I'm don't think I'm being scammed, but....

. I've been talking to, IMing, video calling this man for quite a while. He has never asked me for money or any other favor. He says he wants to marry me but I've got doubts about our age difference, he is Much younger than me. He doesn't want to come to the USA, he wants me come there, he is from Nigeria which is one reason I'm here, but nothing fits the usual scam. Now I wouldn't be here if there wasn't something bothering me, I just can't quite pin down what is bothering me except the age difference. He knows I don't have money, I'm on SS Disability, so I just can't figure this out. We are both quite intelligent and love to talk about many subjects, this he says he prizes very much. So anybody got any ideas? I'd appreciate some feed back.

Welcome to Scamwarners andee2103,

With the little information that you posted I can not say. If your mind and heart is throwing up Red Flags listen to it. As you know do not send any money for any reason. I personally would not travel to see this man because his Identity is unknown. Scammers can fake cam chats.

You may be in the early chats as of now. He knows you can not travel so, he will offer to come and visit you. The thing is he will need money.

Not saying that this person is a kidnapper. It is known for scammers to get their victims to travel and kidnap them, rob and seek a ransom.

Please post emails and transcripts of chats. We should be able to tell a scam script written by a Nigerian from a genuine love letter written by a Nigerian.

I m really very sure that he's not scamming me, his Face Book dates back to 2008, I've combed all the way through it and have seen him in all parts of his life. He has over 250 friends, many many with the same familial name, and friends in the USA, England and Australia. He is the same person on video. We don't do much emailing but will try to figure out how to get one over to here. Its just that I did run into a real scammer last year and it was totally different, he was using an American military persona, and started calling me my dear etc, the first time he contacted me, the second time I heard from him he wanted to know if I lived alone and did I work, when I told him I was on SS Disability he wanted to know if I didn't mind him asking how much it was. I told him it was not enough, and then he proceeded to ask me did I own a house and a car, well let me tell you I cut him off short right there. This is why I think I was wondering about my guy. But everything I've read on your site and other places has left little doubt that he's for real. Oh by the way the real scammer last year was going by Bradley Titus, I remember this because I was married to a Bradley once and my friends mom lives in Titusville. He claimed to have a son Richard and was a widower, all really red flags, yes? Thanks for your help, and no I won't go over there alone, he'll have to come here first, and on his own dime. I may be a crazy older dame but not that crazy, lol.

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Please keep in mind that video chats can be faked and scammers are now using this.

The person you are in contact may not be a typical scammer as in 419 scams/Advance fee frauds that you would see on Anti Scam Sites. You may be dealing with a Pro-Dater. Basically a scammer but does not ask for money up front.

It is totally up to you on this. We can not advise with the lack of information you have provided.

Hard to say for certain but romance scammers can be very, very patient so keep your guard up.

Can you please explain to me what you mean when you replied to my message by a pro-dater and a romance scammer? What is it that they would be after? Thanks for your time.

I am not too surprised to see you back and asking questions.

You must have questioned him on his lies.

I am not sure what of you are asking now.

We can only give advice on information given.

Once again, Please provide his email address and a couple of his initial emails to you.

Scammers are professional liars and thieves.

If it did not work they would not do it.

People from all works of life can fall to a scam.

Scammers work on emotions.

There are no emails as I met him at a Texas Holdem poker site, we talk on Facebook messenger and Yahoo messenger and on the phone. I still am not convinced that this is a scam, all we discuss is his life there and my life here and our emotions for one another. Its been more than month that we've been talking and I have been in contact with some of his friends here and have made one very good friend in one of them, she's known him since 2007 and only has good dealings with him. Now as to what we talk about our latest conversation was about my daughter and her fiancee who are having problems and are possibly breaking up. He told me that his people believe in working things out in relationships instead of separating and that you have to continually assure one another of your love for each other and that Christianity is very important also. He believes that love of God in your heart is what's important that many people go to church and profess to be Christian but he's not in their hearts. Now for instance this is a short transcript of what was said yesterday. Him Hi baby good morning, I love you, I love you so much. Me-i love you baby, with all my heart. Him- I'm holding your words of love in my heart, so I can take them out and look at them when I'm not talking to you. Me-thank you love we must never stop saying I love you to each other. Him- you put a smile on my face all the time. Me- you mean the world to me. Him I love you more for saying that. Me you are fast becoming my whole world. Him oh I can beautify it with my:-) heart and paint it with my soul. Me oh that's beautiful no one has ever said such loving words to me. And etc etc. - So now can you please address my question, what is a Pro Dater? Or a romance scammer? Thanks.

There are no emails as I met him at a Texas Holdem poker site

You saw this man face to face?

You can always PM me if you want. I can also offer voice chat/talk/phone call if needed.

Bryon

Do you have anything you can copy and paste? Typing from memory loses the information we use to tell where someone's from.

The bit of conversation you recall sounds like blather typical of someone who pretends to be in love. "I'm holding your words of love in my heart, so I can take them out and look at them when I'm not talking to you." doesn't make any sense. You can't hold a word in your heart and take it out and look at it without losing a lot of blood and dying!

Very funny on the heart and dying. I'll see what can do on the cut and pasting. Yes I see him face to face on yahoo all the time, at his parents house, his sisters house and even walking through his town where he sometimes takes me on walks to show me his life there.

Andee- I highly suggest you read back through your emails and conversations with this person. See if you give him more details about life than he gives you. See if he says things about you dreaming about him, waking up with a smile on his face or yours. They often talk of Christianity while they're thinking of a new way to get you to give them money. My scammer started slowly, he built up my trust without asking me for money, so by the time it came time for him to ask, I gave him money out of compassion for him suffering a problem. Scammers don't always follow a specific pattern- they have all kinds of ways to make you feel like you're dealing with a real person. Please just keep your guard up and follow back through with anyone here if you have any questions.