This guy just contact me again, he is just shameless, he said he got the courage to contact me and that he was sorry and this was his first scam but he got in love with me and that he loved me but he can't not give me my money back….. is this crazy or not?. I said if you love someone you don't do those things to someone you love and if you make a mistake you try to fix it. I was deep in my heart hoping that he really was serious, but at the end of the conversation he just wanted to ask me if i would remove this information. He found what i posted on this site. So everybody be alert, the scammers are reading all we post here as well.
They have already a script that they use and i think it's good if i give more information for all the girls out there in dating sites who think (just like i thought) that they found "the true love".
They are specially interested in single mothers, close to 40 – 50 years old, they don’t mind if they have children, they will (if you let them) involve them in the story as well. Specially if you have been having a difficult life, you are a better target or if you are on the moment having a difficult time, because then you are vulnerable and they will take advantage of this. This guy is really good in psychology and will try to manipulate you and touch your heart and emotions with all the information he can get from you. In my case, i believe in God and he took advantage of this as well. So they will use anything to get you where they want.
First this kind of guys come so friendly to you, writing really polite and nice, that they want to be your friend.
After that, they try to get you out the dating site and keep the contact better on facebook, yahoo, hotmail or any IM platform.
They will keep in touch with you and they usually have a "broken heart story". In my case, he was an US military at special force working there for 18 years, living in NY Manhattan, Irish American, his mother was Mexican. His wife died of cancer 5 years ago when she was pregnant, when he told me that my heart was really moved and i feel so much compassion for him. He also cried on the phone when he told me that, this guy is a really good actor, deserve an Oscar. His voice sounds so sweet and he sounds like he is in the 30’s, he have an accent but you can see that he also is educated. Anyway i check him on facebook and on the net, i found some information and it looks oke then, so i thought it's safe to chat with him, but look out girls, they just make fake profiles on the net and they look so real.
He called me almost everyday, specially in the mornings and at night, because they are really intelligent, he told me that he want to be the first person i thought when i wake up and he also called me at night, so he will be the last person i thought before i sleep. We also sleep on the phone, soooo romantic, hearing each other breath, sleeping together on that way... i was in the clouds. They just do this so you get used to them.
He told me he was in Afghanistan, he was 50 years old and he was thinking to retired, because i said that i didn’t saw myself having something with a military. So, he told me he will stop his job pretty soon. We keep in touch for 3 months, and he told me that he loved me, that he was crazy about me, he give me so much compliments, about how intelligent, sweet, beautiful etc, i was.
He told me he was a lonely man just searching for love and he has found it in me. I told hem i was scared to be hurt again. He asked me to leave out past behind and start a new life. He propose to me, even he said was too soon, he was someone that was so sure about me..... to her past wife he was getting married in 2 weeks after they knew each other. He got me so crazy in love that i just accepted on the phone his proposal, but i told him that he has to come first to meet me to my country.
He sang for me, he wrote such beautifuls e-mails, he sent me poems, he called me his “bluesky”, he sing the song from backstreets boys “as long as you love me”, everytime he called he always ask for my family (like if he minded), he was such an adorable someone and i was feeling so lucky i had found my true love.
Those kind of guys will ask you not to tell anybody about your relationship with them, like this no one from your friends or family can advice you that you are getting in problems. So, he asked me not to tell anybody because he said “we are trying to work things out first baby”. We had 2 or 3 times discussion about it, but finally i thought he was right, but no girls…. if you are in love you want to share it with your friends or family and the other person too, so if they ask you not to say something, then it’s something wrong!.
He told me he was so in love with me and sooo tyred of his job that he will stop his job, i thought first he will get retired or something like that, but he told me he will scape from the camp because it was not other way possible, yes ladies, you heard it good, he will scape from the camp and risk his life for me, to get “home” soon and be together, he told me that other guy there in the camp did the same and he was living right now with his girlfriend and was not a big deal. Now that i am writing this i think how can i be so stupid to believe this story, sounds crazy now that i write it down, but yeah….. the emotions played an important role here.
So, i didn’t knew anything about military life, so he told me he could not give me any address and that he got everything paid there so he didn’t spend any money there and he didn’t had access to his money till he will go back to NY. But he was someone that has savings and his own house, he even sent my pictures, but they are fake of course. I remember he tried to find out about my finances, we start to talk about making plans to live together, he told me how much he earned and he told me he has some money saved on the bank, after he will stop his job he will start his own business so he can have more time together, sound perfect...isn't it?. Then he asked me how much money i earned and if i had savings, so if someone ask you this, be alert!!!
So, continuing the story…. he told me he will scape from the camp, it will take him 5 days to go to Malaysia, there was safe because people speak English and he will buy a ticket to go to NY. But here it comes…it was a big problem….he didn’t had any access to his money…so i have to be the idiot who will pay his flight ticket…. And yes, crazy enough i told him i will pay his ticket.
The day he leaved the camp, i was thinking that it was crazy, it was crazy that he has done that and it was crazy that i agreed wit his plan, his life could be in risk on that dangerous place and anyway it has to be another way to stop his job, i was sure that was not good thing to do...and i start to search information on internet about that , i found out that abandon a duty was seeing like a crime, then i start to worry a lot. After that i didn't heard anything from him, i was so worry, and in 5 days, like he told me, i heard about him, he said he was in Kuala Lumpur, he had risk his life, he almost got killed, a group of guys beat him, but he was alive and he will never do something like that again. I was happy to heard he was safe, but i told him what he did was actually irresponsible, he could go to jail, he said to me it was not like that , when he go to NY he will resign and he will flight to me.
He told me because his name will be traced, he had convinced a girl who was receptionist at the hotel where he was staying, to use her name so that i could send him via Western Union the money for the flight ticket, her name is Arizah Binti Daud. Unfortunately i was so in love and i really believe all the story was true, specially because i checked the IP right on that time trying to find out if he really was in Malaysia, and then he was really in Malaysia, so i just really believe he had risk his life for our love, even it was not the right thing to do, but i told him, we was together in that problem and he will go to the end of that together.
I sent the money, he even sent me the ticket, which was almost like real. Please girls, if you get so far to do this, call to the airline to check if everything is real, but call the airline not a fake travel agency because i read they used that kind of tricks as well. Don’t forget that they don’t work alone, they are in a group, with more people, they are bandits, fakers, really criminals without a heart.
So, after he buy the ticket, i thought he was landed on NY. But oh, oh, i got a phone call from someone that i didn’t knew, he sound arabic, his English was bad, he was a moslim he said, his name was Mohamed. He told me my military man was being arrested trying to get aboard on a flight to NY in Kuala Lumpur and what he did could give him 13 years in jail. I was shock, worried and i almost past out but i tryed to keep calm. After that i got Russell on the phone, he was crying, begging that i had to said something tot his man, called Mohamed so he can help us. Russell sound so in panic (so good actor is he), and i ask him to calm down and i told him that i will talk with Mohamed to see how he could help us.
This guy, called Mohamed told me, he never had seen someone so in love like Russell, he only wanted to talked with me, Russell told him if he will had to die his last wish was to talk to me, and because he was a moslim and because he had a family, he will try to help us. He will talk with his boos and try to find a way out for us. He will send me all the information in a letter.
After that i got a letter, they asked me rescue money for him. I had seen television programs about Malaysia and how corrupt is the people there, so i really thought that was just money for them to let Russell free. I didn't trust the guy but i trusted my Russell. I got later that day Russell on the phone, i told him they ask me money but i didn’t had it, he ask me if i could lend some how money, he will pay me back everything as soon as he will get in NY.
The next day, Mohamed called me again, telling me that i had to tell Russell to eat, because he was spending his money on food and he didn’t want to eat anything, so you can see those people really don't have a heart, they let me think he didn't wanted to eat, this is just so cruel. Anyway i talked to Russell and asked him to eat, i told him he had to eat otherwise he could get sick and we will get only more problems.
I was so worried, i couldn’t sleep those days, i was not feeling good but i was feeling so guilty and irresponsible about all this and i really thought that he’s life was in a big danger, specially for that reason i found the way to get the money. Money that i didn’t had my self.
So, i got the money and i sent it with Western Union again, this time to Irnawatibinti Yondi Yundi, after that they even wanted to tried if i could change the receivers name (i think they had a logistic problem themselves haha) to Ruzita Binti Rasol . Anyway i was so scared that they will ask more and i told Russell if they will ask me money again i will go to the television or i will call the embassy or the Military, but i really had to get him out of Malaysia.
After that, the guy Mohamed told me everything will be all right, the papers was ready and i had the chance to talk with Russell again, we were so happy that he will be going to NY soon. I was feeling happy but still worry because i knew he will get problems in NY.
Russell called me and told me he was going in the plane. After that i got an e-mail telling me he had arrived to NY but he got arrested as well and i didn’t had to worry, he had contact his lawyer and he will help him. That it was better that i didn't write to his email
[email protected] because he didn't want me to get involve in case of an investigation and that i would beter write to
[email protected].
I didn’t heard anything from him in about 10 days, all those days i couldn’t sleep and eat almost nothing, i was getting sick, my health was not doing good, i was sooo worry that i didn’t heard anything from him, i didn’t had any way to contact him. But finally…one night, after praying to God to know something from him, i went to Google searching all kind of information and i found out that someone else was having almost the same history i am writing right now.
I couldn’t believe it, my heart was directly broken, i wanted to suicide, i almost did, i resist it to believe it, but finally i start to think rationally, i start to read about scammers and all they can do and finally my eyes went open.
I know girls, its so hard to believe it, but it’s true, there are people out there, stealing money from people with a good heart like us. But i learn my lesson in a hard way. I cried and cried and cried for so many nights, i was in depression. After that i thought a guy like him don't deserve one more tear from me, he is trash and i am valuable, i am a good woman, nobody is getting me down like this.
And like i told you in the beginning of this letter, he even contact me not so long ago, i think in the beginning he didn’t know i knew all this things, i think he wanted more money (they will bleed you till you died, in money terms speaking, the will try to get so much money from you).... but when i heard him on the phone i just couldn’t do anything else that start crying on the phone and asking him why???., why he did this to me?....i told him how i felt, i was not finish and he hang up. After that he called me again, at night, just with more big big lies, telling me he still loves me, he did it for the money but he got the courage to call me and said sorry, haha, courage, better said…”cold blood”, “shameless”, “heartless”, “cruel”.
Please girls, be alert, don’t believe those kind of guys, they will steal your money and they will leave you with a broken heart. This kind of people don’t have a heart, they don’t mind if they hurt you, they don’t mind to get you in big money problems, they just mind money, they just mind themselves. And please, post your story here, it’s a shame that romance scammer it’s getting popular the last years and only sharing your story and all details (how much details how much better) you can give about the scammer will help to other girls to open the eyes.
