Who is this guy?

Hi guys! I've registered because of the following problem: found my soulmate over the internet. Everything was going fine untill the past few weeks, she started treating me like I was a stranger.
Yesterday she wanted to show me something through Skype, when I saw she's got a contact request that she accepted without a question and quickyl closed Skype.
I'm not stupid, immediately snapped a screenshot. http://imageupload.co.uk/files/ppn8d0xpjeu9sqmltu6o.jpg
I was shocked to see this and didn't confront her yet. Thousands of questions arised. Is the love of my life on a dating site? Who is this Alec Chandler and why does he send a contact request like "hi how has your day been? hope you having fun." ???

As a man who is full of adrenaline and could kill for his lady, I wanted to know more. So I started to google myself and found a little bit of more information about this ***hole.

First this dating site: http://ww3.sugardaddyforme.com/?page=gallery&mid=3540769
At this point, I was about to have a heart attack knowing that a guy from a dating site contacted my woman like they have known each other for a while.

Then I've found him on another dating site here without a profile picture and contact information looking for women from 30-60.

What made me sucpicious is that we're talking about a http://www.mingles.com/alec1975/ young,tall and handsome man that is registered on so many dating sites? I mean why would a guy like this go this far if not because of sex? Why does he send such a contact request to my 43 yrs. old girlfriend?
Why does he claim he's 38 but doesn't look more than 28 even if the pictures are 2 years old?
How do I know that? Simple.

I started connecting the dots when I've found Mr. Goodlooking on facebook. Here is his profile https://www.facebook.com/alec.chandler.988?fref=ts.
Questioned myself: why does he have no likes for his pictures? Why does he have only twenty-something friends?
Why does he have posts only for 2011 which are basically like "can't sleep" and posting Akon youtube video. And why did he disabled his wall posts for privacy while yesterday I was able to view it? Does facebook send out notifications to people if you watch people suspiciously?

Anyways, I just couldn't see the concept behind this. A woman that I was planning to marry would be on a dating site looking for other man. Why?
So I went into his basic information through facebook and saw the following: "I am kind, considerate, and generous Man, I am also brutally honest and speak my mind."
Then I copied this, and saw that on his Mingles dating profile each letter matches this. EACH.
A lightbulb appeared above my head. Then I went to check for his wallposts and saw a line which I copied and pasted to google as it was, turned out it was a quote of a Christian website and each letters matched also.

Afterwards I've found some more information about a possible scam. The last post of march 2012 here: http://www.wordtravels.com/forum/discussion/3883/do-white-people-live-in-nigeria/p1

Well guess what. This is the same guy.
Last, but not least I've started searching and quoted his introduction text from the dating site.
Guess what, I've found quite a few results and the first one popped up had SCAM in the title.
Found girls who want to build a gokart too ( ) and a guy who has the same text but instead of having one cat and two dogs, that has one cat and three dogs.

So I thought I've solved the case myself but no, I didn't. I need your help. I feel so hopeless and desperate, depression is tearing me apart. I want you to answer me some questions:

1. How did this alec19751 found out about my "soon to be married" woman's skype address?
2. Why did he send such contact request message to her while my gf accepted it and closed the program immediately?
3. Is this Alec Chandler guy legit?
4. Why would he disable his facebook wall posts just a day after I've found him? Can he track me?
5. Why did he remove the quote from the dating site from his facebook information? Does he sense something?
6. Why didn't I see no Skype scam requests starting with "hi how has your day been? hope you having fun." or the name alec19751?

I am in the worst situation guys. What if I don't confront my gf about this so she won't reassure that this guy is a scammer or a player?
What if I confront my girlfriend and find out that this guy is just a scammer and she would be turned off due to my insecurities and I get to lose her?

Please, help me!

Welcome to ScamWarners desperate man.

Scammers patrol dating sites all the time and send out invites.
You may not like this but what worries me is your love for a woman you met online. Have you physically met "her"? If you haven't, it's possible that "she" is a scammer too. A scammer would accept an invite in the hope that it's another victim.

Well, I work online, I get payed for what I'm doing. She is my boss and owns a medical/health condition related page and professional website which I need to manage my own. We talk everyday and I get to see her via webcam, she calls my phone if I'm away for too long, sent love post cards to me, introduced me to her family and so much more. She even bought me the flight ticket because we are planning to settle down (soulmates) so we are talking about a real person who I've met online because we have the same medical conditions/disabilities.
But the fact is she became distant the past month and I have no idea what's going on.

I need to know about this Alec guy. Is this a coincidence?
I've never heard about scam requests through Skype before, but after reading on this forum now I know that not only they send requests but start chatting/flirting with the person and I'm very upset of what could be going on.

As I said, scammers send out requests all the time. If the Skype address isn't hidden, then she may receive a request. A lot of people accept this request out of the blue, assuming they must know this person from somewhere... That is quite a natural response.

As far as your relationship goes, we can't help. However, it looks like "alec19751" is an online romance scammer.

As I said, scammers send out requests all the time. If the Skype address isn't hidden, then she may receive a request. A lot of people accept this request out of the blue, assuming they must know this person from somewhere... That is quite a natural response.

As far as your relationship goes, we can't help. However, it looks like "alec19751" is an online romance scammer.

Thank you very much for the response! I appreciate it.
I'd like to hear others answering this too.
I'm furious and desperate.

Here you go: http://www.adventistmatch.com/profile_frame_nm.asp?username=alec1975
Once 6 ft 1 next time 5 ft 6, not to mention that on every dating site he writes the same shit with being "brutally honest" etc. Can't even spell if you check the link.
Case closed.

Sorry for making such a big deal out of this. I don't make a difference between someone calling my woman names or trying to make a move on her. I don't know where is this scammer located but better be on the other end of the world.
Have a nice day people!

In case it gets deleted, I'm posting the profile here:

Marital Status: single - never married I go to services: every week
Hair Color: black Ethnicity: White/Caucasian
Hair Style: clean cut Born in: USA
Eye Color: blue - light Height: 5'6" (168cm)
Education: master's degree Body Type: average
Studies: engineering Occupation: Construction
No. of Children: no children Income: under 15,000
Custody: I have no children Smoking Habits: never
Children: I definitely want children Drinking Habits: occasionally

I am kind, considerate, and generous Man, I am also brutally honest and speak my mind.I enjoy laughing and making others laugh. am an honest,sincere man tired of people playing head games on me.I am down to earth and love to have fun and be adventurous... love to laugh (good sense of humor) I enjoy all sorts of activities, including surfing, visiting museums, taking long walks, sing along with the song on the radio (sometimes badly) and dance around my living room. I stun people with my creativity. I used to be a Trekkie. I like to bake and love sugar. I am allergic to bee stings. I love pets and have 1 cat and 2 dogs. I drive safely, even while talking on the phone, but usually above the posted speed limit. I like many kinds of music, especially hip-hop/rap,oldies, show tunes and country. I know the physical properties of glass and use this knowledge to my advantage. I love riding rollercoasters. I want to build a go-kart. I like to wear casual, comfortable clothes. I believe there is life on other planets. I love romance and am Very romantic.I love kids so much, I own and can operate power tools. I know how to correctly pronounce "nuclear." I love sunrises, sunsets and feeling the warmth of the sun dance on my skin (not for t

"I love kids so much, I own and can operate power tools."

I am looking for my soul mate,I want a woman who will love me as much as I will love her. A woman who will be honest and faithful. A woman who will make me her priority, as I will her. woman who is affectionate, loving, thoughtful, attentive and not afraid to SHOW me how much she loves me not just tell me. A woman who can laugh w/me, cry w/me, love w/me, etc. A woman w/a good personality and sense of humor a life partner, a soul mate.

This blather shows definite West African traits. Months ago I used to get emails from scammers on Amigos Adventistas; thankfully they have stopped. If I remember right, they came from Senegal.