Is this a SCAM???

I have been talking to this guy for a few weeks we met thru Facebook. He has sent flowers and said all the right things. He wants to take care of me and my son when he is back in the States, along with him and his son...we will be a happy family,etc. etc. He told me that he is in Afghanistan and will be home in July. When he gets home we are going to travel,etc. I fell for all this and wanted to believe it because we talked for hours everyday. Well last night he told me that he broke his laptop and needed one so we could keep in touch. He also wanted some pictures of me and my son that he could put in his room as well as some candies, cards, body wash, shampoo and deodrant (which I know soldiers always need and want). Well I happen to have an extra one and was willing to send it to him but a big red flag came up when he gave me the address. It is to a diplomat in Ghana? To me this doesn't make sense but he assured me that all their supplies go thru Ghana. He has even given me his cell phone number. We have been talking on yahoo messenger lately. I have his name and cell number as well as facebook and yahoo names. I hope it is not a scam but I almost fell for another one...by the name of Leroy A Petry until I searched your site. Thank you for your help. I also have the address he wanted these things sent to as well as the diplomats name.

Welcome to Scamwarners nukeh98.

You know the answer nukeh98, don't you ?

Ghana isn't located on the route from the USA to Afghanistan and It's being sent there because that's where he's located and he's been lying to you all along. That being the case, he isn't in the US military and his promises are lies too.

US soldiers don't need laptops to be sent out to them. They can buy them. They can use their friends' laptops and the bases have computer connections.

Scammers have a funny idea about the function of diplomats. I can assure you that they don't get involved in the transmission of electronic goods. This is a strange idea of West African internet scammers. The Army Logistics Corps are in charge of that but he doesn't want it to go to Afghanistan. That's not where he is, or ever was.

I'm sorry to be the one informing you of this. If you don't mind losing the laptop, the problem is that his demands will change to cash next - for leave, unexpected accidents - whatever.

Hi nukeh98, I am sorry to tell you but what you have written is definitely a scam. There is no way that an American soldier stationed in Afghanistan is getting shipments through Ghana. That just does not make sense. The flowers that he sent you were probably paid for by a credit card he stole from another one of his victims. Please post up his information and copies of emails, including full headings to prevent others from becoming victims or you can send me all the details via PM and I will post them up for you.

I'm sorry to have to say it is absolutely a scam. He is in Ghana, not Afghanistan, and he is not American. The odds of you meeting a real American soldier who is stationed in Afghanistan who chats with you regularly and wants to start a relationship are almost zero, even without his flagrant mistakes.
Packages to soldiers do NOT go through a diplomat. They do NOT go to Ghana. They would be sent to a military post office and he would have an APO address.

The military makes sure soldiers can contact their loved ones. You would NOT have to send a laptop for him to remain in contact with you.

As for the flowers? He didn't pay for them. Some innocent victim whose credit card info was stolen and sold would have actually paid.

We have seen many more of these "care package" requests lately. Scammers have been doing this for 2 reasons: to make themselves seem more authentic, and to test the victim to see whether she is hooked enough to start paying.

Thank you all. Yes I knew it in my mind but my heart did not want to believe it!! I knew he was to good to be true!! The flowers, the notes the promises of trips and taking care of even one. If it sounds too good to be true--it is!!!!

Thanks again for everything...you saved me a laptop and some shipping costs...and I am done with online men!!

nekeh98

Hi nukeh98,

Thank God you realized it before it's too late. These bad guys really know how to say the right words-those we want to hear. Online men,well, I don't know if there are "real" ones out there. Fake profiles are everywhere, you don't know whom to believe nowadays. I think it's best to remain single, nothing to worry but yourself....lol

Hi nukeh98,


I understand your pain....I feel the same, dear--
My heart broken and my life is at the moment a BIG CHAOS. Of course i did not send any money, he asked me, he told me that his notebook was destroyed but i fought and i did not send it.
Do you know what the most high pain?? The fact that we believed in them, in their beautiful words, plans and lies.-
A very dangerous animal cross our heart and hurts us as they can...adn want.
I really dont know when my hell will end because after I proof him that he is a liar, he tried to change the way of the things and told me that never would ask me anything and wanted to stay with me
The most bad feeling I FEEL FOR MYSELF...I am crying now...
HOW COULD I BELIEVE IN A MAN WHO NEVER MET ME BEFORE????+
I dont know why ------Because I am the fortress of my family..-.and my sisters and brothers dont understand HOW did I get it to my life?
some days I wake up in the midle of the night with the tears destroying my face....it´s so much salt for me---
We made many plans....but he never talked about money..and my flag was conected when he talked about the health problem of his daughter.
I felt very very strange his English grammar and said to him...he laughed and said me I DON´T CARE, DEAR
I think that i lived all the last years waiting for this man.
In fact, I did not want anything from him....I wanted ONLY him and together to construct a new life...
I dont know when it will happen again but i ONLY KNOW THAT I NEED TO recpver myself and in the future to be happy with who can care, really, about the truth!

good luck, dear

Yes I know exactly how you feel. My scammer was really good. His english was almost perfect. A few typos and a few little grammar errors but not enough to throw me off. After all I am not an English expert myself. He said all the right things at all the right times. When I was upset with my teenage son...he was like...he is a normal teen and when we are all together we will work it out together. He even went as far as to tell me he had a 12 year old son that he needed help with because he was smoking and starting to behave badly while living with his grandmother while he was in afghanistan.

For me looking back now one of the first red flags should have been that out of the blue he said that our supplies come through Ghana. I dismissed that comment. Second flag should have been hid undying love for me in like 4 days. But still I didn't see it. He promised me everything...said he was financial well off...all he wanted was a "good hearted, loving, God fearing woman" to share it all with. We were going to travel and he had a beautiful 6 bedroom house in Tampa with a pool andwe would be happy there forever.

Then his laptop broke...he stepped on it! Now he was borrowing his buddies. He loved his "queen" so much and it would kill him not to talk to me everyday. So was there anyway I could get him a laptop it didn't have to be anything great just something to get on internet with. Then he gave me the address of some diplomat inGhana! He assured me that this was for security reasons...that I couldn't send to afghanistan. He assured me that he would get it...etc. It just didn't seem right to me. So I did some research on the net and ended up here. I never thought that this was such a thing! Using military pictures, fake profiles and such to scam.

I've learned a few things 1. Use google images to search their profile picture to see if it has been used in other scams or stolen from another site! 2. The scammers like to use yahoo messenger and guide you away from facebook or whatever site you met them on. 3. They also say all the right things and use " god fearing", queen, my wife, my love, my life,etc etc. 4. If they sound too good to be true...they are!

I wish that there was a way to find the real man who this person stole his pictures and his name and tell him what someone is doing with his pictures and his name. I mean this guy really could be over there fighting for this country and some scumbag is doing this with hs pictures and name. I feel bad for him.

Anyway...I hope you are feeling better and I know it hurts...I' m crying as I write this because I still hurt! I didn't lose any material goods but I did lose a piece of my heart! It' s gonna be a long time before I trust again..and as for online...I'm done....you never know who it is you are really talking to

I'm glad that you have seen through this scam, nukeh98.

Could you please let us know the address and phone number details that the scammer gave you for the "diplomat".
Thanks.

nukeh98
When I was abroad he tried to be online and so...to know how I was...
Nobody broken my heart like him...he gave me the heaven and the hell in ONLY 45 days but I am not upset because i gave him my best part...
Some nights i wake up and ask myself WHY DID HE DO THIS TO ME???
My sadness is something like unknown and I am honest to say you that I would give everything for him to be what he said to me...but unfortunately, he is not...he wasn´t...

you can be sure that these scammers read everything what we write here..How do I know? he sent me the links....I feel that it was more unconfortable...because I thought how he was dangerous...

@M,

Some scammers do find themselves listed here. More often they don't, but it does happen. Does that make him in any way dangerous? No.

In most cases, it means that another victim found the posting and confronted the scammer with the link. While we always advise victims NOT to confront scammers, some do anyway. But, it means that someone else was saved by the information, which is a good thing.

In a few cases, the scammer himself used google to find out if his fake information was listed--this is less common simply because many scammers do not want to waste their time on an activity that won't get them more money.

He might try to threaten you in an attempt to remove his information. That means that his scams are being hurt, which is exactly what we want. He will continue to hide behind lies and false names, far away from you, because he is safer that way. He is still nothing more than a coward and a petty thief who is not going to travel anywhere or do anything to you, because that means he will most likely be caught and arrested.

Dotti,

You are right....He sent the links and asked me online WHY DID YOU DO THIS TO ME? WHY DID YOU WRITE ABOUT ME WITH MY REAL EMAIL ADDRESS`??
So, I guess....he was unconfortable too...Because he did not convince me that i was wrong and when I said YOUR IP is from USa, proof me that you are in Afghanistan...he did noy say anything at all, only that: are you right that you dont want to give me a chance to proof you that somebody took my photos?
I answered NOT!! I`m TIRED BECAUSE I KNOW THAT YOU WILL CREATE MORE LIES...

That is a typical scammer response. The writing in his response to you alone tells me the author is African, not American.

Dotti
I feel that he is a professional scammer...
But, perhaps, I am wrong but something I have said was not what he waited to hear
There was a moment in our conversation that I noticed that he wanted to tell me something but I did not give him any chance