Sgt Andy Williams

I am now starting to get more and more worried about it now, especially as my mum lent me some money to send for him too.

He doesn't look anything like the picture you posted.

I'll ask him when he gets in touch for his army e-mail address and see what he says. When I've asked him something before (cant remember what now) he said "dont you trust me" and of coures I said yes, cos I do/did.

Did tell him the other day that was very worried cos of the debt Im now in and was thinking of doing something stupid to myself and he seemed very concerned and told me not to

God what do I do next

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE talk to someone.
I lied to my father to borrow £5000 - how could i ever face him and explain??? I felt (and still feel) really bad but you need to walk away. I know exactly how you feel - honestly I do. I know the feelings of conflict, of wanting to trust him. My "Andy" was going to fly into Heathrow on 20th November last year, and I even hassled Col Wells to make sure everything was in place and he would be there. He promised again and again and i believed him. I drove 300 miles, booked into a hotel and had a horrid time finding my way into the terminal. I had flu as well, which didn't help. Then I waited and as the planes arrived and people came out, i waited, and waited and waited. I checked with customs, i hassled customer services and finally after about 4 hours, i felt really ill and paid about £18 to get my car out of the car park. My brother didn't help - he said that if Andy was travelling in uniform, then he may have got kidnapped, or something may have happened, and i should let someone know. Who do you turn to ?? The American Embassy was closed, Andy's pager wasn't working, and i emailed Col Wells repeatedly, until late that night and Andy came online and said that i should have been told the previous Wednesday that he wasn't coming (he didn't think to tell me!!). Went home early feeling really depressed and hurt, but it never occurred to me that he wasn't ever going to arrive. Come mid-December i was chatting to him one night and he had to go out on patrol, then i didn't hear anything more till Christmas Eve when he told me he had been shot and was in hospital, needing 4 operations. I asked why he wasn't shipped to Germany - the doctors couldn't move him in case he got internal bleeding. I still didn't smell that rat. I was about as close to a breakdown as i have ever been, and it was only after i shed all the guilt and pain that i have started to rebuild life. I have no money. My credit card is max'd out and my overdraft is permanently at its limit. But I feel better. Please walk away. Turn around and delete everything about him - don't torture yourself. I have kept some texts and emails, but all it does is open old wounds. I am going to take the final step and get completely shot of him, but it is 2 months since i last heard from him and it is only now that i realise that i haven't missed him for a while. You have to move on.
If your debts are so bad, go to Citizens Advice or similar and they will start getting things sorted with you. Please walk away and get some help

You have to steel your heart - he DOESN'T care about your debt, he'll just ask for more money.

They are monsters and you know deep down that it's not right. I can't emphasise how difficult it is to admit it, but you must. You know - don't you - that it is bad. Even if he is genuine would he ask for money??? No (It's easy to say and difficult to believe) he wouldn't!!!

I appreciate what you are saying to me, but can't believe it can be a scam. Like you in debt, credit card max'd out, mum lent me so much I dont know how to pay her back.

Have asked Uniform how to find out if he is genuine or not and will see what they say too.

Don't wait for them.
Please take my word for it. It is a scam. He is a scammer. It is not true. Walk away. I have nothing to gain from saying this to you, apart from knowing that my horrid experience is maybe helping someone else, and that's what this site is about.

100% you are being scammed, and deep down you know it. Please take my word for it and walk away. There's no point in asking him - he won't admit it!!!

Walk away, get drunk if that's what you want, scream when you are alone (my preference), do anything apart from retail therapy!!! But, as my brother (a police inspector and the one who pointed me in the direction of the scam info on the internet) said, either just delete everything so he can't contact you or tell him to **** off, whichever makes you feel better.

I tried to reason with him, but it was nasty at the end. They have you where they want you (I use the "you" as a general "Us") and will feel nothing.

You know what to do, please do it sooner rather than later!

I appreciate what you are saying to me, but as you say feel it hard to do, cos I have fallen for him so much and dont want to believe it

I know - I would have walked over burned coals for my man, i was so desperate to have him in my life. But that's how they work. You have to get rid of him before he does more damage. The very fact you are here is encouraging and shows that you have the strength to get over this. (Sorry is this sounds immodest) I am a professional business woman. I work in Computing which is a man's world and i have had to fight hard to get where i am. I am the last person I would have thought could fall for this. But i did. I fell hard. I thought i had found my perfect man. He looks so cuddly and homely i couldn't wait to be in his arms, all the feelings that you have. It embarrasses me to say this, but we had very sexually explicit conversations, but god, did i feel good. That's how he made me feel. But he is never going to end up in your arms, in your bed, in your life, he just wants your money and then he will abandon you in favour of someone else. I'm sorry but it is true.

Please turn your back on him and walk away. You will find your perfect man - he is out there, but this guy isn't him!!

Scoobysal

Thanks for your help, still cant believe I've been scammed but the heart does funny things. Just found out from Uniformdating his account has been blocked as they found him to be romance scammer - if only I knew that earlier.

Wouldn't it be nice if they thought to let us know. I felt quite hurt when they said Andy's account had been blocked - they knew he was dodgy but didn't do anything to help!!! Maybe that's an issue they need to address.

I am sorry that you have been put through this, but honestly, you will get through this, and you will get sorted with your mother, one way or another. I'm a mother - I know that i may be angry at first, but ultimately your children are your children and they deserve support.

Give it a go or find someone - you will feel better when you actually tell someone - I have written my experiences down and am looking at a way to see if it would make a short story. Trouble is the end is so boring!! But writing it down certainly helped as well.

You'll be fine. Take care of yourself.xx

Thanks for everything

Going to ask him about it if he comes online tonight be interesting to see what he says

Don't fall for the sob story that may come out. You have the moral high ground. Stay strong!!! Forget girls being made of sugar and spice and everything nice, we are made of steel - just remember we are here too.

Thanks

I sent Helen Harper who told you about the link for the IP address, his details from view message source off his email and she said he is in this country - he's supposed to be in Afghanistan

My daughter is ex-Bomb Disposal and i don't need to tell you what she said she would do to him, if she ever caught up with him!!!!!

Tell her there's another one she can do whatever to now

Kazza,

I also explained in your other thread--no matter what he says or does, there is absolutely no doubt that this is NOT an American soldier, but IS a scammer. You need to cut off contact with him now. Remaining in contact will only cause you more harm.

There is a link in my signature line with information for victims. I know that right now everything seems overwhelming, but please read that information as it will help.