Romance Scam - Help Needed.

Split from the Welcome Thread - Michelle

Hi Ralph,

I just do not know how to start. He is still my friend on 3 social networking sites and I am afraid someone will link me to him. I would like to remain anonymous and discreet.

My case can be categorized under Romance Scam. I fall from their usual modus: he comes from a bad break up, he made me fall with his sweet lines, in less than two weeks he proposed, saying I am her Ms Right. He told me he is an employee of a mining company from California.Then he went to Africa for a company project on site, after the project he promised to come over and meet me. Along the way he asked for additional money for plane ticket. While hes on his way to the airport he got to an accident which delays the trip. He claimed to be confined in a hospital for a month and can not go back to states because he lacks money. He continued asking for help. When the money was settled, he did not get back to me anymore.

His email's IP was also bogus, it says the email is from New York while he told me he is still in Africa.

Then I finally realized I am scammed and started to do research and found this site. I am learning now, just so unfortunate that its too late when I found out. I am mending my broken heart and hoping to soon forget everything.

I would like to post his pictures, name and full details about everything, but I am not comfortable doing it myself.

How to get started please? I would like to help others not to fall to this guy's trick EVER!

Hi Piper

I will send you a PM, I can put it together for you

Thank you. I will make sure to reply.

I am currently in communication with his current victim, I want to warn her, but how?

The problem is ThePiper that you have an understandable desire to get even with the person who scammed you. I can understand that and don't say you're wrong to feel that way. The problem is that this scammer can disappear in a trice and resurface under a whole new identity or set of identities. So you can't put your emotional recovery down to achieving some damage to this particular scammer.

No harm in trying to help another person, but tread carefully as you undoubtedly feel raw, and in a way you can easily be seen as a competitor to the other victim. Romance scammers weave a nasty web and untangling it can be messy and unpleasant.

Some warners also bait scammers, as I do, which is easy as there is no emotional involvement at any stage and it takes a lot of work to ever be able to obtain the scammer's real identity. In some ways it's easier just to consider that the person never existed from your point of view.

Welcome, thePiper.

If you send the information to Ralph, and he posts a profile, I would say that the best thing you can do as far as his current victim goes is direct her here to where his profile is posted.