He was supposed to be coming here to Canada in mid February, he even sent me the confirmation email from KLM

I have all the emails we've shared and messenger exchanges also and these photos :













I really liked this guy, please tell me I did the right thing...

You absolutely did the right thing. There is no doubt that this is a scammer.

The person you have been in contact with is almost certainly a young African man who has been in Malaysia all along (there is a large cell of African romance scammers operating in Malaysia on student visas.) The 4470 phone number is a forwarding number which tells me your scammer has never been in UK. Calls to these numbers can be forwarded all over the world, and scammers pretending to be in UK use them routinely.

These scammers often reuse the same scripted emails even when they change names, so posting the emails he sent you (remove your own info) may help even more people to avoid being scammed.

As for the scammer, simply cut of all contact with him.

email addy leads to a MS profile
uid 511671256

Mr
Male, 56, london, London and South East, Großbritannien

Gender: Male
Interested In: loving,caring,smart,outgoing,romantic,passionate,kind,with great sense of humor,moral and family values,ready and willing to be a wife and mother....and communicate socially and achieve her goals in life too.
Bio: I love traveling, the outdoors, national parks, camping, photography, going to the ball park, an evening at a comedy store, bowling, or just hanging out and chilling, and a passion for music, good food & wine. I have a passion for enjoying life, what ever it brings, and and at the end of the day, want to have fun and share all of that with some one! I’m a well read & well educated, successful, honest, confident man and have a good sense of humor. I'm basically an easy going good natured caring man with a strong crust and allot of guuu underneath. Attraction is the catalyst but personality is the key to facilitating a friendship which will lend itself to trust and respect which are all the necessary ingredients to facilitating a relationship that will have the prospect of longevity. I'm a successful professional in my own business in UK.about 6 foot tall, about 185 lbs, in good shape, 46 but look 35. I've swim 3-4 times a week for a long time am a widower I have a daughter and she is 11years old

also uses [email protected]

My head knows I've done the right thing by cutting all ties with him, now my head as to talk to my heart....But thank you for your input !

here's copy of his 1st email :

hello dear
Hope you are having a nice time out there,i just want to drop you an email to tell you more things about me and hopefully get to learn more about you too,you never can tell what the future has for us and where we could go from here,i believe in fate and i hope it leads us to something positive and for you to know that distance is just a distraction and with a better understanding and communication we can make the distance short,i was introduced to this dating site by a friend who met her soul-mate here,i think i can start by letting you know more about myself,am an ambitious, optimistic, playful, hard working, devoted, intelligent, trusting, genuine,honest, sincere, witty and easy going man. I'm very passionate in all areas of my life.I value honesty and trust. That's what I'm all about and i always tell my daughter that if you don't have them,you don't have anything.It is important to have passion,romance, physical attraction, a playful attitude, with lots of laughter i strongly believe in all this too. I have strong family values and morals,Am a Hungarian,living in UK ,i have been living in Budapest before i moved to UK few years ago,i like watching football golfing,cooking hanging out and BBQ, am a down to the earth man with lots of joy and happiness to share with my missing rib when i find her,i have a daughter and she is 11years old,Should we have a relationship and you ever have the opportunity to meet her she will steal your heart away, before I can! I am very involved, volunteer .and am also into charity works like helping the needy and less privileged,Ashley is the best thing in my life now,i have not talked about the mother of my little daughter,my late,Nora, died of ovarian cancer 6years ago,and since then i have been alone in this whole wide world without that someone special to call mine,dear am sorry to bother you with such lengthy note from me,i just want you to know that am the one who is searching and will be glad once more if you will give me a response to my email and also meet me online for a chat,attached herein this email are some photos of I and my daughter,i hope you like us and send some photos too
love and roses John

And another one a few days later :

hello dear,
Thanks for the heart felt email,i just feel i should go ahead and tell you more about myself because am the man here and i guess there is a saying that says when a man findeth a good wife he findeth good thing,love and blessing is bestowed upon him,so from the beginning it has been the duty of the men to look for their bride,i have never been in an online dating and don't know what to expect,but am willing to put in my best to it and see what fate leads us to,am 5ft 11inches tall and i have a masters in Business management,my wife was a muslim from singapore so i guess i can always adapt to cultural difference again and i hope you know that age is just a number and does not count ....my daughter is the best thing in my life now and i believe that falling inlove with a woman from afar is a clear indication that we are meant to be together,now i guess you know why i prefer to communicate with you rather than women living close by,am a business man dealing on fabrics on wholesale basis I live alone in UK(london) with my baby girl Ashley,i have a puppy dog(frise) its name is billy, i also employed the help of a nanny who is a Jap who helps with the cooking and chores,that does not stop me from cooking too,my fav color is blue,my zodiac sign is Virgo,dear i want to assure that i could come over to see you when am sure of what you truly want from this our newly found friendship,am here online to look for my true love,a woman that has a big heart,ready for a serious and honest long term relationship,a woman that believes in a one man,one woman kind of relationship,a woman that has true moral,cultural and family values,are all this too much for me to find?Its right for a woman to keep to herself and be reserved,especially matured ones,yes i know that,dear please don`t look at me as a stranger anymore, feel free to me and i promise to do the same...take care and don`t forget that i will be waiting for an email from you again and i hope you will really tell me things about yourself like i have just done,hope to meet you online someday for a chat where you can ask whatever you want to know about me. love and roses.
John

I forgot to tell you that I found a photo of him under the name of JOHN BERTH KOSLOV

Hope this helps.

Hello everyone,

After searching some more on the net, I found the site they use to translate, at least I think, I'm just not sure if I'm allowed to post the name of the site online here or not

I found traces of his email address on it and sentences that were used in emails he sent me...

That's it for now, be well and keep safe.

Please tell me.....When does it get easier ? When does it stop hurting ?
My head understands...but not my heart...
A week today that I cut all ties with my "fake Lover", but somehow I still hope and wait for a phone call, an email....
Always thought I was a bright woman, but now I doubt it

Hey, don't beat yourself up about it - some of these guys are professional. It's not that you are not intelligent, it's just that you trusted someone, and there is no shame in that. The shame is on these lowlifes, who not only want to take every penny you have, but also have no conscience about breaking peoples hearts while they are at it. It's easy for an innocent genuine person to get sucked into their games. You are genuine,and honest and therefore you think that everyone is the same. Unfortunately they are not.

Hello alyette,

It does take some time to get over the emotional damage scammers cause. As Teacake said, these people are professionals at getting people to trust them.

I am sure you had no idea that there are people like scammers on the internet. You probably had no reason to suspect that people like that exist. It is not that you are stupid, you did not know what to beware of. Sadly, thousands of people fall for scams every day.

We are pleased you found us and have broken free from the trap the scammer set for you. do things to celebrate your freedom. Find an activity that is positive for you.

Teacake, Bubbles,

Thanks for the feedback. Yesterday was just a bad day for me I guess. I too am pleased I have found you and this site, it's a great help to me and I'm sure many others.

10 days after I "pulled the plug" and deleted and blocked him from my computer at home, this morning he wrote to me at work...

Scammers are persistent and many will pursue you like that. It certainly can be unsettling. Just block and if it becomes a problem, you may need to speak to your IT department.

They really, really, really want your money.

Hey I just saw the e-mails on John Berth Koslov. Unbelievable!!! The guy did the same with me. We met on Match.com in February 2011. He sent me the same e-mails, same story. He was using another e-mail address back then: [email protected]. He also sent me a copy of his flight schedule from KLM, he said he was coming to see me and never showed up. I cannot believe he used the same story. Business trip to Malaysia, needed money to send to his suppliers. Got stucked in Amsterdam and had to go back to London. The guy stopped calling me by August and then started contacting me again under the e-mail address Alyette mentioned. This message is to Alyette: you're not stupid, these guys know what they are doing. He sent me a different passport, same date of birth, same nationality. Luckily, I met someone and moved on. I'm sure you will do it too.
About the pictures, the same girl on the picture (the daughter, he said her name is Ashley) different guy on the pictures.
I wish I had found this website before, it was really hard for me last year when he didn't show up because I really like this guy back then.

olivetree01
47, London - North, , UK
Seeking women 37-55
He is a favorite. soulmate wanted
yes am 47 and still sharp and lovely,looking for that someone special to spend the rest of my life with,life can be too short if you know what i mean,i have a daughter and she is the best thing in my life,looking for that special someone can be very very difficult and i hope that i find her here and that we meld naturally just like adam smiled when he first saw eve and said this is surely and truly mine,please don`t laugh ohh.anyway am looking for a good woman with a good and loving heart,willing to love,care and share like am willing to do,with great sense of humor,romantic,passionate and must have good moral and cultural values since i have a daughter around,i hope all this is not that much to find in one woman,i have to stop here and i hope that this works read less »
Interests:
Fishing/Hunting, Political, Volunteering

Thankyou, it's good to know that I am not crazy or whatever...what I just put in quotes is his profile under another name that I just found on Match.com. He (they) stick to the same story and timeline that way they have less chance of getting mixed up in their story I guess. But after 2 weeks, it still hurts to see the pictures...

I know what you mean, it hurts to see pictures and the e-mails. Until you meet them it's going to be just beautiful words but at the end they are just words.
When this John guy changed his e-mail address to the one you have, he said he wanted a new start. Whatever!!! I'm glad you reported his story and I'm sorry that you have feelings for him. They are really good on making you feel special. This was his e-mail to me:

hello Dear,
this is my third time of sending an email to you on this site,am just been curious,is it that this site does not really deliver my messages to you or is it that am too ugly to be your friend,you can meet me in my private email and we will talk more about one another via email and chat,you never can tell what fate has for us,i might not be able to read your email on this site because i don`t visit this site regularly so i will suggest you contact me at buzzjohn49 AT h o t m a i l DOT c o m
thanks and best regards
John
[email protected]

hello
Hope you are having a nice time out there,i just want to drop you an email to tell you more things about me and hopefully get to learn more about you too,you never can tell what the future has for us and where we could go from here,i believe in fate and i hope it leads us to something positive and for you to know that distance is just a distraction and with a better understanding and communication we can make the distance short,Am a Hungarian,living in UK at the moment,i have been living in Budapest before i moved to UK few years ago,i like watching football golfing,cooking hanging out and BBQ, am a down to the earth man with lots of joy and happiness to share with my missing rib when i find her,i have a daughter and she is 13years old,she is the best thing in my life now,i have not talked about the mother of my little daughter,my late,Nora, died of ovarian cancer 6years ago,and since then i have been alone in this whole wide world,i don't keep friends because friends have not been useful to me in the past so i don't have them but i intend to make new ones,Dear am sorry to bother you with such lengthy note from me,i just want you to know that am the one who is searching and will be glad once more if you will give me a response to my email its [email protected] and also meet me online for a chat,
love and roses
John

Ouch

It's like rereading the emails I got !!!