Do I report to the IC3?

Hi. I'm still having trouble with the romance scammer. I cancelled the prepaid debit cards I ordered for him, but now he thinks I have taken the money (like $1,000) he had put on the card, now he cannot access it and is demanding his money back. I didn't take the money...a new card arrived in my mailbox, apparently he thinks I reported the card I sent him as "lost/stolen" which does make sense from what happened when I cancelled the card...I said it was stolen, but I haven't activated this new card. What do I do? He is posting explicit pictures of me on his facebook account, which tagged and showed up in the feed and some of my friends saw them. He is trying to get my 13 year old daughter to accept his Facebook friend request. He is calling me a bitch and saying I am the scammer for taking his money. He is threatening to ruin my career. He has my social security number. He has x-rated pictures of me. I have read about reporting things to the IC3 but don't know if I want the stress of a cyber-crime investigation. I guess I am willing to. I know he stole thousands from another woman on this site...and there were others. I consider the money he is referring to as scam money and not rightfully his anyway, but I don't want to touch it, either. Not sure what to do. I have not replied to him ever and will continue not to interact with him no matter what he says or does in the hopes that all this dies down. He is a pro and should be behind bars. Should I contact the prepaid debit card again and see why he thinks his money was stolen? I called the credit company once to say I want it cancelled and they said just don't "activate" the new cards that come, but maybe I should call again and say I want to be sure they are cancelled and what happens to the money he put on the card? Thanks for any advice.

Welcome to Scamwarners minecrafter.

Romance scammers aren't my specialty and the forum admin - Dotti - is probably better experienced in dealing with them than I am, but I suspect this is something best handled by IC3 as there are so many serious implications to what's going on, and it's unlikely he'll let go unless he gets a serious shock to his system - and he sounds very deserving of one.

I'm sure that Dotti will be along shortly to advise.

In a case like this, I would report the fraud to IC3, but since there are physical threats and there is current money involved related to the debit card, you probably want to report them to your local police as well.As f

You also need to go in and alter your facebook privacy settings. Your daughter needs to decline his request and check that she does not know him outside of facebook so he can't send you any more requests. Then she should actually block him so he cannot see her profile either.

You need to go in to your privacy settings and tighten them up (do not have your posts visible to "everyone." Make it either "Friends Only" or Friends of Friends. If you haven't done so, in the privacy settings, you can do a timeline review to see the posts you are tagged in, and you can remove anything he has tagged from your timeline. Then you want to block him as well.

If the money was transferred to the card company and you don't activate the card, presumably the card company keeps it, which just means they profit from the crime. As far as the prepaid card goes, how did he supply you with the money? If so, how did he supply it? If it was through bank transfer, you need to talk to the bank about the transfer you received, and see if they can return the money to its rightful owner. If you received it via WU, see who actually sent it (it would likely have been another victim or mule) and again, see if the money can be returned to them. Or talk to your local police and see if they will be willing to handle the money if that makes you more comfortable. Some will help, some won't.


Since he has your social security number, you will also want to put a flag on your credit file.