Bear Share

Bear Share is a great program for downloading music. However they also have an instant message and messaging tool that you can use. I have been on there for less than a week and have already had about twelve (12) different scammers try to work there "trade".
You will have some girl contact you out of the blue, usually with a nice picture, and run through all the things they cover on this site. Single, never married, looking for a long term relationship... Blah, blah, blah.
What I have noticed is that all of them, without fail, want you to first meet them on Yahoo messenger. Just a guess, but I think it is because you can not copy and paste things off of Bear Share but you can off of Yahoo. And they always want your cell phone number so they can text you. Big question: We are in a chat right now, why would you want to text me?
This is what I do to confirm that it is a scam: A reverse ip address search. You get them to email you something. DO NOT OPEN THE EMAIL. Then go to the properties tab of the email they sent. You will see their ip address. Do a search on that ip address. You can do that at this site: http://ipaddress.com/reverse_ip/

So if they are claiming to be in Kansas, and the ip address pops up in Nigeria... I don't think we are in Kansas anymore Toto.
What to do from here, I have not decided. I am open to suggestions. Sadly, I have not found a way to contact and inform Bear Share.

Do you know what "toto" means in Nigeria?

Could you post some emails of this scam? Often potential victims google phrases in the email to see if it pops up on any anti-scam sites. Include the headers.

Here is the only one I still had. As I said, I do not open them for fear of a tracking virus.

Hello [ NAME WITHHELD ]


I am an adventurous, risk-taker that's chosen to live an uncommon life. I love great food, wine, friends, conversation. Travel to exotic places. Exploration. Sensual, sensitive, intuitive. Hopelessly romantic. I love margaritas and tex-mex at one of 'Florida great family-owned restaurants as well as formal dinners at trendy places. I believe it's more about who you're with than what you are doing. I am a successful entrepreneur and businesswoman have a comfortable lifestyle. I am an atypical person and am probably looking for an atypical partner. I believe life is short. Have few regrets. I am pretty transparent and am looking for someone who is also unpretentious. I tend to connect better with older people. My best friend is almost ten years older. I believe I have another lifetime in front of me and I would like to meet someone with whom I connect physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually to share it with. Someone I
can get very, very close to. Someone to share a bond and trust with. Someone I can be silly with. Someone I can play with. I bring out the little girl in me and you the little boy in you. I am not perfect, but I will be perfect for you and you will be perfect for me. I know true love, just like in the movies, exists. One of my favorite quotes about relationships..."You and your beloved are walking a path never walked in exactly the same way by anyone else who has ever lived. You do not take a breath, think a thought, have a wisp of feeling that existed before, and the intimacy you build together will never be known again..
About Who i am looking for...
You are smart, pretty, sexy, sensual, adventurous, curious, honest, authentic, committed, tenacious, open, passionate. You have a high level of self awareness
and
you place importance on being consistent inside and out. You are living life to experience joy, not to avoid pain. You're looking for someone with whom you can openly share your desires, secrets, fears, fantasies and know you will be loved and accepted. You take care of your body because you want to not because you want to stay in shape to "catch" a woman.
You're comfortable dressing up for a social event when they come around, but you're probably in your element in jeans and a t-shirt. Although you are beautiful, I am looking for a partner, a soulmate, not a "trophy".. You accept the reality that men and women are
different. You're strong but you relish the softness of your femininity. When you are comfortable and feel safe with a woman, you enjoy your sensuality. You know honesty is vital in a relationship and you are looking for someone who knows that too How was your day going so far?....Mine was lonely as usual,...its good to hear fromyou...You make me flattered after reading the mail you sent to me. i think this is best way of us communicating .... i ve been through your profile and am very impresssed.and i must tell you you got lovely face in the pics .. i will love you to tell me more about what you are looking for in a woman ok.... But have you ever think of getting married with kids you adore so much and a Wife you love whole heartedly? ............then, you think you have a wonderful reason to thank God for?............well, this is a decision i made at this time of my live.......... to settle down and start a new life despite all the distress......... i really hope i have a shoulder to lean on........maybe yours will be a good one.

When I did the reverse ip search, it turned up in Nigeria.
This is all the info I could get so far on this person.

Screen Name: catray35
Site: Bear Share
Yahoo Act S Name: catray35
Real Name: Catherine Raybarn (Spelling???)
DOB:
Stated Location: Walla Walla, Washington
Real Location: Nigeria
Phone#:
Email: [email protected]
ip Addres: 98.136.217.80


Sorry, but I do not know what you mean by a header.
So what does Toto mean? I was referring to The Wizard of Oz.

Hi B. An e-mail has two parts. One being the header which shows the address of the sender, how many hops the message had, date and time sent and (usually)the geographical location of the sender. Normally they are out of view and need to be expanded to see it. And the main message body which is what people normally see that contains the main email message. Not sure which email programme you run and this https://support.appriver.com/KB/a38/how ... email.aspx is a good guide to view the headers. Then it's simply copy/ paste the header onto the thread here. I know the headers look confusing but they contain a wealth of info.

A toto is a part of the body that I don't have. When scammers get mad, they spout off insults in Nigerian Pidgin or Yoruba or Igbo, and that word comes up fairly often in their insults.