A Living Nightmare

One of the problems with written words is that they are open to interpretation, especially on an international forum, where what may seem harmless to one person is far from it to another.

Let's clarify a few things:

We strongly recommend that you cut contact with the scammers for several reasons:
1) If the victim stays in contact with the scammer, he/she runs a greater risk of being pulled back into the scam. Sadly, we see this all of the time.
2) If the victim has shared anything sensitive with the scammers, especially photos or video, an angry scammer can use that information to retaliate, causing even more harm to the victim. The more you play with a scammer, the more angry he will be and the more willing to spend his time retaliating.
3) Information you obtain is unlikely to hold up in a court of law, which means that is is unlikely to help get the scammer arrested or any money returned. So while you may learn more information (which may or may not be accurate) it is unlikely to lead to any positive action.

this isn't a case of they are innocent and have had their identities compromised , i did check this first

Unless you have actually seen them in person or on video, performing the transactions themselves, you can't know that with 100% certainty. Scammers use fake names and ID all the time. It doesn't require full identity theft--it could be as simple as a scammer using the ID of a roommate or a family member.

These are not innocent people, they have played an active part in taking my mothers money

They may be guilty parties, they may be innocent mules who have fallen for job scams or romance scams themselves. Check out the employment scams section of this site and you will see dozens of examples of people who thought they were receiving and forwarding money for legitimate reasons.

however i am talking about applying a little pressure on them, let them know that people are aware of what they are doing etc.

Threatening or harassing people is far more likely to get you into trouble than them, and frankly, if they are active participants in the crime, it is not likely to make any difference to them. It won't be the first time they have been confronted.

Whether you like it or not, if you want these people arrested, the police will have to be involved. The only other real option is to talk to an attorney if you think you have enough to pursue a civil case.