by kate123
Tue Jul 03, 2012 1:02 pm
A month ago I've met a man on an online dating website. He claims he's a soldier and he's on some mission in Libya. He's sent me pictures of himself but I'm still not sure if it's him. He asked me to send him an iPhone 4 so we can communicate. I did some research and asked him what his MOS is and he said it's E-5. If anyone could help me find out if it's a scam, I would really appreciate it.
Here are some of his messages:
then, after some time he sent me this:
and an email from this morning...
Here are some of his messages:
Hi Pretty,Just wanna take this time to write you and to share with you more basic information about me that will help us to start knowing each other better, my biography and me growing up till this very moment as am man of myself, my full name is Larry Butterfield,…. am 46, my birthday is Feb 2, I have my own home where I live in PA, it's very big and comfortable, car park space, pool and recreation rooms a very conducive home of happiness it is, originally brought up as an orphan in Matthew Town, Bahamas. before I was being adopted by a military man and brought to the CA where I grew up, did really had much buddies growing up tho I am happy with my life and give God thanks and all the glory. I got finally divorced last 2 yr Nov. from a 17 yrs marriage, only married once in my life it's a long story how the marriage all ended, but I'll give you a brief, my ex cheated on me several times even with a friend, she was into felon acts and was into drugs, she even almost got me killed, I am blessed by God with 2 kids, Lori and Stephen My kids are all I have got and I give thanks everyday that passes by having them in my life as they are all I work for and hold the future to, hopefully I can find that special woman to fall in love with..I am a God fearing man, I enjoy boating, hiking, camping, fishing, nature, walks on the beach, sunsets, movies, music, cooking, and quiet nights at home.
I'm presently active in service with the US Army and deployed in Libya been in the military on active and inactive duty for 23 years, it's really hard being far away from home and most especially my kids but I plan to retire from the Army soon in order to start a family life as soon as am sure I found the woman to get settle down with, I believe we can always take things slow and see were it leads as I am very much interested in getting to know you more better as I find you a kinda woman I would love to go out on a date with, have some romance and I must warn you am extremely romantic and like to share and show my feelings to my woman all the time, even in public, kisses, holding hands and having sweet talks, you might have to consider me to be the old fashion type of man with my way of loving..lol, I really need a woman to come up to and be there when I will be back to the state, a woman that will be mine forever and that will cherish me for me and we can live together with the kids forever happily after as I always read then in story books and tales how 2 partners in love lived together grow old and still are in love with each other, well I think I should stop here for now and maybe you'd like to write me telling me more about yourself and your biography, I wanna know every single thing about you and you are free to ask anything you'd love to know about me, am an open book and open to answering your question…P.s I wanna be sure if you are really interested in getting to know me, there should be no other contact with other members from the site, cos I'm a one woman man,when am getting to know someone I focus only on that person and I would love to be treated them same way....Thanks and hope to read from you soon again, Larry.
then, after some time he sent me this:
list of ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points and a few revelations of what follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier.
1. Get serious, and I don’t mean the relationship. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into.
2. Get used to being alone. Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. They work weekends with little or no notice. Bases are often several towns or states away. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Learn to love a long distance relationship. It’s not a bad thing. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you.
3. Don’t ask for the details. Soldiers have stories. A lot of them are funny and interesting. A lot of them are dull. And a lot of them are neither. Understand that these guys have to deal with things that the average person couldn’t imagine. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. So my advice? Don’t bring it up. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
4. Be cool with his friends. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. So if you get the big invite to meet them, treat it as though you were meeting his family. Dress to impress. Be polite and respectful. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys. Don’t drink to much, don’t discuss politics or religion. And most of all, be friendly. Your man’s showing you off to some of the most important people in his life; do him proud. This served me well.
5. Don’t be afraid to take the lead. Yes, we all know that a man who takes charge is appealing. But a military man spends most of his time having other people telling him where to go, when to be there, and how to be dressed. Truth be told, it’s hard for them to turn this off. That coupled with the stress and exhaustion that comes with Army life can make it hard for him to spend lots of time planning things for the two of you to do together. Now, this does NOT mean you should boss him around. But he’ll probably appreciate it if you do a share of the date-planning. Choose the restaurant, make the reservations, pre-order the tickets. If you make the effort once in a while, then he can sit back, relax, and enjoy the evening you planned.
6. Your friends won’t get it. I’m sure you have wonderful friends, and this rule may not apply to all of them. However, in experience, finding people who understand the trials and tribulations of being in a relationship with a soldier is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Among friends, I’ve had girlfriends who want to hook them up with soldiers, guyfriends who ask if he’s going to kill them if they flirt with me, and even coworkers who, shall we say, were less than supportive of the military in general. As a soldier’s girlfriend, you’ll have to field a lot of the same questions, and frequently clear up misnomers about the Army. Your girls may not get why you don’t want to go out because you’re waiting on talk to him everyday. Your guys may not get why you can’t hangout. Hopefully, you have a few close friends who’ll try to understand your new lifestyle. But be prepared some of them just won’t get It.
7. Don’t cheat on him. This should be a no-brainer. In fact, if being unfaithful is a possibility at all for you, I’ll have to recommend you head back on up to number one and give this relationship some serious consideration in the first place. Needless to say, soldiers place a LOT of value on loyalty. So if your guy has committed himself to an serious relationship with you, he’s most likely going to stick to that commitment, and he expects you to do the same.
8. Censor your life. This one’s complicated. You may not think it now, but while you’re dating an Army man, weird things can get to you. I used to love the miniseries Band of Brothers, and would occasionally turn it on in the background if I I was working. Then, after falling in love with a medic, this changed, and it really caught me off gaurd. I was watching an episode, and suddenly, it hit me harder than it ever had before. I went to sleep with the screams of “MEDIC!” still in my ears. And I could never watch it again. This will probably be true for you, and even your guy, as well. Certain movies, television shows and video games were suddenly off limits in my house, because they disturbed him or gave me nightmares. Get ready to make concessions in this department, for his comfort and for your own mental well-being.
9. It’s the little things that say the most, this is true of any relationship, but it can mean so much more to a soldier. Be it baking him a batch of cookies to take back to base, writing him a letter (snail-mail) buying him gifts like technology stuffs (Ipod, Ipad, iphones, psp, wrist watch, cologney e.t.c) he being overseas, or simply shrugging it off when he has to cancel a date last minute because he just found out he’s got an early call the next morning, doing little things that may seem insignificant to you will matter so much to him. It’s making sure to text him good night before he bunks in. It’s sending him a funny picture that will brighten his long, hard day. It’s giving him a backrub if he’s been doing hard PT all week. These little slices of normality and tenderness can mean the world.
10. Be proud of him, and make sure he knows it, Army life is hard. It’s demanding, it’s scary, it’s painful. It’s also, one of the most rewarding careers a person can have, and one of the greatest things one can be a part of. This conflict runs through a soldier’s mind every day. So when it comes to your feelings, make it easy for him. Be proud of what he does. Don’t pretend to be. It’s easy to do. A soldier is brave, he’s smart, and he’s a tough son of a gun. So what’s not to be proud of? Feel free to show your pride in the conventional ways a bumper sticker, a t-shirt, etc. But simply telling him you’re proud of him, and meaning it, will say so much more. For my first birthday we were a couple.
So there you have it. If you’ve decided to enter a relationship with a soldier, congratulations. But be warned, it’s not going to be anything like a “normal” relationship. Sharing your man with the Army can be a challenge. Strike that it will be a challenge, So prepare yourself, you’re about to embark on what can often be a trying adventure.
Is it worth it? Every minute, in every way. just find out yourself, Love the man, and you’ll love the soldier. And truth be told, that’s all you need to know.
and an email from this morning...
Hey babe, good morning Hope your night was good, thinking about you and missing you so much here as I write you this, i am sure you catching some nice sleep and maybe dreaming about me, we couldn't get a hold of each other last night cos I couldn't use the internet, i think I figured the internet is being shut down from the server room by the admin not knowing I was gonna be in the computer room making use of the internet, well taking this time to write you more about me, my religious belief and things you should know about my feelings for you already,I am reassuring you that YES am for real with you and there's nothing more that I want than to have a special woman as you in my life which I hope you'll give me a chance, I feel obsession to meet you for real already, I understand when you say you are starting to have feelings for me, I need you to be able to tell me your feelings and confide in me, we should never have secrets right? I just wanna give my 100% and more to make this work and more.
Just me......
I don't know where these feelings are coming from. I am never like this and I never let myself get attached to someone so quickly especially when I have never met them.but one thing I know is that I will cherish you and adore you to accept to be my special woman cos you really make me the most happiest man on earth and the thought of that provokes an instant smile on my face and I love smiling and to see you smiling too, The words you say to me just make my heart melt and smile at the same time. I let my guard down sooner than I thought would be possible. I do not want to get hurt again or be cheated on. I know you do not sound like you are that kinda woman to hurt me I promise you that I'll never do anything to hurt you, I'll be reassuring you that everyday by day and you'll have to promise me that. I also went through a bad experience when my ex abandon me and my kids for another man which I think I have stressed further my story to you when we chatted. So I have had some really shitty (excuse my language) experiences in my life and only pray and hope I never have to experience anything like that ever again. Mostly for my kids, has never been exposed to abuse and hope they will never have to see it or have it happen to them.
My kids are the best thing that God has given me. I am so blessed that God has chosen me to care of the kids in this life. He has made me the person I am today. So with that being said I hope you realize and understand that I am a very sensitive person and if I do let my guard up now and then you know why, but am letting myself go with you cos I feel this is right. I do not want to put myself in any type of situation where I would get hurt and not be able to trust.but the truth is that I trust you with my whole heart that's why I've given you my attention, please keep and take care of my heart and I do yours, I feel that we've got a strong thing going on with the connection of love that would keep us together forever
my religious belief.....
I'm a man of Noble Orientation,Classical Charisma,Polished Countenance whose bossy mass within is Loaded with certain skills and competencies. Obviously,I'm a serious Radical with Flexible Anthropocentric Principles,well built anatomically in terms of intellectual expressively,I'm a Pure Breed of God whose word delivers kindness,hope and an Unquenchable love.
One of My Best Scripture is Psalm 103:2 that goes thus"Bless the Lord,O'MY Soul and forget not all His Benefits". Its quite Unfortunate that lot of people lives as a complete strangers to themselves.we should be careful of those who stand aloof to greet each venture with reproofs.I like people with an inbuilt drive or mechanism to be successful,resourceful and result oriented. people with an identity,inner courage and strength. Also,i detest liars,i do not entertain such a person in my space.Life is Ephemeral and lots only worth living when one is with right person at the right time and in the right place. A lot of people abuse love and Relationships due to lack of wisdom,attachment behavior towards custom,tradition and Racism, True love don't Iie,it knows no Boundary,its like a seed that Germinates and once it is planted,it extends it branches beyond a limit of attachment behavior towards racism,Custom and tradition.Though its hard to find.Remember God gave us his Only
Begotten son.
My instinct tells me you are excellently saturated,you worth Celebrating,caring for and he that fineth you finds a Good treasure that worths dieing for.The Thought of you paints a smile that is Resistant to changes in my heart.i wouldn't mind what it would cost me to keep you my heart and treasure cos you're all I have got in my life now and my kids
kisses XOXOXO!!!
Always Larry.
