by JD75ca
Mon Mar 21, 2016 8:44 am
Hi Everyone,
I'm afraid my mother is a victim of a romance scam, and I could use some advice on finding credible background check services to use. I"m concerned that she may be reluctant to report it, and I'm prepared to do that myself considering the amount of money she has wired this man. Having some proof that he is not who he says he is would probably help to convince her at this stage.
Can anyone point me to some legitimate online background check websites?
I feel like having that info would help to convince her to report it.
Without wanting to get into every detail here, the summary is that I have serious concerns that my Mom who lost my stepdad to illness about 9 months ago is being scammed by a man she met on an online dating site. He has convinced her to wire a large sum of money to a foreign country and it sounds every bit as phony as the classic Nigerian Prince Scam although it's more situational and specific to his con. She has not met this man in person at all over 3 months but has frequently emailed and exchanged texts, and supposedly talked over the phone at times but she said he had a bad cell signal so they haven't talked much.
At this point I'm afraid that the damage is done but supposedly Tuesday she is getting a wire for her "help" in the matter. And per the regular CL/Nigerian Scam protocol it is for more then she is owed and she needs to return a sum of it.
After hearing about it from my Grandparents for the first today I confronted her about it over the phone (I live 9 hrs. away) and she sounded a bit distant about the whole thing but willing to answer the questions I asked her. I got a name, DOB, phone number, and employer for the guy. The area code checks out for the city he supposedly lives in and the employer may be real and has a website and Better Business Bureau Accreditation. However all of this just means he may have done his homework. I have not found his name anywhere from a basic google search, or on Linkedin, etc. A 59 yr. old man isn't likely to have a social media footprint, but nothing shows up.
I asked her to call in and REPORT THIS as fraud tomorrow because the rest of the family that is now aware of this believes that it is. However I am not 100% confident that she will. I'm going to give her until mid morning and then contact her to find out if she has. If not, I'm considering taking the matter into my own hands and reporting it myself.
I don't expect the police or whoever else I speak to to be a wellspring of information though.
So what I'm wondering here and the reason I'm really posting is, are there any good LEGIT background check websites and services online that I can use to run his information and see if anything comes up?
I'd like to get a basic idea of whether or not he didn't just give her a fake name to begin with and she is basically screwed already.
I only discovered this is happening yesterday so I do not know an email address, personal profiles, pictures, etc. that this man has been using to share with the forum.
I'm afraid my mother is a victim of a romance scam, and I could use some advice on finding credible background check services to use. I"m concerned that she may be reluctant to report it, and I'm prepared to do that myself considering the amount of money she has wired this man. Having some proof that he is not who he says he is would probably help to convince her at this stage.
Can anyone point me to some legitimate online background check websites?
I feel like having that info would help to convince her to report it.
Without wanting to get into every detail here, the summary is that I have serious concerns that my Mom who lost my stepdad to illness about 9 months ago is being scammed by a man she met on an online dating site. He has convinced her to wire a large sum of money to a foreign country and it sounds every bit as phony as the classic Nigerian Prince Scam although it's more situational and specific to his con. She has not met this man in person at all over 3 months but has frequently emailed and exchanged texts, and supposedly talked over the phone at times but she said he had a bad cell signal so they haven't talked much.
At this point I'm afraid that the damage is done but supposedly Tuesday she is getting a wire for her "help" in the matter. And per the regular CL/Nigerian Scam protocol it is for more then she is owed and she needs to return a sum of it.
After hearing about it from my Grandparents for the first today I confronted her about it over the phone (I live 9 hrs. away) and she sounded a bit distant about the whole thing but willing to answer the questions I asked her. I got a name, DOB, phone number, and employer for the guy. The area code checks out for the city he supposedly lives in and the employer may be real and has a website and Better Business Bureau Accreditation. However all of this just means he may have done his homework. I have not found his name anywhere from a basic google search, or on Linkedin, etc. A 59 yr. old man isn't likely to have a social media footprint, but nothing shows up.
I asked her to call in and REPORT THIS as fraud tomorrow because the rest of the family that is now aware of this believes that it is. However I am not 100% confident that she will. I'm going to give her until mid morning and then contact her to find out if she has. If not, I'm considering taking the matter into my own hands and reporting it myself.
I don't expect the police or whoever else I speak to to be a wellspring of information though.
So what I'm wondering here and the reason I'm really posting is, are there any good LEGIT background check websites and services online that I can use to run his information and see if anything comes up?
I'd like to get a basic idea of whether or not he didn't just give her a fake name to begin with and she is basically screwed already.
I only discovered this is happening yesterday so I do not know an email address, personal profiles, pictures, etc. that this man has been using to share with the forum.