Hello,
I should have replied to this email as soon as I got this welcome letter. I joined your forum because I am currently posted in your site as a scammer. I decided to wait for a few days to calm down myself and also to decide the best way to approach this. I was thinking of replying to the posting about me but decided against it. I don't want to drag myself further into this drama. All I would be asking from you now is to kindly remove the posting there about me. I am a victim, an honest person, not a scammer. I'm willing to provide to you with whatever is necessary to prove that I am not a scammer. Although he hadn't asked for money but that's because we were so new.
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A fews days ago, Aug 22 to be exact, this guy responded to my Ad in Connectingsingles.com. He gave me his Yahoo YM ID (
[email protected] ) right away so we can start communicating outside of ConnectingSingles. My mistake was I gave him this Yahoo email/id <snip> in return.
So in no time I received an introduction email from him. He said he works for UN and also an agent in the US Army. (at this time I was confused how he can be with the UN and US army at the same time but I went along with his story giving him the benefit of the doubt). He said his wife died while giving birth to their second child. And that his eldest daughter is taken care of by a Nanny (in London he said later in our chat).
Later that night we started chatting. He mentioned that after 27 years in the Army, he'd like to retire but needs to find a wife who can be his beneficiary before he gets out of the military. He said that as soon as he got married he'll work on his retirement papers.
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He also mentioned that he is a Senior Master Sergeant, and is quite wealthy. I asked him how he got to be wealthy because I don't believe a military person makes that much money unless he is one of the the top brass. He mentioned that he inherited it from his Mexican father who died when he was young. And his mother died shortly after. So he said he's alone in this world - no wife, no parents. So I said don't forget you still have your daughter.
Anyway, when his story started to be too good to be true (because he kept repeating how wealthy he is) but kept asking how much money I make, my assets, a red flag really stood out waving.
He wanted me to commit that night If I want to be his wife. I said "Yes but we need to slow down because we just met".. For 2 nights we chatted until past midnight.
Jokingly in our chat, I told him that he fits perfectly the profile of a scammer. He asked me why so?...I said his stories are too good to be true. He just laughed. But although I told him that as a joke, deep inside I was really seriously suspecting him already as a scammer for many reasons (most of these were from previous personal experience and from what I read in forums like yours).
- He said he has lots of money in bank but which he cannot touch until he gets out of military. He loved to talk about his money. But he also kept asking me also about how much money I make and how much money I have in my savings account.
- His parent are both dead
- I told him he is too young for me, and quickly he told me not to believe his age as posted in the Ad. He quickly gave me a different birthday making him closer to my age
- He is an only child, has one child himself, and no friends
- His emails were mostly grammatically good (perhaps copied from a script), but in our interactive Chat his grammar was really OFF (wrong). When I asked him about this he said he talked mostly Spanish when he was young.
- He cannot do video calls. He said that it is to be expected because he is in Afghan. (He asked me to send a request to his "Commander" for a secure line so we can do video cam. But his "commander's" email address ends in .com instead of .mil or .gov)
Before I went to sleep that day, I went to Yahoo and searched for "scammers posing as US military guys". Your site came at the very top. What I read shocked me, because the guy being discussed there is the same guy I was just talking to - Same email address, same pictures, same work, same story.
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When he came online to chat, he acted as if he did not read my offline message. When I confronted him about it, he behemently denied that he is that person in the site. He said that his email was hacked. I told him simply to go just go away..to leave me alone. Before I could block him in my Yahoo YM and email, he pinged me and he said that he just found out that I'm a scammer. He said he went to the site and I'm posted there as a scammer. I was shocked because when I was there reading they were just talking about this one scammer with the name REDE MiCKEY JAMES. I suspect that when he got my offline message early that day, he quickly posted my name/email address just to spite me and get even. I asked him if he posted it himself..Of course he denied.
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You could ask him for the receipt of the money remittance he claimed he sent me. If he can't then you know he is lying.
I know your site is meant as a forum where victims can talk about their case and also serve as warning to others. But what about if it's used in reverse. What if the scammers used your site to ruin the same people they have victimized or are trying to victimize or just to get even with this type of forums. How can you protect them?
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