Is this a Army Scam

I met a guy on Facebook and gave him my email address. We have been talking for three weeks and he is already saying he is madly in love with me. I told him he could not be because we don't even know each other. Then he hit me with requesting for him a leave to come home so we can be married. I don't believe that then he said that I have to pay for the ticket and he will give me the money back. Now I asked for a letter and he said he can't send one and his information doesn't add up. He gave me this email address to write for the request I wonder if it is real. I do like him a little but I just can't believe he would scam me and why. To come to the states or just to get money. I talk to him on the internet everyday around the same time. I think he knows I know he is trying to play me. And I also kind of think he is looking for someone else to provide what he wants. I think he looked at my profile and just went from there. I don't want to believe this is a scam but it really sounds like one. He did say if I don't want to do it then I don't have to but I just believe he said that. I am just playing him along but I like him. I am going to ask him some of those questions that this website suggested. Do anyone know the name Ralph Borja or this website [email protected]. Please help me.

It's a standard romance scam involving a fake soldier. The email address tells me that for certain.

The man in contact with you is not an American soldier. He is an African scammer, who is after cash, plain and simple. The email address [email protected] is not affiliated with the US military in any way. It is a fake email address created by the scammer that he wants you to think is a real military address, as it will be used to demand phony fees from you, which you will be asked to send by Western Union.

Because he knows you are suspicious, he may back off for bit, but once he thinks you are believing his lies, he will then come up with more reasons you need to send money.

The best thing you can do for yourself is cut off all contact with this scammer. Do not keep stringing him along--he knows your real information, and you do not need him trying to cause trouble for you because he is angry at you.

It would also help to alert other women he is trying to scam (and it is certain he is trying to scam others) if you can post the name and email address he is using, and post the first few emails he sent to you. Those emails are likely scripts that he is using on other women he is trying to scam.

Ralph Borja <[email protected]> View Contact



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I wish I didn't have to miss you. If only you could be with me always. I know I could never be any happier. But then again, I know that the day will come when I will be able to spend my every waking moment with you. I even miss you when I am sleeping!

I love you, babe. You are my only love, and I thank you for be so kind with my heart. Hopefully, soon I won't have to hate missing you.

Yours Forever

Ralph Borja

That is his first email he sent me and his email address. I should of knew he was fake especially when he stated he loved me after two weeks. God it did feel good when he talked to me but I will cut all ties to him.

Split from 'US army CID view on romance scams ' in N&A and merged with this thread to keep everything together - Michael

hi i have met a guy that says he is a sgt. in Kabul we have been chatting for about 3 months now and he ask me for money so i can pay him the request for leave, but for all that i was reading in this site i can imagine he is a scammer, cos he told me the same story that he is a widowed, one daughter in UK and that he loves me more than anything in this world, and yes i have trusted him so many things that i sent him money in December so he could be able to call me, but now with this about the request and all that i have searched i think he is really a scammer, he gave me this email to ask for his request [email protected] and when i received the mail i just see the form to fake to be truth so is when i started to search and i found this site, help me please, i can send u the all the mails with lovely words that i think now that they are copy from a poetry book. And all that he still saying me is to trust him but i have my doubts now. this is his email
[email protected]. THANKS.

You are right to have doubts. I'm sorry to have to tell you that you have been scammed. Although I'm sorry you have lost some money, I'm glad you learned the truth before losing an even larger amount of money.

He is a scammer, plain and simple. He is not an American soldier--he is not even American, he is African. He just took pictures of a real American soldier, and claims that he is the person in the photos.

This address alone: [email protected] is proof he is a scammer. The US military does not use gmail for its business!

The form is fake, the whole policy is fake. The US military doesn't allow people from outside the military to request leave for soldiers. As soon as a "soldier" you are in contact with tells you to make a request (of any kind) to the military, it is an absolute certainty that you are dealing with a scammer.

You can copy and paste his emails here (we will move him to his own topic), or you can forward them to the address in my signature line if you would like.


You are also right in thinking that he has copied poetry--many of these scammers go to websites like lovingyou.com and poemslovers.com and copy romantic poetry. If you take some lines of the poems or the really pretty love letters he sent you, and you google them, you will likely find they are published on a romance site and have been used by other scammers.

I'm sorry to have to tell you rosyma, but your 'boyfriend' is an African scammer - not an American GI.

If he's asked you for money to obtain leave there is no doubt. It doesn't matter what more he says.

No American serviceman can obtain leave by making a payment, and leave is free if you are entitled to it. The only people who tell this lie are scammers to steal money from victims and any relationship that depends on you spending money on a partner you have never met is a bad idea, especially when he's a scammer. He is not the man of yur dreams and never will be. Your happiness will only last as long as you keep paying him money, but you'll never meet him, even if you pay his air fare and it's not unknown for scammers to go that far.

He'll only stop when you realise the truth, or your money runs out. That's the reality I'm sorry to say.

hi again here is one of the letters i have been receiving from this sgt. that i don´t trust but i love his mail letters that i think that are not real just copied from a site. I just talk to him today he seems to be so in love with me that he only send me love emails and when i just start telling him that he has so many secrets he started to say that he really loved me and he says that i need to trust in him, i already told him that i will not give my money away, no more and he still telling me that he will meet me soon...but i know is not going to happen that, i wanna know how i trace the ip address of this guy i wanna know from where he is sending me his mails. thanks.

Dear Rosa

In life, we receive a wonderful opportunity, and that is to love. Love comes in many forms. You love people in different ways and for different reasons, depending upon how they have touched your life. Love is a very powerful word and can describe a multitude of feelings, but its main context carries the same meaning.

I want to tell you that the love I have for you is undying. It is a love that is strong and enduring and will stand the test of time. I truly feel blessed that you have become a part of my life and I cannot wait for the day that we can join our lives together. I want to lie next to you at night and fall asleep in your arms, only to wake to your beautiful smile. I want to share in your joys and sorrows. I want to be your everything. You are everything to me.

You are everything I do. You see and bring out the best in me. You are the one I want to share everything with - my thoughts, hopes and dreams. Thinking of you makes my heart feel full. You are such a source of inspiration for me. I will forever be indebted to you for all you have brought to my life. So, to repay you, I promise you my heart and all the love in it for the rest of my life....Rosa my love.......HAPPY VAL

Love always,

Paul cares



again thanks for your help.

here is another love mail-letter. check it out. i wish he would it be for real.
My Sweet Rosa,

When I look back on how we met and I see where we are now, I can only believe that we were destined to be together. We've both been through some challenging times in our lives, and there is no doubt that our past experiences have partly shaped who we are today. What I have come to realize, though, is that I am learning a little more every day to appreciate what I have found in you.

You have inspired me in more ways than I could have ever imagined. You have shown me the glory of being loved and defined the meaning of a soul mate. I can't tell you how blessed I feel to have found you, to be in love with you, and above all to share my life with you. You are are all i have in my life , lover, and my angel." Thank you for being in my life. You were worth the wait. I love you.

Love Always,

Paul

This appeares to the be the same person who scammed me out of $8000AU! even down to the "needing money to apply for leave" and "being a widowed person with the child in the UK!".
the person who scammed me was also claiming to be in Afghanistan and claimed to be a capt in us army.

Have a read of my topic and you will see glaring similarities

My bank is still working on trying to retrieve some of my funds and a well known newspaper did an article on what happened to me last week.

These "humans"(if you can call them that) do not give a damn and they suck you in.

The one that scammed me told me the same crap you are being told( need money to apply for leave, need money so "I can come and be your life long partner " etc etc)!

It's possible it's the same scammer, but it is equally possible that it is a different scammer. Many different scammers follow that exact same scenario.

When scammers discover a format works, they will use it again and again. They will share that format with their gangs (many scammers do work together), and the format will spread further. Other scammers who learn that the format works will copy/steal the format. If a format is successful, it is not long before dozens or even hundreds of scammers are following the same general format.

Some elements are carried across different formats, too. For example, if you look through hundreds of scammers' stories, you will find that over 2/3 of romance scammers pretend to be a single father of one child. This was true even before the "American soldier" variant was introduced. Why? Because scammers learned that pretending to be devoted fathers makes their characters look more responsible and caring to their target audience, and of course, they can always use the child as a reason to request money down the road. On the other hand, regardless of the format, if they are playing females, 3/4 of the scammers will be under 35 and never married, with no children. That is because they know they are more likely to get money from their male victims if they look young, innocent, and sexy.

If a scammer is running a military scam, the majority of money requests will be for leave, telephone contact, or both (Often they will start with a request for money or a phone so they can talk to their victim, and then they will proceed to the standard leave request after that).

The fact that scammers do follow the same formats is both bad and good. It is bad because it does make it more difficult to know whether the same scammer is behind different scams, in the few cases where an investigation does occur. It is good, though, because as soon as someone starts heading down the same path, you can know for certain he is a scammer--and when you become more familiar with these scammers, you can identify red flags in the beginning, before you waste a lot of time.

Hi Rosyma,

I have a "us solider" named Spc. Christopher Graham and he sent me the same Email. Worded the Exactly7 the same way. All I can say is be careful. And be very weary of what people send to you and say to you.

here is another love mail-letter. check it out. i wish he would it be for real.
My Sweet Rosa,

When I look back on how we met and I see where we are now, I can only believe that we were destined to be together. We've both been through some challenging times in our lives, and there is no doubt that our past experiences have partly shaped who we are today. What I have come to realize, though, is that I am learning a little more every day to appreciate what I have found in you.

You have inspired me in more ways than I could have ever imagined. You have shown me the glory of being loved and defined the meaning of a soul mate. I can't tell you how blessed I feel to have found you, to be in love with you, and above all to share my life with you. You are are all i have in my life , lover, and my angel." Thank you for being in my life. You were worth the wait. I love you.

Love Always,

Paul

Hi! vampire........thanks for your advice now i know that there are alot of bad people in the internet he wasn´t the first one, i have already met some guys that they aren´t who they said,..all scammers are just evils...and yes they use the same letter or situations to scam.....thanks.

you are welcome. I am working with cyber crime unit here in tennessee. I volunteer with them to help to stop this kind of thing from happening.