leave request for a millitary man

I am still hurting...just had another fight with the man, I thought to be the love of my life. He saw me on FB and sent a friendly message claiming he is a U.S. military posted in Lagos, Nigeria. He saw that I am a member of eHarmony and posted a feedback on one of eH's topic. It was all roses for the first week until I mentioned my birthday in November and jokingly asked if he would like to be my date on my birthday. He said he can...and I only need to write to their office so he can be scheduled for a leave...which he said can be for as long as I want...and we agreed on 3 months. I wrote to this email add... [email protected] then after I sent it...I got notification that it was undelivered... my man said it was received... and that notification is for those unwanted senders who are not in the system. I got a reply and a Leave Request Form that I had to fill up, scan and email back. I thought that was it...but then they sent another email showing 2 pdf forms....one showed Leave Request Charges [Processing and Admin]...and the other one was the Money Back Guarantee form.

I asked my man about this and also emailed their office about this but was told that it was standard procedure. I advised them that I will be unable to send that amount and if I can have those waived so there won't be any need for reimbursement. I was replied with another option...just pay the Processing fee of $940 USD within 72 working hours. I looked for your website and found the info that only the military personnel himself and his immediate family can apply for his leave or transfer. I was devastated. I confronted my man about all this and he said about your article "She is solely talking from US perperctive not for does on UN peace keep missions in africa". I asked him to prove himself otherwise...asked him for his family's information in the U.S. but won't give me because he said that is classified information blah blah blah. He went to bed and we stopped without resolving the matter. He just promised he will have his Dad call me so I can talk to his Dad and his two boys.

What shall I do? I really fell for this man. It was all so good until they asked me for money. I am so devastated right now.

I'm sorry to have to be blunt, but there is absolutely no doubt whatsoever that you are dealing with an African scammer, not an American soldier. He is not the person in the photos, and has never even met the person in the photos. He simply stole them from the internet and is pretending to be that person.

His bizarre "explanation" about UN peacekeeping being different is as idiotic as it is false, but it is typical of a scammer. When you confront a scammer about his lies, he will only tell more lies. Why? Because if he admits the truth, he won't get any money from you. If he tells more lies and convinces you that he is real, then a few weeks or a few months from now, he will come up with more excuses to make you send money. He may pretend you are sending it to someone else, but in the end, it will actually be going to him.

US military policy is actually very simple when it comes to leave. Only a soldier can request leave for himself. His immediate family cannot even request leave for him! Leave is like paid vacation from your job--it is earned based on his work for the military, and he gets a certain amount of it. He cannot take more leave than he has earned, and he does not pay to get it. The army does not care who he is going to visit while he is on leave, and they don't require the people he will be visiting fill out any forms. If you are not legally married to or immediate family of a soldier, the army will not contact you for anything at all, as you cannot receive any military benefits anyway. Mail2army.com email addresses are free email addresses, just like yahoo and gmail, that have absolutely no connection to the real US military (or any other country's military.)

You need to cut off all contact with this thief immediately. Do not answer his emails, do not take his calls. Do follow the link for victims in my signature line and read that information. If you want to help others avoid being scammed, post his information--the name/email/phone numbers he is using, and the emails he sent you (and the ones from the fake military leave) --these are scripts he will use on other women too--even if he uses a different name.

JACK W -40
JUNEAU, AK
[email protected]

SCOTT K -53
HOUSTON,TX
[email protected]
Hi, i was talking to these two guys they say they are military and both had asked for money. They say they are overseas. i did not send any, and they both where on tagged, but got deleted. There are so many guys that say they are military, and lost there wifes or kids or both.I have a few more emails i will add when i find them. thanks for what you guys do in helping us out.

Hi, i have two more for you,they say they are military and where on Tagged.
Frank J -47
Loa Angeles.CA
[email protected]

Williams A -57
New York, NY
[email protected]

Welcome debbiew!

You certainly can't be scammed.
Thanks for sharing the email addresses. Do you have the texts the scammers are using? They will be yet more evidence for targeted ladies who are still doubting.

hellohello i had one like this to ages ago told me he was us army a ssg in lagos nigeria working at a nigerian army base to train them all untrue why would the us army sent men to train nigerian army get rid of him honey straight away delete al;l contact with him i know it will hurt cos i fell in love with my guy to but it was the pics i thought he was someone else it takes time otherwise he will keep mailing you talking on messenger and if you say to him your suspicious etc they tell more lies to win you over dont go there please walk away now becos they are good at telling lies to make you feel sorry for them your so much better than them think he isnt who he is in the pics he is a skinny black nigerian

^^There is nothing wrong with being a "skinny black Nigerian". Not all Nigerians are skinny. Not all scammers are Nigerian. Not all Nigerians are scammers.

All scammers are evil no matter where they originate from. Please do not post comments that are or could be racist.

I have been contacted by [email protected] I am on military Cupid he contacted me then started to email me promised marriage asked for phone connection he got his photos from flickr the soldier he is posing as is in us army reserve he is a real soldier I have found real soldier on facebook and made him aware of situation also contacted army reserves.if you are unsure about soldiers you are right do google image search they always have a photo they love to show off also broken English.

I am winding him up at the moment he gets pissed off then I write a load of bullshit he is getting desperate. Sorry name he is using robert becher ,Robert. Johnson.

Welcome Ruscrowe!

Well done - you are safe from scammers.

However, it's not wise to string scammers along. They are criminals and when they find out you played them, they might decide to retaliate, for instance using your email address for spamming.
Just drop him and leave him wondering what went wrong.

I have also come really close to being scammed by a military man from Afghanistan. Says his name is Sgt. Jayden Downs, [email protected] cell phone 419-684-0758. talked for about 3 weeks with escalating feelings for me. When he felt the time was right and I was "hooked" he came up with the vocational leave form he wanted me to fill out so I could pay for his leave. Wised up at that point and told him to take a hike. He said he was 43 and from Ashley, Ohio Widowed with 3 year old daughter. Watch out for him please!!!! He's really good with the romance!!!! He was on dating site OurTime.com

Welcome to ScamWarners pat6207. Congratulations on recognizing that this was a scam!

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