He used two email addresses. At first,
[email protected] then he said he was having some difficulties with it and asked me to use
[email protected]As horrified as I am, I will post some of his messages. The first few were on a dating site, I only kept one of them. The dating site was PenPals.
Here it goes:
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Thanks for getting back to me. I feel happy hearing from you. I got the e-mail you sent to me and i must admit i love em.... Too many questions though lol.. I don't know where to start answering them but i guess i just need to answer them one after the other. It feels good to be able to start something up with you though...
Yes my job allows me to travel to alot of places and see many parts of the world. It is also very nice to hear you have had some of your family in the Force. I think it makes it better and easier for us to get acquainted as i think we will get along well.....we already are lol.. when do you expect to be back from Cuba with your families ? Are you going over there for business or pleasure ????? where would you love to see in Africa ? I have not been to Africa but i have dreams to visit some parts there too, hopefully.
It is good to know we would be able to travel together if things work out between us. I would love to see places with my partner too. Why 2005 has been a long time. Have you had other dates since then ? When did you joined the online dating scene ? have you had any luck ? i am new to the online dating world too and i don't really know how it works out yet but guess this is just it, we can work things out if we both think we are looking for something similar. What i seek straight forwardly is someone to love and spend the rest of my life with happily. Someone to marry and grow old with. I want someone who is ready to be committed. Someone who wants a loving husband and a happy home .... Roger that ?
Hmmm, i wouldn't say i have a good sense of humor because i wouldn't want to judge myself, when we meet, i am sure it will be more pleasure for you ( i have an excellent dna ) lol....I am happy you understand i can't always be online due to the nature of my work but like i said earlier, i will and always will find time for you, if things work out between us which i hope they do, i am sure you will cherish all these moments for the rest of your life, so will I.
I think this says a little more about me. I need to get back to the base now for second formation and will get back to you as soon as i get some break from work and will also reply your other e-mail message. Thanks for the time. I hope you will be able to check your e-mail messages when you get to Cuba. If you want to send me any reply, just do it directly to my personal email because i don't come up on this site often. Hope to read from you soon
Evan
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The rest are from his personal email account.
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Thanks for the message. I have been waiting to hear from you and it actually feels good being able to hear from you. How are you ? I have seen the second message you sent me, too much questions lol... but i think it is a very good idea to be able to communicate and get to know more about each other. You need to sign in to yahoo messenger and add me on your contact list as
[email protected] , that way we will be able to chat. If you do not have the yahoo messenger application installed on your PC you can download it at the website messenger.yahoo.com/download . Once downloaded and installed, you can sign in with your ID and we will be able to chat once we are both online. I hope you get this quite well. I must admit i your profile caught my attention and i can't wait to chat with you so we can get acquainted and work things out. I wish us the best............ I will answer your questions in the other e-mail as soon as i get a break from work today but right now i need to get back to the base. Thanks for the time. Hope to read from you soon...
Evan
how is your day going ? it has been a long day and i'm so exhausted but i think i need to keep my promise to you about writing you and answering your questions. I love keeping to promises, after all i made them.
Thank you for the pictures you sent to me. I must admit you are a very cute lady. You look naturally endowed with beauty. No flattering, and you do not have to worry about asking me questions, it is a way of getting to know each other well and i am going to take the chance to get to know you and see where this leads. Your questions, hmmm i have been in the military for over 15years, i love my work and the people i work with so it really helps. Some of the troops are best of friends once attached to the same base. We get along quite well, we have been here for the past 6 months for peace keeping and we are still on the mission.
About having children, I believe only God gives children, so if luckily my woman can still give birth, i would cherish it, if not, i would happily take her kids as mine and if she has none, we could adopt or just live our life, it is as simple as that. I'm from a very small family, perhaps because we are spitted here and there. I grew up in Mesa, Arizona so i guess that answers if i grew up in the city or country..
NO i have never tried online dating, i am new to the online dating scene and don't know how it works yet. On a first date, Since both of us are taking a "leap of faith" not blindly since we are already attracted to each other through our pictures/emails and we already determined that we are not serial daters or criminals and it is safe, it is best to set up a somewhat romantic setting instead of a "two second fling" of a meeting at a Borders, Dunkin Donuts, or Wawa only to say goodbye like we are brothers or sisters at the seashore! It is somewhat insincere so let's make a real date and take a real chance at learning about each other!
If we already have a crush on each other, girl... let's go for it what the heck! On the first daytime date, we could go to breakfast/lunch and take a walk in a park or mall depending on the weather. On the first evening date, we could to go out to an Italian restaurant. After dinner, we can take a nice walk together by the river or a historic little town. If our relationship blossoms in time, my favorite plans sometimes include a drive to the shore and travel with my partner and see other nice places in the world. I'm hopeful. I need to get some rest now and will reply the other parts of your questions later. Thanks for the time.
Evan
Thanks for getting back to me. I hope you are having a nice journey. I am sure you are... What is PenPals ? The only site i wrote you is on the other site we met and on here too. Nothing more than that. There is no problem if this is the best way for us to communicate. I am just very glad we can still talk while you are away. Montreal ? That is in Canada right ? I have been to Ontario couple of times too... I love it there, too.
Do you come back to the state on 8th ? I'm just curious when you said you won't be able to set up messenger till then, just wanna know, and you do not have to worry about asking me questions. Ask as much as you can and i will happily answer em. It is a good way to get to know each other don't you think ?
I have few questions to ask you too and will want your sincerity and honesty on this. hmm here i go, Where did you grow up ? What do you do when you're alone? Which sports do you most enjoy watching? What is your favorite color? Would you love unconditionally ? Are you ready to be committed ? I won't bombard you with too much questions lol... I need to get back to base now. Hope i get a message from you soon or perhaps when you get to Cuba. I'll be patient.
Evan
Hey Jill,
What a nice way to start the day with a beautiful message from you .. I must admit it has been a long time a woman captured my attention this way. Well, i will be giving this my all and hoping it works out real well for us, though we are both new to this online thing and don't know how it works, i am sure our way will find us. I try to look at the positive things i have done in my life and amend my mistakes, i am never skeptical about anything.
I guess we both a crush on each other, and we should go for it. This might be what we have always wanted in our life. I know it is gonna take time to find out, but what the heck girl, let's go for it. What more can a man say to the woman who opened her heart to him, allowing him to feel the warmth of her friendship across the great distance that separates them? I must tell you the truth, and it is i have great feelings for you, even when we barely know each other.
It is OK if you can't have kids and i would say that again. If things works out well between us, if we want we could adopt a kid of just live together happily. All i want is someone to be happy with forever no matter where we are and what we do. Paris on a first date ? That is a lovely idea and won't mind seeing there for the first time, when the time comes, anything we decide will be fine by me.
I wish you knew how much i want to meet you too right now, but i am sure we just have to do this and when we find out that special spark exists between us, then we can figure everything out and it is going to be well, i am sure. It is good to know we are both in the safe side and we are giving this a real try. Thanks for making me smile wonderfully, again.
I'll get back to you soon. Evan
how ya doing ? I thought i should check on you and answer rest of the questions you have asked me. Guess we stopped at the first date thing right ? Favorite movie is Titanic. I love that movie, don't know why but i have watched it couple of times and never get tired of it. my favorite song would be Mia, by Chevelle, it is a Christian Gospel Music of the 90s, have you listened to it ?
I have been reading the questions you sent me and love the way you want to get to know me, perhaps i am throwing the same questions back to you. I would also love to know you that much. What would i choose as my top possession ? I guess that would be my Bible. It is what i rate most in my life. I don't cherish luxuries. I don't really have a favorite TV show because i am always here and there and there are different TV shows in countries and since i am used to traveling here and there due to the nature of my work, i barely have one. God ? he comes first in my life and everything i do, so if there is going to be any relationship with me, i won't underestimate God in my love life. He is capable of doing anything anywhere and if we can put him first in this, i am sure it is going to work out well btw us. Arggghhhh. Happy to be able to answer all your questions. Now i am throwing them back at you. Have a safe flight, roger that ? lol... Waiting to read from you soon.
Evan
Thanks for getting back to me. I am so happy to hear you arrived
at Cuba safely. What does it looks like around there ? Perhaps someday
we could visit the country together just for fun and pleasure. Pen
pals ? NO, the dating site i registered with is
MILITARYSINGLESPLACE.COM but i guess they are affiliated with other
sites too. I can tell we are just destined to meet.
About the yahoo messenger thing, you don't have to worry about it,
perhaps when you get back i could teach you how to use it, I can be
pretty helpful. It is also good to know you live in a very conducive
area, i could visit you someday if i am welcomed... lol...
So good to see you answer all my questions, i am glad being able to
get to know more about you and probably getting acquainted with you.
I'm not the skeptical type at all and believe me, i already have a
crush on you and would love to see us give this a try.
I am a social drinker, i do not smoke nor do drugs. I am mature and
experienced. I like making people laugh and resolving conflicts. I
have a good sense of humor and an excellent personality. I enjoy the
good things in life good company, dining out, movies and sometimes
theater. I like sport and enjoy jet-skiing, para-gliding but have yet
to try hang-gliding and hot air balloon.
Autumn is my favorite time of the year. I like the slightly cooler
temperatures after summer, and love the changing colors of the leaves.
Northern Michigan was a beautiful place to go for a color drive, and
also Northern Wisconsin. . . After autumn, I like spring and summer.
Last of all, I like winter. The first snowfall is kind of pretty but
after that I've pretty much had enough. I'm not much of a winter
person. My favorite color is yellow also, what a coincidence, I love
yellow tulips and yellow roses (so you can tell I'm a romantic).
Yellow brightens things up; it brings cheer. I love the yellow
taxicabs in the streets. There is a place I stand in front of
Symphony Space and from there I can see a sea of yellow taxicabs for a
long distance. It always makes me happy. The color yellow is a
little underrated, in my opinion, -- because it gives much happiness!
I love outdoor activities. I love picnics in the spring and
summertime (autumn is O.K. too).I like fishing and camping, but I have
to confess I have not been to the museum for over 20 years, and I
haven't gone fishing since I was a little boy on Lake Paradise in
northern Michigan where my parents would take us in the summertime.
It was a peaceful experience, I remember.
My parents are now deceased, i lost my father years back to lung
cancer and mom gave in about 2yrs after my father's death, she pretty
much couldn't live without her. They were so attached together as far
as i can remember.
I wish i could talk some more but i need to get back to my duty post
now. I will await a message from you as it always makes me happy. Have
a nice day ahead.
Thank you. Evan
How are you doing today? I'm so sorry I have not been able to get
back to you earlier. We have been super busy at work as we had more
formations and work to do. We also had to train more this time of the
year but I want you to know I have truly missed chatting with you. I
just felt like a part of me was missing but thank God I was able to
make time to write you. Your messages makes me happy and gives me
hope, something wonderful to look forward to. I love it.
Wow so you have luckily been able to catch some fun around there and
get to know other places in the city...that's interesting. I would
love to go on a horse back ride along the park with you someday too,
hopefully we can do that without bruises though lol.
Please kindly keep me in your heart and be rest assured out of sight
is not out of mind. You are always on my mind......miss you
Evan
So good to finally read from you and be able to write you. I could
almost regard you as my fiancee already. I feel like I'm writing
someone I have known for years. When we meet, it surely will be a
great experience for us.
Cuba sounds like a place I would love to visit with you. The things
you have said about the place and the people makes me want to. I have
been to many countries too but only on official basis, and I'm also
alone or with my co soldiers. It would be a pleasant experience for me
to visit places with you and plan our family together. I know we still
have a lot to know about each other but I'm impressed so far with who
you are. You will surely be a great happiness and lovely woman to live
with, no doubt. This thing I'm feeling has not been felt since a long
time, so for that too, I'm saying a big thank you. Perhaps when we
visit Cuba, you could show me the places you have been to and I will
definitely love to go on a horse back riding with you in that water
fall you talked about. Waterfalls makes me happy.
I'm a sergeant in the US Army and I am charged with the task of
training new crabs ( newly recruited soldiers are called crabs ) and
also making peace around here. That is the majority task for all of
us. My tour here would be for a little while till we are able to make
peace around here but if I have a reason to take a leave, that could
be done by my wife, fiancee, family or friend as there will be need to
do that officially and all protocols must be duly observed. It's not a
long short. Just formal writing to our master base in cyprus by
someone I know. I would love to visit you in Canada soon and perhaps
take you down to my home in the US. We would have fun doing that too
while we get to know more about each other. You do not have to worry
about asking me questions, for now this is the only means we have to
get to know each other till we meet so ask me anything
dear............ I need to get back to my duty post now and will write
you soon. Have a nice day ahead and have fun with your family. I think
we have a deal, you teach me fishing and I teach you messenger lol.
I'll catch up with you later.
Xoxooxo
Evan
In response to your questions, firstly i must say we have all had past but we should not be affected by our past, we should just try and forget about the past and move in to the future, I try to look at the positive things i have done and amend the mistakes i have made. I tend not to sit back and look at the past, it makes me weak and God so good, i have moved On
Hmm, My Middle name is Matt, It is sad to hear you marriage ended so sadly but there are better days ahead, i am not the type that loves JUST for a while, though it takes a while for me to fall in love but when i do, it is for better and for worst, no letting go for anything or anyone anymore. We should just take our chance and learn about each other, so things will be made perfectly alright. There would be problems and obstacles, but are we ready to come through them and fulfill our dreams ? Our destiny is in our own hands. I am looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with. There will be flaws of course, but we surely would overcome them if we are determined and committed to each other. I have never been married and never really came close to marriage because i am always deployed here and there and i don't want to love someone i can't spend good times with. If things work perfectly well between us, i may take voluntary retirement from the army to spend good time with my wife, probably go into a new business.
I reside in Mesa, Arizona. Mesa is a city in Maricopa County, in the U.S. state of Arizona and is a suburb located about 20 miles (32 km) east of Phoenix the capital city. Mesa is in the East Valley section of the Phoenix Metropolitan Area. It is bordered by Tempe on the west, the Salt River Pima-Maricopa Indian Community on the north. I have lived here since i was a kid and i have a home here with about 2 acres of land which i intend to use for business when i retire. I would love to deal with lives stocks. Just an idea, something else may come up. I love it so much there, the museums, the culture, the people, our resort, I love Italian and Spanish dishes, and yes i love hockey, i am proudly a supporter of Coyotes in Arizona. I still follow the news and sometimes watch there matches on TV. Just two days back we defeated the Blue Jackets 2-0. I was really glad.
I need to go now Jill, please write me
So great to read from you again. I must admit your messages brings smile to my face. Why so quick ? I can't tell myself. It has been a while i have been this happy, this hopeful about a new love life. I can't wait for you to be in my arms because apparently belong here. I also can't wait to meet you in person. You have brought exceptional smile to my face when i least expected it, for that, imma say a big THANK YOU!!
Jill, i want you to believe in yourself and follow your heart. Don't let anyone stand in your way of what could become your everlasting happiness. The reason i have been talking to you is because i am in need of someone to love and be happy with. I want to be happy. I am not someone that break people's heart. I know how much it hurts when we have our heart broken so i don't think i could do anything to hurt anyone. I also want someone that would trust me with all her heart too like i would.
I have been told i show excessively simple and trusting view of the world and human nature, but why do i have to be skeptical about someone i want to trust and believe ? Someone i want to spend the rest of my life happily with. If we are going to work things out and we are really determined to keep this relationship, i think we need to keep our conversations private to avoid obstacles. I think a good relationship starts with trust, love and commitment.
My best friend who works here also in the army corps of engineers ( Designs, engineers, and builds roads, military housing, dams, bridges, and other facilities for the armed forces) yesterday was wondering why i have been online quite a few more times than i used to, we used to play card games together after leaving our duty post but now i spend time reading and replying your messages, he wondered who i was sending messages to but i didn't say a thing to him or tell him about you because i want nothing to come between us. I love privacy with my woman. When the time comes, they are going to meet you and get to know you and likewise your people get to know me but for now, i believe keeping it personal would be the best for both of us. Just to make sure nothing and no one comes in our way. If we already have a crush on each other, what the heck girl let's go for it!!!!!!
I want you to be sure i would never hurt you or break your heart if things work out well between us, and if i make a promise, i sure would keep it. I'm a man of my word. I would rather not make promises i can't keep. I love keeping to my words and hope you keep to yours too. I am a good Baptist Christian and i follow my faith, we get a chance on Sunday morning to go to Church, a marriage in a church would be the best for me, and you ? Still waiting for the picture you promised to send...
No Jill i am not a drill sergeant, I'm in the special operations forces, we trains Army Rangers (highly trained infantry units) and other specialized troops for unconventional warfare. I was part of the troops that was deployed to Iraq in late march 2003 when the U.S. Army took part in an invasion of Iraq to depose the regime of President Saddam Hussein, who was suspected of concealing weapons of mass destruction. It was a great mission and i am very proud to be part of it too.
The grand canyon state is a place to be, with our healthful climate, with clear and sunny skies and dry weather, is one of the state’s chief assets. It not only attracts tourists but is often a delight to residents, especially those suffering from asthma and other respiratory complaints who find relief from dry air. You would definitely love it here.
If i take a break from active service, it would be for 2-3 months. I guess that is enough time for us to get to know each other and make plans with each other. Initially my tour was for 5 months but i extended it for another 8 months this last February so i should still be here for another 6 months if i don't think i need a break. I'm still in service and will get back to you soon. Hopefully, i can write you some more soon. Enjoy your day.
Evan
What a blessing to get a message from you again. I have been waiting till i can read your emails. I know it is hard not being able to get in touch with you as soon as it should be but i am sure you understand the nature of my work. You have always remained on my mind and i would cherish this feeling for the rest of my life.
I must also admit you came up when i thought i couldn't feel this way about anyone anymore. Words can no longer describe my feelings for you, but rather in feeling and emotion of what we have for each other. Do you know what it is like when the one you love so deeply and dearly but so far away? Your heart cries out their name and yet there is no reply.
All you want to do is hold them in your arms, and you cannot. All you desire to do is to kiss their sweet lips, and you cannot. You long to hear their soft sweet voice as they whisper words of love to you, and you cannot. You just want them near, and they are not.
So, what do you do in such times? How do you keep your wits about you? How do you maintain some semblance of normal life, when all you can do is think about is the person that you are so in love with and that you would do or give anything just to be with? We need patience, trust, love and commitment to make this happen which i have already given and also very determined.
I love the way you put in every effort that you can just to make everything work for us. With just the thought that somebody like you would always be there to lend me some of her time just to make me happy and complete is incomparable. I really appreciate that, even though presently we are apart. I am not sure how long will you be there for me, but I just wish it would be forever. I have love, i have hope and i have dream, happily i am ready to share them with you. I need to get back to the base now. Let me know when we can chat on messenger so i will try and put in time to chat with you. Happy Easter
Evan
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Sorry I put so many of his email in there, but I thought it might be important to see how quickly things progress. There is some personal, painful things in there about me, so I hope it helps. If you want more, I kept them all. Including the forms that were sent to me to fill out, and the tellert receipt he used to say he had paid money on his end. I have it all.
Is there anything I can do to warn the soldier that belongs to this information? To let him know is id is being used for this?
Thanks
