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by johnsonccr Wed Jul 04, 2012 3:36 pm
This particular person I found dangerous because he doesn't follow the typical patterns and I actually early on fell for his scam. That's what got me to recongizing the others. Unfortunately I am thousands of dollars in the hole to this person who is probably somewhere laughing it up. His email is [email protected]. His pattern is:

IM - contrary to other scammers he does not use IM at all
Leaving on a trip right away - we made arrangements to meet then he had to go to Idaho, not Africa. He even had a picture. But then he agonized about some workers in Africa that eventually he said he had to go check on them.
Requests for funds - he never asked me for money right away. He actually wanted a care package that was pretty normal. Cookies, disposable razors, books, etc. Normal stuff.
Shipping knowledge - he had no knowledge theoretically of how to ship to Ghana. His instructions were either non existent or wrong. That meant to me that he didn't know contrary to others who knew exactly how the scheme would work.
Accent - his accent was pretty close to whom he said he was. He was clever enough to say he was originally from new Zealand wth Malawi background. I even compared his voice to recordings of Malawi and it matched pretty close.
A friend to verify for him - yes, this ws pretty typical. He had a friend to verify for him.
Requests for equipment - at first the request for equipment was subtle enough and came late enough that I had a "relationship" with this person and trusted him. It was small at first and he was so hestitant to ask and not mad when I said no. Others get mad right away and try to bully you. He didn't.
Sex - Most scammers stay away from sex, especially on the phone. There are exceptions but it's usually in IM. We'll just say he was hands on.
Information on where he was - he had such detailed information about where he was, times of day, happenings in Africa, etc. Most won't do that, but he did. But I should have been tipped off when promised pictures didn't come, which is very typical.
Information on himself - most scammers will not give you any information on themselves. If you ask them they change the subject or are vague. Not Aaron, he had specifics about injuries, background, everything.
Information on his supposed home in Baltimore - he had his neighborhood name, restaurants in Baltimore, etc. Most will not
Sending gifts - this isn't unusual behavior for the scammers but I had not reason to doubt it.
Breaking dates - there was one date he was supposed to fly back and I was to meet him. But I never heard back on when he was coming back and he didn't and his excuse was he was in the hospital.

So obviously he worked really hard to know what patterns he had to avoid, he had information ready, and I consider that really dangerous. Yes, I hould have known better - I always thought I was smart. But everything he said made sense.

Then came the packages.
Another common scam is to send packages of goods to your houe and have you mail them. I didn't get suspicious until the second package came unannounced and had a name that wasn't his or mine on it and he coudln't tell me the name when i asked him.
by then he was supposedly returning to Baltimore in a couple of days so I said I would hold that package for him for when he returned. Of course, that was a few days ago and he has disappeared.

I chalk it up I guess to a very expensive lesson learned. I will try to be more careful and not let it make me cynical. I have alwasy tried to help my friends, I just need to be sure who my friends are. What scares me is that the typical signs weren't there until later. So you can't rely on those anymore.
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by sstew10 Sun Aug 26, 2012 10:41 pm
I have also fell victim to Aaron James. I could have written the story I found about him except I am in Uah. I would like to talk to anyone who is a victim also.

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by jafra Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:49 pm
I also fell for the charming Aaron James. We mainly communicated via I/M which is different than your experience. Like the other post, I am in Utah. Aaron never asked me for money but his friend did claiming it was for medical treatment that Aaron needed. He sent me flowers and Christmas gifts. I hope you other ladies didn't pay for those things. I knew after a few months that he was not coming "home" but I did continue to talk to him because he was very nice and I did enjoy his conversation. Several months ago when I refused to send money when the friend asked me too, I never heard from Aaron again.
by sstew10 Thu Nov 01, 2012 8:40 am
I wonder how many other people he was playing besides the 3 of us. I actually heard from him about a month ago thru IM. I was shocked. I was trying to be decent to see if I could get anything out of him that might help us.

Aaron....How are you?
Me...Not good. How are you?
Aaron...I am not good either
Me...How come?
Aaron...I really can't say
Me...Well my life is screwed up bad.

And that was the end of the conversation. I am glad you didn't get scammed out of money like the 2 of us did. Sure wish we could get him somehow. Did you meet him on Chemistry.com? That is where the 2 of us met him.
by jafra Thu Nov 01, 2012 10:13 pm
I met him on match.com. I doubt he will contact me again since I think he knows I'm on to him. Hang in there.
by sstew10 Thu Nov 01, 2012 11:12 pm
We both met him on chemistry.com. I look back and see signs now but I fell for him hard and was unfortunately scammed out of alot. I have definately learned now. I am glad you posted. I would really like to know how many of us there really were LOL
by jafra Thu Nov 01, 2012 11:24 pm
Thank you for posting your experience. There were a lot of similarities with mine. I did send him care packages also. I had my suspicions and this confirmed them.
by sstew10 Thu Nov 01, 2012 11:29 pm
I was thankful for the one who posted about her experience. I could have told her story word for word except she was in Baltimire and I was in Utah. He did IM me alot to but we mostly texted on phones that of course I sent him. Did he say he lived in Bountiful by the temple?
by jafra Thu Nov 01, 2012 11:32 pm
He said he lived in Centerville.

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